Yes I agree with your latter statement but come on when one says that women are pushed to shave to look like a little kid to be more attractive to men it sounds like we're calling them pedophiles at heart, does it not?
re: pubic trimming- ok this might be TMI so let me try and phrase this veeeeeery carefully, for women who have a lot (*raises hand*) it's like trimming the hair on your head. Take the extra length and cut it.
i think we have sort of an odd situation where little girls want to dress like adults and wear make up and such and teens and young adults feel like something is wrong with them when their body starts changing and they gain a bit of weight, grow in their hips and chest etc. its supposed to happen... but it is banged into your head that its wrong. i imagine that just as the girls and women in our culture are told that they need these things to become this ideal woman boys and men are told that it is what they should want in a woman. the funny thing is that if you take a look at anything really marketed towards men the women in the advertisements usually have butts and boobs.
sort of on topic, have you seen transformers? its a good example of what i am trying to say i loved the movie but it was a sexist car wreck.