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post #321 of 416
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Originally Posted by rightkindofme View Post
If I don't keep my pubic hair very short I have constant matting problems all the time, not just during my period. As my friend once tactfully (*cough*) described herself, some of us are very "juicy". By the end of a day with much physical activity I have a solid stiff chunk of pubic hair that I can't even wash well without yanking out a bunch of hairs. It sucks. I don't shave daily because then I get lots of ingrown hairs, but I do it every so often so that the hairs stay fairly short. I've tried to just trim and then I cut myself because I'm special.


this is me. just my regular discharge will get clumped up and it dries very quickly, by time I go to the bathroom I had this har dry clump that rips the hair out when you try to remove it (and sorry, but leaving it there just aint an option for me!) I support I can wash every time I go to the bathroom - but why when I can just trim. trim once a week or sit in the bath every time I go to the bathroom... seemed an easy choice given my situation.

and my pubic hair covers my pubis and my labia entirely and also the insides of my legs.
post #322 of 416
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Originally Posted by KristaDJ View Post
Wow, you're seriously going to try to turn this into a debate of someone's spiritual beliefs? :
She mentioned that she wants her daughter to not feel like a sex object or what have you...that, instead, she was created in the "image of God". The OP is the one who brought this up, not me. It sounds like there's wires getting crossed here, and I'd like to understand the logic of it (if there is any). What does God have to do or not to do with being a sex object? What does this have to do with shaving or not shaving?
post #323 of 416
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Originally Posted by MusicianDad View Post
The earliest razor I could locate in a short span of time was from 2000BC and made from bronze.

I posted this up thread, but I think it got lost in all the TMI

History of shaving - http://www.quikshave.com/timeline.htm
post #324 of 416
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Originally Posted by 1littlebit View Post
but if you can't get soap and water how do you get razors? i mean i understand the reasons i just don't understand how razors would be more accessible then soap and water.
Hair removal isn't only shaving, either. I know a lot of people go all : over the notion of waxing or such, but methods of pulling hairs out en mass have long been popular too.

My religion specifically advocates removing pubic and underarm hair at least once a month or so, for hygiene purposes and for attractiveness to one's spouse. Since the recommendation applies evenly to men and women it's kind of hard to make a case for it being about men wanting women to look prepubescent. I have no idea what they were using to shave back in the day in the Arabian desert, but underarm hair specifically was just being plucked.
post #325 of 416
i like that your religion specifies something like that.. and for both men and women religions have been around a long time.. apparently they thought it was important enough to right down and make a rule. i wonder why they thought it was so important? i mean hygiene i get.. but the other part too.
post #326 of 416
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Originally Posted by Liquesce View Post
My religion specifically advocates removing pubic and underarm hair at least once a month or so, for hygiene purposes and for attractiveness to one's spouse. Since the recommendation applies evenly to men and women it's kind of hard to make a case for it being about men wanting women to look prepubescent. I have no idea what they were using to shave back in the day in the Arabian desert, but underarm hair specifically was just being plucked.

The things I learn on MDC. . .
post #327 of 416
: isn't that the truth... i swear i learn more here in a month then i ever did in school.
post #328 of 416
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Originally Posted by eclipse View Post
I posted this up thread, but I think it got lost in all the TMI

History of shaving - http://www.quikshave.com/timeline.htm
Probably did. Thanks for pointing it out though.
post #329 of 416
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Originally Posted by 1littlebit View Post
i like that your religion specifies something like that.. and for both men and women religions have been around a long time.. apparently they thought it was important enough to right down and make a rule. i wonder why they thought it was so important? i mean hygiene i get.. but the other part too.
Well... if you can't find anything through all the hair, then how are you going to have any fun?
post #330 of 416
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Originally Posted by 1littlebit View Post
i like that your religion specifies something like that.. and for both men and women
My mom likes it too, mostly because she thinks armpit hair on men is seriously squicky. Any belief system that advises men to get rid of it is cool with her.
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thread title : "super hairy DH are there any religions that mandate the removal of body hair any more than an inch long?"
post #332 of 416
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Originally Posted by MusicianDad View Post
Well... if you can't find anything through all the hair, then how are you going to have any fun?
post #333 of 416
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Originally Posted by Liquesce View Post
My mom likes it too, mostly because she thinks armpit hair on men is seriously squicky. Any belief system that advises men to get rid of it is cool with her.
I tend to think armpit hair on anyone is pretty squicky. And I have never heard the word "squick" in any form before coming to MDC.
post #334 of 416
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And I have never heard the word "squick" in any form before coming to MDC.
Me neither. I wonder if it's a combination of squishy and icky... and wonder how hair is squishy.
post #335 of 416
The clumps are squishy maybe?
post #336 of 416
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Originally Posted by MusicianDad View Post
The clumps are squishy maybe?


I was thinking of armpit hair.
post #337 of 416
Then I have no clue, my armpit hair is invisible. Like I said it squicks me out.
post #338 of 416
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Originally Posted by 1littlebit View Post
continuing with the TMI theme...big time TMI btw




um yeah i am with mags on the clump thing. i have the same problem. i have a friend with almost now pubic hair... i wish i were that lucky. i have a lot ... as in per square inch and surface area covered. it sort of goes down onto my inner thighs (hence the bathing suit problem) and right up to my c section scar and way far back over my ermm yeah ok wow awkward. and um its not just on the outside... o god i can't believe i am typing this. i always wondered if i am the only one who has pubic hair on the underside of my labia not just the outside.
Okay...I didn't know there was such a thing as pubic hair ONLY growing on the top portion of the labia....that's....that's just so strange or me to hear, that it would stop before it got to the "undercarriage" region!! I have it on top and wrapping around to the "underneath" part...I thought that was how it was supposed to be!

I've never had these clumping issues you other ladies speak of...sure, like maybe kind of stuck in the hair there...but not actually like, big clumps!

Oh man....ask me if I ever thought I'd type anything like this on the internet....
post #339 of 416
My response to all this is: so what!

People have tattooed, pierced, painted, altered their bodies throughout history. From prehistoric times to present day. People in Africa celebrate body art and alterations because it is a recognition of fertility and sexuality. Why is this wrong? Why do we encourage asexuality? I'm still trying to wrap my head around the idea of shaving is something propagated by T.V.? TV is a recent thing and suddenly it's responsible for all things anti-women? It is a commercial medium and it reaches a lot of people...but it is hardly the "reason." It is a medium by which society's standards are transmitted. Don't blame T.V....blame the society.

I'm a feminist and if I want to alter my body for reasons specific to my own ideals...then I'm going to do it...and I encourage DD to the same. I shave and no man has domination over me. I pierce my ears and I paint my nails. Am I doing it for a man? NOT! I do it because I love art and I think that each woman is an art unto herself. I do it because it makes me feel good about myself. So what if it happens to please men? Does that cancel its significance? If a man doesn't like what I do...then bollucks on him. I'll do what I want to do...even if I get criticized from women for "trying to please the man." I'm tired of trying to live up to everyone's standards...including the women who say I shouldn't pander to men. What do you know? You don't know anything about my intentions or DD's intentions.

People are afraid of females like Frida Kahlo because she wasn't afraid to express herself through her own body. I'm not going to be "grossed out" if DD decides to express herself through traditional or avant garde ways. I'm not going to set standards based on what I think is right. My standards could always be limiting.
post #340 of 416
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Originally Posted by Doodlebugsmom View Post
Same here. When dd has asked me about shaving, I tell her that some women do it and some don't. I've also told her that it's her decision to make whether or not to shave when she's older.
This is what my mom told me when I was in junior high. She also suggested I notice what the other girls/women around me were doing and think about what I wanted to do.

I shaved very rarely until I was an adult. The first time I shaved my armpits was for my wedding, and only because the dress was off-the shoulders and exposed that area. I'm also blessed with a husband that will let me do what I like with my body, hairy or not, made up or not. He's more likely to complain if I've put on too much makeup than too little :

But I also practice a martial art, that includes discussion of pressure points. We had a workshop showing pressure points on our legs, which meant pulling our uniform pants up, and I felt uncomfortable with my unshaved legs among these shaved women. So now I shave legs and armpits, the parts that might be exposed in public, generally. I have no interest, desire, or reason to shave my privates.
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