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July Dating Thread: Looking for Fireworks!!

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I was hoping I would get to start the July thread, and put something about fireworks in the title.

God, my life is lame, that I had thought about that ahead of time!

I'm still exchaning emails with Localguy, who I went on a hike/walk in the park with a few weeks ago, and with the Russian. Can't remember if I updated that saga...he said something that hit my 'ick' button, and I shut it down for a while, but he apologized and came back with some intelligent questions, the kind of converstaion that gets me thinking, so I've told him I'm up for a lengthy email exhange period, and then we'll see.

Socrates is out, never wrote back to me.

I'm working on figuring a reasonable way to meet more people, and potential men, in real life.
post #2 of 225
I'm going on a second day with YogaGuy tomorrow night. My roomies agreed to keep an ear out for my little ones after I put them down to bed, so it will be a later dinner. We both love Indian food, so we are going to a local Indian restaurant. I'm looking forward to it. Now, I just have to remember that guys try to kiss you at the end of the date and to not ruin it by forgetting and giving a hug...which turns into an awkward mess
post #3 of 225
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Originally Posted by sugarmoon View Post

I'm working on figuring a reasonable way to meet more people, and potential men, in real life.
Forget socrates. Go hang out with localguy.

And please let me know when you figure out a great way to meet people in real life.
post #4 of 225
I have fireworks to share! :

My best friend from the Marine Corps and I just found each other again through FB; he's coming to see me in September. We have been talking on the phone for literally HOURS at a time; we were on the phone until 3AM this morning! We have discussed EVERYTHING and things are turning to a romantic nature; he's the guy I probably should have married if we both weren't so young when we met.

It's crazy and irrational and too fast but we've already discussed marriage and more children and everything. He's wicked smart and a computer geek, which is of course so hot to me. He knows about DS and is cool with being a step-dad; he's great with kids.

Anyway, we're trying not to take things too fast but we're both so excited just to be talking to one another again and I wanted to share it with my Internet Peeps! I'm terrified and exhilarated and scared and giddy and...well, you get the idea! The butterflies have been flapping away today. :

Minxie
post #5 of 225
I'm a dating loser. And it's getting very old. I just have no exposure to single men anywhere near my age/stage. Online, not much luck. I'm finding a lot of men who don't want women with children.

Sigh.
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i'm still figuring out the ins and outs of online dating. so far i've had four duds and feel pretty lame about it. this week i've got some activities lined up with the potential to meet really great guys, so that should be better. irl is simpler than online, it seems.

anyways, wanna help me fix up my pof profile? this is what i've written:

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i do yoga while listening to the beastie boys.
i'm infatuated with summer.
i like walking around looking at houses and trees or going out for some live music.
a good pad thai makes my knees weak.
i read, garden, take pictures, and go drink really good coffee/ wine/ whatever.
i'm somewhat of a hippy, somewhat of a punk, leftwards leaning, lightheartedly feminist and not religious at all. sound good?
i'm a single parent, half-time, but i'm not looking for a daddy for my kids. they have a perfectly good dad.
affection and connection without drama appeals to me.
if you're secure, funny, friendly and smart, drop me a line. if you can make me laugh you'll get a response. if you make me think you'll get a response. if you do both you'll get my number.
if you like xkcd, you might like me. if you type 'lol' or in all caps i probably won't like you.
help a mama out, won't you?
post #7 of 225
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Originally Posted by josybear View Post
i'm still figuring out the ins and outs of online dating. so far i've had four duds and feel pretty lame about it. this week i've got some activities lined up with the potential to meet really great guys, so that should be better. irl is simpler than online, it seems.

anyways, wanna help me fix up my pof profile? this is what i've written:



help a mama out, won't you?
I LOVE your profile. I'd write you Its much better than my lame, uncreative one.
post #8 of 225
i didn't even realize it was july today. shows how in touch with the real world i am.

i have now officially gone the longest without dancing that i've ever gone, since the first time i danced. i go between total ambivalence and frustration at this fact. i do know that if i wanted to dance, i could def dance. i'm so much more picky about partners now that i have dd, which is awesome!

the more i think about it, the more i realize that i don't want to do the online thing. i would much prefer to meet real humans doing real activities. so i go do things that i like to do in the hopes that eventually someone worth my time will notice me loving to do something that they also love to do, and want to know me. i think that's the extent of the effort that i'm willing to expend at the moment. i just want someone fabulous to come and sweep me off my feet, and i don't want to have to do any of the work

so in the meantime, i'm continuing my status as lurker here and on fb, and hopefully some of the fantastic dating ju-ju that you ladies are throwing out there will rub off on me and make me want to get back out there! why should he have all the fun!!
post #9 of 225
Josybear, I love your profile!

I'm toying with the idea of messaging a guy on OKCupid who's caught my interest. He's a bit older than I'd normally go for (42), and probably WAY out of my league, so it's hard for me to overcome my natural shyness. But I do so love a man with a big gun...(He's Army.)

I did go out tonight. All by myself. Rob has the girls tonight, so I went to PF Chang's. I don't have an issue with going out to dinner alone, but I sure did get a weird look from the hostess. I'm home now & listening to Cake, & I'm going to go check out that guy's profile again soon...
post #10 of 225
i took butterflymom's advice and messaged a couple of guys that caught my eye, in spite of my preference for letting the guys do the pursuing. i just came in the door and there's a very nice response from a goodlooking single dad. he seems much more mature than the guys i've interacted with so far. it doesn't really matter if this particular person turns into anything, i'm just feeling satisfied that contacting guys first is a good way to get the ball rolling.
post #11 of 225
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Originally Posted by yoginisarah View Post
I LOVE your profile. I'd write you Its much better than my lame, uncreative one.
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My profile is pretty vague and I don't mention my dd but I do like how you approached it.

I will post my profile on the FB group tomorrow so you can see it....
post #12 of 225
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Originally Posted by josybear View Post
i'm just feeling satisfied that contacting guys first is a good way to get the ball rolling.


I like the profile a lot.


Had drinks with Clark Kent last night, and am going out with him tonight. Don't know what. Don't know what's up with him. : I'm gonna wait and see what happens.
post #13 of 225
For online profiles my way to go about it was first to write a part about myself - not so much what I liked only but more about my type of person - something about being "personal and passionate" then a bit about how I envisioned a relationship - one where both are equals, a house with open doors and coffee ready and more kids eventually.

Then I went on to write about the guy I was looking for.

I made sure to be very specifik about myself so I wouldnt get the guys who werent interested in women with kids or a real relationship.

I then contacted potential men - most of them I didnt even hear from (probably because they weren't much into a woman with 3 kids) but a few wrote back. Some good responses. Some not so good. My BF though responded with a very short letter saying something like:

"I read through your profile and it made me laugh. You sure can write about yourself and your expectations. But I wont make it so easy for you. So one question. How many shoes do you have.
Yours sincerely XXX"

I thought that was really funny and we started writing back and forth but only for a week before meeting up. You know the story from there..

I dont know if its any help, but that's what worked for me..
post #14 of 225
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Originally Posted by Sagesgirl View Post
He's a bit older than I'd normally go for (42), and probably WAY out of my league, so it's hard for me to overcome my natural shyness. ..
awesome that you went out alone. But why do you think this guy is out of your league??! Don't go into it with that attitude! Go into it with the 'I'm a hot younger lady that he'll be thrilled for a shot with." attitude.
post #15 of 225
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Josy, I love your profile. I want to date you.
post #16 of 225
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Originally Posted by sugarmoon View Post
Josy, I love your profile. I want to date you.
: I know, right?!!! : Yay for Josy!
post #17 of 225
xkcd? what does it mean?
post #18 of 225
Congrats to all the momma having wonderful dates, hugs to those that went out with losers and are waiting on the right one.

No dates on my end. Exciting, huh? LOL Not sure if and when I'll ever be asked on one but we'll see.
post #19 of 225
i'd date you all.

xkcd is a webcomic. it's geeky, funny and sarcastic. http://xkcd.com/592/

this evening i go to the orientation for my volunteering thing. i'm serving in the beer tent for a theatre festival. i go to this festival every year because the best looking guys show up in hordes, and now i get to serve them beer and work on my flirting. hopefully there are some gems among the volunteers tonight.

tomorrow i'm going out to a farm with a local food/agriculture co-op. it's something i'm passionate about. at the community dinner for the co-op i went to last there was a guy looking at me that had definite possibilities. i had to leave early, my kids were being insane, but hopefully i can spend the day with him or someone like him tomorrow...

i love summer. i especially love summer without ex. :
post #20 of 225
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Originally Posted by Butterflymom View Post
awesome that you went out alone. But why do you think this guy is out of your league??! Don't go into it with that attitude! Go into it with the 'I'm a hot younger lady that he'll be thrilled for a shot with." attitude.
I am trying to look at it that way. I did finally message him last night, but I'm trying to be casual in my expectations (and realistically, he's deployed right now, so it'll be days before I hear anything back). It's just that I feel really bad about my personal economics right now, & I'm going to community college and messaging an officer (er, my ex was an E-5; barely qualifying as mid-grade enlisted) with a farking master's degree.
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