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post #161 of 225
iT'S OFFICIAL...

I will no longer pine over SCG. Indeed, I've gotten some peace having made this decision.
post #162 of 225
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Originally Posted by Hollycrand View Post
iT'S OFFICIAL...

I will no longer pine over SCG. Indeed, I've gotten some peace having made this decision.
Good for you! You just got a little stronger with that. Good luck in the future!

Well, I got an e-mail from Warrior_Deluxe last night before going to bed, & was a little nonplussed because it was really generic. My Iraq War Update, I guess. Then woke up this morning to another e-mail...MUCH nicer this time. Yay for actual interest! I may suck at flirting, but at least being direct will work for certain men.
post #163 of 225
Could someone please send me the link to the facebook dating group?
post #164 of 225
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Originally Posted by Hollycrand View Post
iT'S OFFICIAL...

I will no longer pine over SCG. Indeed, I've gotten some peace having made this decision.
I'm glad. You are certainly worth much more than the bit of attention he was paying you. If he doesn't recognize quality, well, then poo on him!
post #165 of 225
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Originally Posted by Ceinwen View Post
So, I have about six weeks of 'dating thread catch-up' to do... but I used to be in the know! lol

Anyway - quick update! To all those who remember - thank you for the advice, commiseration and awesome stories.

My dd's daycare educator and I are seeing eachother!! : It only took me about a month of work to get to this point (lol) but I couldn't be happier.

Things look really good from here on out. Off to read and see how ya'll are doing
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: : : Please dish details!!!! : : : Please dish details!!!! : : : Please dish details!!!! : : : Please dish details!!!! : : :
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post #166 of 225
OMG I love you guys!!! : Thank you for all the support!!!

It's long, sordid (lol) tale - I'm just leaving for work (yay, nurse - early shift) but I'll come back tonight and post the details!!

God, I'm just sick though. I was with my ex for almost ten years. And he was my first!! This whole dating thing is so foreign to me - let alone a woman!

Yikes.
post #167 of 225
I signed up for plenty of fish after hearing people on here talk about it and got like 6 messages right away. So I have a date tomorrow night. I won't name him until I meet him. He's a single father.
post #168 of 225
Sounds great! I redid my PoF & so far have one message, but I haven't bothered checking it yet. Warrior_Deluxe had me all distracted yesterday!

I will be waiting for a date report with bated breath...
post #169 of 225
So swimming guy called tonight...the second phone call this week. He said he figured I had the kids tonight, but wanted to ask how I was and what I was doing. So we`ll probably go swimming tomorrow night (he asked me to call him tomorrow evening and confirm).

Was nice of him to call...I guess this means he wants to be friends, right?
post #170 of 225
last night after volunteering a bunch of us went out for drinks. this one guy had been hanging around me all night, chatting and stuff. when we sat down he maneuvered until he was sitting next to me. we were enjoying one another's company until i mentioned my kids, then he went cold. he literally turned in his seat to face away from me. : whatever, i wasn't that into him.

but it wasn't all bad, this funny, bubbly chick decided that she's my new best friend. we spent most of today together and had a lot of fun. she loves my kids. so i may not have found a romantic interest, but a new friend is welcome.
post #171 of 225
josybear,

Yippee that you found a new friend!! ::
post #172 of 225
Holly, I'm impressed. Definitely sounds like friends. At least.

Josybear, I've got to be honest, that obvious dis is actually kinda funny to me. I'm sorry, but it is so over the top and ridiculous! How did you not just laugh at him?

Good to hear you've found a friend though. My experience has been that friends stick around longer. And who knows who you'll meet through her?
post #173 of 225
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we were enjoying one another's company until i mentioned my kids, then he went cold. he literally turned in his seat to face away from me. : whatever, i wasn't that into him.
I'm so glad you made a new gal pal after such a hilarious charicature of a 'diss' from that ridiculous boy. Jeez. Do men like him really exist?
I'm crossing my fingers that the next boy who's drooling all over you is also a realistic human male who won't act like he wants the objects of his crush to have arrived straight from Venus in an vacuum-sealed container without any previous history or life experiences to speak of, other than pining and waiting for the moment that she would get to meet him. Is my sarcasm dripping here so loudly everyone can hear it?


yoginisarah, details from the date! : details from the date! : details from the date! : details from the date! : details from the date! : details from the date! : details from the date! : details from the date! : details from the date! :


Holly, cool that he's calling you and wanting to be sure to see you again right away. Let's see what happens with that! :
post #174 of 225
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I'm crossing my fingers that the next boy who's drooling all over you is also a realistic human male who won't act like he wants the objects of his crush to have arrived straight from Venus in an vacuum-sealed container without any previous history or life experiences to speak of, other than pining and waiting for the moment that she would get to meet him. Is my sarcasm dripping here so loudly everyone can hear it?
post #175 of 225
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I'm crossing my fingers that the next boy who's drooling all over you is also a realistic human male who won't act like he wants the objects of his crush to have arrived straight from Venus in an vacuum-sealed container without any previous history or life experiences to speak of, other than pining and waiting for the moment that she would get to meet him. Is my sarcasm dripping here so loudly everyone can hear it?
Best. post. evAR! Seriously, this is one reason I can't get interested in any guys near my age. Someone told me a while ago that once men get to a certain age, they grasp the concept that women have also lived life and they're more accepting of things like kids (and, I hope, stretch marks & the other physical signs of parenthood). I have found it to be at least somewhat true. And honestly, it's helped to get rid of a couple of guys. Like, "Dude, you do realize I've got three kids and an ex-husband, right?"
post #176 of 225
Thread Starter 
So, when you meet a cute guy in real life, and you're chatting...how do you go about getting/giving a number?

I had two fun, quick (5-10 min) converations with attractive, unmarried (well, un-ring wearing, at least) men today, and both times, I wished I could have figured out a graceful way to make a (possibly) longer lasting connection.

Any tips?

It was fun, though, regardless!
post #177 of 225
My story

Kay, so I told a girl that I knew at the daycare I had a crush on T. She got back to me pretty quick and said as far as she knew, T was happily single. Kay, to me that indicated she told T and got a big 'Oh hell no!' lol. So, I (surprisingly to me) kept hanging around - I mean, I didn't know for sure, right?

Turns out she not only told T I was interested - but alllll the other educators as well. So of course T got teased mercilessly everytime I strolled through the door :S Yikes, lol. That's not what I was aiming for!!

I just played it cool, was there every day, hung around when I could to start up conversation, put it out there I was interested in women, etc. Nothing much happened. This all took about a month.

Life got busy real fast, I started work, my ex moved out (YAYYYY! lol) and suddenly T and I are invited to the same bachelorette party (the mutual friend from the daycare) and I knew it was go time, lol.

We drank, well everyone did, and I dropped some pretty suggestive things. Asked her to go hiking the next weekend. We did - and it bombed. At that point I pretty much gave up. Like, I had tried, it didn't work out - cool.

Well, all of a sudden she's stopping ME in the hallway to talk, asks if I'm going out to the bar two weekends ago (it was pride week here in town), etc. Now I know it's ON!!! Yaaaaahooooooo!! lol

So we go out last weekend, things got - interesting. Her best friend drags me aside, tells me all T talks about (for weeks) is me and my kids.... and for god sakes would I do something already.

Sweet Jesus. :

We er, had much fun that evening I'm still playing it cool. She drove me home the next day... And now - what right? So I email her straight out, tell it like it is 'I like you, what's up?' She writes back, feels the same way, so here we go.

She asked me out for tomorrow night, and Saturday night we're going to a wedding (the friend from the bachelorette party, lol) and we're going out together afterwards AGAIN. Her friends love me and keep messaging me to tell me to GO for it, she's shy, she's had her heartbroken - but she's interested.

So basically, I spent six weeks wondering WTH? And all the time I was slowly wheeling her in. My god ladies, don't give in without some decent effort. I had NO idea she even NOTICED I was interested. When her best friend told me (amidst much drinking lol) that all she talked about was me, I almost DIED lol.

I'll update you on the weekend.
post #178 of 225
Aww, that is so sweet. : Good for you for going for it!
post #179 of 225
Just got back from an evening with swimming guy (it's 1am). We walked to the swimming pool together (15 minute walk), swam for an hour (but I was having foot cramps the whole time), then got dressed, showered etc. and then walked back to his place (he invited me in to see how nicely he had cleaned up). It was nice, we drank juice and talked a lot. In French. Then all of a sudden he said he wanted me to speak English because he felt that I was holding back something of myself.
He started massaging my feet (exh NEVER EVER massaged my feet) and then my legs.
We talked some more, and I relaxed so much I almost fell asleep.
Anyways, he drove me home, and he wants us to go swimming again tomorrow evening. But since I will only have four hour's sleep, I told him to call me.

That was my evening. It's strange but nice to get some affection.
post #180 of 225
Sounds sweet, Holly!
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