I got another e-mail today; a picture of him with the Vice President!
He definitely seems like a nice guy. Pretty good looking. Dark hair, blue eyes. Enough testosterone in his profile picture to juice up a whole baseball team.
(OK, just because I can't resist: the pic in question
I've also been emboldened to save a few other profiles so I can message the guys when I'm more awake. A little confidence goes a long way, maybe. The only other fellow I corresponded with from OKC for anything more than a message or two was a) quite young (well, my age, but not my maturity level) b) quite far to the left, while I am quite far to the right, and c) a little too
interested in getting into my pants. (I love sex, but that doesn't mean I want to have it with just anyone, kwim?)
Eccomama, maybe you're just running into a problem with differing expectations. Also, I do think the internet lets us play around a lot. I know on OKC I can reject a guy and he'll never know it; likewise he can reject me & I'll never know it. Easy on the psyche, maybe, but it also makes it easier, I think, to be wishy-washy.
Beebs, I do agree with Yoginisarah that drama is best to be avoided. You & he want different things, it seems from your narrative. If the sparks are mostly sexual on your part and he's conflicted, I'd honestly drop it and run. It doesn't seem like there's much chance of a good outcome there. Even though you're both separated, if he's casting you as "the other woman," then there's honestly way too much emotional baggage there for it to be worth dealing with. If you were saying you could see yourself spending the rest of your life with him maybe it'd be different. Don't sell yourself short for the first guy to attract you! Maybe the feelings were just dormant and after a brief rush they'll settle down into something more manageable with the help of lots and lots of double-A batteries.
Michelle, I thought the guys on PoF were pretty horny.
Maybe that's just 'cause I've got some cleavage going on in my picture over there. (There was that one guy, who sent me like six messages devoted to my chichis.)
I just realized how late/early it is here! I need to go grocery shopping in the morning. We're gonna get doughnuts & read the newspaper over breakfast.