Add me to the group of picky daters. I'm very fortunate to have lots of support with DD so I can go out pretty often, but I'm still really hesitant to waste my evening on a dud. I'm also not afraid to say "Yeah, um, this isn't really working for me. I'm going to go do something else now."
So those of you on fb have read my very forward email to Trumpeter. Regardless of the outcome, I'm just glad to have closure, though I hope he bites
Add to the mix a new guy...I'll call him Bear Rassler. Because we chatted on fb last night for the better part of an hour on what moves we would use to wrestle a bear. I'm dead serious.
Every Thursday I go to this quirky neighborhood wine/fancy beer bar where my best friend bartends (I'm a bit of a beer geek). I know all of the regulars there, and I always go alone...I totally love going out by myself. In comes this group, one of whom I know, and this guy, Bear Rassler, sits next to me and we instantly hit it off. Like I can totally be my absurdly witty, silly self with him and he's right there at my level. We had so much fun talking about ridiculous stuff, beer, and our kids. He's in his mid-30's, has 2 little ones of his own, LOVES kids. So I friended him.
I updated my status the other day requesting a playmate for Tuesday and Thursday night, and last night he messaged me "Thursday at Metro, 7:30."
At which time we proceeded to talk about wrestling bears. When we were signing off, I said I was excited (for Thursday) and he said he was too.
My bff (who was bartending) said that after I left, he was talking about me to his friend (a local brewmaster that I know) and she tried to pretend not to listen. He said "Wow, she seems really cool...like really really cool. And I love that she has a kid - I love kids!"
So who knows? I can say this. I had a lot of fun with him. He is super engaging, and he's cute. He also has a beard, and I kinda have a thing for facial hair. My only issue is a purely physical one - he's on the heavy side. I am too, but I'm way more physically active than my weight lets on, and it's super important to me that a man can engage me on that level - climbing, cycling, hiking.. not being physically active is definitely a deal-breaker for me. So I'll work it in to the conversation tomorrow somehow and see what he has to say.
But otherwise, this is promising, and I really am excited to hang out with him.
Potential weirdness factor: My h works at the biggest beer bar in town, and knows the brewmaster that Bear Rassler works with. Not that it matters, but for being a big-ish city, Baltimore can surely seem like quite a small town sometimes!