Originally Posted by Phantaja
Ok. I called my friend and told her the story. Her response?
"Well why wouldn't they want to tell what it is?"
And then I asked her to tell her seven year old son who said "Well it's gotta be somethin'. I think it's a boy."
As I was typing this, I thought of another. When a baby is born and the sex is a surprise, the first words are "It's a girl!" And what's "it"? The baby!
So you told her the WHOLE story including the part where they say they child's name and your friend still wanted to call Pop an "it"? Why not just use pop's name? and in that case, I could call and say "I just had a baby" and someone could say "what is it?" so what? how is that exclusive to Pop?
"When a baby is born and the sex is a surprise, the first words are "It's a girl!" And what's "it"? The baby!"
no everyone uses that phrase. I never heard it after I had my kids. They just put the baby on my belly.
These people aren't denying their child has certain body parts, they just want to let the child decide when to share the info on what parts those are.
I am still waiting for an example where a person would HAVE to call Pop an "it" that they wouldn't have to call any other child an "it" in the same situation even if there parents weren't hiding the gender. They could just call Pop "pop" they could say "What their name" or "whats the kid's name"
just because some people want to be obnoxiously rude and call Pop and "it" doesn't mean they have to. That's their choice, could be done to ANY child in the same situations (minus the hidden gender) and is a poor reflection of that person and not the parents who are merely encouraging people to treat Pop for who they are instead of for what gender society assigns to their body parts.
Calling Pop and "it" is simply unnecessary. It's a choice one makes that they do not have to. If Pop is called "it" more then other children its because of that person's ignorance, not the short comings of Pop's parents.