Originally Posted by eloise24
Are there any societies throughout all of history that don't distiguish between gender? Somehow I don't see this as a "modern evil" but rather the way people/societies are made/meant to be . . .
As far as this specific case goes, I agree with those who think it's distasteful for parents to use their kids for their own political/social purposes. Blech.
I agree! I think that gender roles can be utilitarian and helpful (you hunt, I gather) as well as limiting (hunting is superior to gathering). I agree that attitudes toward gender can be problematic but, looking from the broader perspective of history, as a whole, we've made huge strides toward sloffing off these connotations. Are we anywhere near perfection? Of course not, but we're closer than we were. I also don't think that androgyny is perfection but rather acceptance of people living out their lives in ways that are emotionally beneficial to them, and acceptance that gender can have a myriad ways of expressing itself within individuals, some of which are superior in some circumstances, some of which are superior in other circumstances, and some of which are neutral.
In this particular case, as I've stated in a pp, my main concern is for the child here. I just can't imagine how awkward and psychologically difficult it will be when the child becomes aware of this "experiment" of his/her parents. When s/he finally makes known to the world whether s/he is a boy or girl . . . well, that is just going to be emotionally difficult, I would think. I can just hear the taunts, the ridicule, the raised eyebrows, the murmurs of, "Well, we've been wondering what you were all this time . . ." That's just a lot of baggage to add onto the baggage of just everyday living. I guess I wouldn't mind it if the parents themselves decided to keep their own genders secret from the world (even though from my own perspective I would find that silly), but to impose this upon a child is manipulation for a political purpose. As parents we must all make decisions for our children, but this one is far more encompassing than whether or not to breastfeed or vaccinate, and one that I think will cause much greater damage.