30w ago, when I was an early excited 7w pg, two of my friends, separately, decided to throw a baby party for us. Eventually they combined forces and since January had been planning all the fun details with me. I had to be in on it because neither of them knows all our friends. One friend was to be the planner, one to host. Well, the planner has been a total FLAKE and hasn't been returning my calls or emails for the past few months unless its convenient. She had the time to organize other fun parties on the fly for random events however. She does not want kids and has left us out of plans because she didn't know if I would come while pregnant. 
: (I have not changed my habits, btw, except not drinking). Two weeks ago or so she gave me our baby gift unwrapped, used and not washed- don't get me wrong I wanted used stuff, but the actual "gifting" was just rude and then she told us that she wasn't sure that the party would happen, blaming it on the friend hosting- totally unfounded blame btw. Another friend commented to her that she would be glad to organize the party and the flaky friend got mad and insisted she could do it 
So last night we were hanging out with the hosting friend, who kind of let slip that she was just going to have a quiet dinner with a few people to celebrate the baby next weekend. Its obviously supposed to be a surprise, but both DH and I picked up on it. We are very grateful but still felt sad and slighted because they don't know most of our friends and all the people who were told about the original party will not be invited (especially because we are not supposed to have figured it out). They want to invite the flake over too and for some reason I am pissed enough to not want her there. (side note- she was supposed to throw us a wedding party last year because we got married far away- yeah that never happened after months of talk. She also was supposed to throw another shower for a friend on her second baby and decided against that because it was her second, after all
Tell me I am an unreasonable, ungrateful wench! I just can't help from feeling hurt by the flake and my pg hormones are making me blow this out of proportion. Thanks for letting me vent
: (I have not changed my habits, btw, except not drinking). Two weeks ago or so she gave me our baby gift unwrapped, used and not washed- don't get me wrong I wanted used stuff, but the actual "gifting" was just rude and then she told us that she wasn't sure that the party would happen, blaming it on the friend hosting- totally unfounded blame btw. Another friend commented to her that she would be glad to organize the party and the flaky friend got mad and insisted she could do it So last night we were hanging out with the hosting friend, who kind of let slip that she was just going to have a quiet dinner with a few people to celebrate the baby next weekend. Its obviously supposed to be a surprise, but both DH and I picked up on it. We are very grateful but still felt sad and slighted because they don't know most of our friends and all the people who were told about the original party will not be invited (especially because we are not supposed to have figured it out). They want to invite the flake over too and for some reason I am pissed enough to not want her there. (side note- she was supposed to throw us a wedding party last year because we got married far away- yeah that never happened after months of talk. She also was supposed to throw another shower for a friend on her second baby and decided against that because it was her second, after all
Tell me I am an unreasonable, ungrateful wench! I just can't help from feeling hurt by the flake and my pg hormones are making me blow this out of proportion. Thanks for letting me vent
. I really don't mean to sound like a selfish child, but yeah I will only have one first baby and I was so happy hearing about all the planning that has now vanished...
I'm sorry, I hope one of your other friends is able to go around her and pull something together for you 
