sex ed? - Page 2

[Turquesa]

Originally Posted by phathui5

I think you handled it very well. It's not something that would worry me.

Agreed. I think you did well. Wanting to touch his penis is normal curiosity, but you've clearly done a great job in teaching your child that his body belongs to him.

[greencat]

Yes. I spoke with the mother of Miss Only Child. I spoke with "matter of fact' in mind. I described what my kids have told me as closely as what they have told me. The mother was shocked as well as upset, as you may imagine. However, she believed prior incidents with others were somewhat initiated by the boys. She said she had spoken to her daughter "To not to ask" but her curiosity has not stopped this behavior. She was also worried how her husband would react when she told him. So, I suggested speaking to her husband after she had time to think it through. And, not in front of Miss Only Child. I think choosing the time to say what is needed to say is important (as well as how.) I also suggested to avoid letting the Miss Only Child to play with boy/s alone for a while. And, start taking more time to speak to her daughter about what is personal boundary and privacy issues.

Did I leave something??
How would you speak to your daughter in a case like this.

[BabyMae09]

I think you did great!!

[LynnS6]

I think you did great! And I'm glad you followed up with the child's parents.

Originally Posted by greencat

How would you speak to your daughter in a case like this.

I've had to speak to my dd about not touching her brother's penis. Even though she's grown up with him and they bathed together until recently (when the tub got too small for an 8 and 5 year old together!), she'd still try to touch it. Dd only tried to touch ds when he was running around naked after a bath.

She's a tactile child and curious. I would just gently remind her that this part of her brother's body is private, and no one gets to touch there without permission. Actually, it's very similar to the other 5 times a day where I tell her to listen to her brother's words and stop tackling/hugging/kissing/sitting on/jumping on her brother. (And yes, he's older, but she's much much more physical.)

We've also had to remind dd to NOT take her clothes off at anyone's house. Apparently she and the little girl down the street had taken their clothes of while in the other girl's bedroom. I suspect they were playing doctor (actually pretending to be sick), but I could be wrong.

But the repeated requests of Miss Only Child for boys to take their pants down and her undressing would unnerve me.

[greencat]

Thank you for posting your story. And, Miss Only Child is very expressive, as the world revolves around her. She is not happy when things doesn't go in the way she wants it.

I am still speaking with the mothers. They are still in a stage of shock, I think. They both asked what I did as parent that made my kids to walk away or not participate in the behavior like this. That is hard to explain.

My guess is that the Miss Only Child will stop asking boys as parents discuss the value of privacy and what is inappropriate behavior, etc. I also hope that attending Kinder will also help her, and not to amplify...

If she is molested, by some adult I don't know, I think more of ill mannered behavior will show up as time goes on.