I need some help in finding effective discipline for my 5 year old ds. He is having trouble with name calling (stupid and quitter are his two favs). He is also kicking and pushing. He doesn't seem to get violent really to hurt the other kids (ie I know that he could hit or kick harder). I have tried talking to him about it, saying we don't hit/call names. I've taken away priviledges. We have even tried time outs. I just can't seem to get through to him. He has sensory processing disorder which I think the sensory challenges to play a part. Like most incidents occur when he's getting overwhelmed or feels crowded. Sometimes I think it happens when he is feeling left out of a situation with others. Like yesterday he was on the computer at the library and another little boy sat on his chair. He yells that's my chair quitter and kicks the other kid. I said we do not kick and call names and he started melting down so I took him home. The other day at the park, I was packing up our picnic and keeping an eye on our 1 year old. DS went to play with some other boys. I went over, checked out the situation, they seemed to be playing well. I took no more than 5 minutes to pack up, and then the other kids mom comes up to me to report that DS had pushed her 3 year old down, thrown sand at the other kids and called her names. Yes, he even calls adults names.
I think that he feels out of control in these moments. I think that it's a reaction to being afraid or feeling threatened (kind of like flight or fight but out of control). This has been going on for about a year (since I had my daughter--I think it's related to that too). I am at a loss as to what to do. I worry that he's going to get hurt himself some day because of his actions. Any ideas would be so appreciated. Thank you.
I think that he feels out of control in these moments. I think that it's a reaction to being afraid or feeling threatened (kind of like flight or fight but out of control). This has been going on for about a year (since I had my daughter--I think it's related to that too). I am at a loss as to what to do. I worry that he's going to get hurt himself some day because of his actions. Any ideas would be so appreciated. Thank you.
