Just a vent...

[VegMomma]

So, we told my mil last night. My bil asked when we saw him on Friday, and I didn't want her to find out from him, so we called and told her. (She has a very big mouth, and after our m/c, I got an email from my DH's cousin's wife, who I've met two or three times, saying sorry about your loss.... So, we were going to wait to tell them. But, I digress...)

Her response was, "well, I'll cross my fingers that it's a girl, for you!". (When we had the m/c, her response was "don't worry, you'll get your girl.")
Why is it assumed that, just because I have 2 (lovely!) boys, that I am only having more babies in the hopes of having a girl? Yeesh.

Just wanted to get that quick complaint off my chest. Thanks for listening!

[judybean]

I totally hear ya. I KNOW that this time around I'll get plenty of, "Oh! I bet you're hoping it's a boy!" comments. Because we have three girls already. (in all reality, I'm totally hoping for another girl! We have oodles of girl stuff and girl clothes!)

Even pg with dd3 last time, we got plenty of those comments. People would say, "Oh, trying for a boy one last time?" or something silly like that... as if the girls I already had were of no value and I simply put up with them even though I didn't get my boy or something... ugh.. it was very irritating to say the least.

So yeah.. I feel ya. The opposite end of things (already having girls vs already having boys), but I completely understand...

[catchthewind]

I find that so odd. But I do know a lady who really wanted a girl for her third, and got another boy, and will probably try again just for a girl. It is a bit sad imo, because the boys aren't really wanted for themselves if ykwim, though I know they're loved. It's one thing to hope for the opposite gender, but I don't get only ttc because you want that gender and not because you want more kids, you know?

I have a girl already and I'm kind of hoping for another one. I have girl's clothes and I just think two sisters would be so sweet. (Not that I don't want a boy of course, I would be thrilled with either.) Though if anyone irl asks if I have a preference, I'll likely say no, because I wouldn't want anyone to read too much into that (especially if I end up with a boy, I don't want people to think I want pity when like I said, I would be thrilled with a little boy).

[DoulaVallere]

I hear ya. We have two sons, and EVERYONE has said "Maybe you'll get your girl this time!". I would be thrilled with a girl...but I would also be thrilled with another boy. I'm not having kids to have a certain sex (though I do hope eventually I'll have a daughter...I just want that bond) but we are planning on a big family anyway, so it really doesn't matter one way or the other to me.

I'm sure if we do have a girl this time there will be a number of people who think we'll be done. I'm not looking forward to explaining over and over that we will take all the blessings God gives us...whether that's 3 or 8 or 12.

[HippieChristianMum]

I have one boy and one girl (by only an act of God, no planning for it on our parts), and that brings a whole other set of comments. People automatically assume that since we have "a perfect set" we are done having kids. My mil always says that my dd will be her only princess, because the other grandchildren are boys. It urks me that she assumed that we wouldn't have any more children (as it is, my in-laws have one boy (my dh) and one girl, and my sil has 2 boys and won't be having more kids, so no one has more than 2 children). While I haven't really gotten, "Oh, I bet you hope it's a X", I do get people wondering why in the world I'm having another since I already have one of each.

[lincap]

Oh I hear you. We have 2 boys and I would love a 3rd boy or a girl. Doesn't matter to me. But apparently to my in-laws it matters BIG. They are constantly asking when we are going to give them a granddaughter or they say "J (SIL) will give us our princess someday". I cannot stand it.

Here is to a healthy child!

[VegMomma]

Glad to hear I am not alone!

One of the reasons I would be happier if I had another boy, is that I would be able to avoid all that "princess" crap that pps have mentioned. I am a staunch feminist, not to mention completely against Disney, and I am terrified that if I have a girl, I will be given all kinds of crap like that, and people will treat her differently than they treated the boys, which I could. not. handle.

Here is to a healthy child!

Cheers!