Stupid comment rant - Page 2

[georgiegirl1974]

My MIL said (when she saw me for the first time last week), "Oh, you didn't get fat in your face." Sounds like she's implying I got fat everywhere else.

This isn't really stupid, but amusing. I was at farmer's market on Saturday, and a lady who raises goats looked at me and said, "You've dropped mama. I know when my goats have dropped, and you look ready. You are going to drop that baby really quick. I can tell when it is going to happen with my goats." I hope she's right.

[kellykins]

Originally Posted by mouthcave

Ah, I went into Motherhood two weeks PP and had a similar experience! I also only wanted a nursing bra, hah.
the comments about being lucky to have a preemie or to be on bedrest just make me think, "WHAT?!?!?!" I have pretty poor social skills but come on.

This is why I despise this store. Thier clothes are overpriced crap (IMO, compared to other places) and 99% of the time the employees are totally clueless. GAH.

[penstamon]

I hate being stared at like I am on show. People have no clue that a due date means nothing, it is just the 40w mark, and they hate it that I don't give them that day. Its for my own sanity. Baby can come anytime from now until early August but people don't want a 5 week span...

I had a neighbor peak through my fence the other day to peep at me asleep on my porch- she very loudly asks her husband "No baby yet? Is there a baby?" until I wake up pissed off and just yell at them that it could be weeks. Is this normal behavior for neighbors? Am I peeking in their yard asking DH "are they drunk yet?"(these neighbors can put a few down, kwim?).

[Pavlovs]

My mother does that "are you in labor?" thing every time I call, too. Man it's annoying. She seems to think I'll have a 30 minute chat with her before I say "by the way, I'm holding your grandbaby."

She also asks me about once per week how much weight I've gained. It's monumentally annoying because I've told her for the past 6 months that I DON'T KNOW because I don't look at the scale when I weigh in at the OBs office. I don't know, I don't want to know, nothing good comes of me watching the scales go up. She knows I struggle with my weight when I'm not pregnant. I think she thinks I know but won't tell her. Stupid. Yesterday she insisted I must know from how my clothes fit. It's a weird obsession of hers.

[learnlovebe]

Last week I had a meeting after church and this guy (my dad's age) walks in and sits down 2 chairs away from me. He looks at me and says, "You've GOT to be due soon!" I looked at him and replied, "Wow, you really know what to say to a pregnant woman!" The women at the table laughed, and so did he, after a minute. Then I told him, "you're lucky you kept some space between you and I (the 2 chairs), or you'd be in big trouble w/ a comment like that."

Oh, those pregnancy hormones. You better watch out!

[tracymom1]

Originally Posted by penstamon

I had a neighbor peak through my fence the other day to peep at me asleep on my porch- she very loudly asks her husband "No baby yet? Is there a baby?" until I wake up pissed off and just yell at them that it could be weeks. Is this normal behavior for neighbors? Am I peeking in their yard asking DH "are they drunk yet?"(these neighbors can put a few down, kwim?).

:
Do we live on the same block??!!
And I agree about the due date thing... totally useless information. I have no idea why everyone is so stuck on it.

[koalove]

my sister told me today "dont they (home birth midwives) do something at this point (im 3 days past EDD) becuse your placenta will stop working?" sheesh! i dont even try to educate her anymore!

[Quindin]

Originally Posted by koalove

my sister told me today "dont they (home birth midwives) do something at this point (im 3 days past EDD) becuse your placenta will stop working?" sheesh! i dont even try to educate her anymore!

Because there is an expiration date on them, right?
People see me having a hard time, and they can't understand why I won't induce already

As badly as I wish this baby would come out YESTERDAY, I could not evict him/her just because. BTDT when I did not know any better with baby 3. Very bad idea...

[plantmama]

I'm totally sick of "do you know what you're having?" and "when are you due?" But at least they are easy to answer "No" and "saturday". Pretty simple.

Ds #1 was also a preemie so I get really sick of people saying they are tired of being pregnant at like 36 weeks. Oh, that's our ddc No, I can understand. Now that I've gone through 2 third trimesters I can see that as the ONLY good thing about having a preemie! The discomforts are pretty darn hard to put up with sometimes.

I haven't had anyone say a "just wait..." type of thing but that would piss me off so much. I'm actually weirdly nervous about not being pregnant anymore because I will have three kids!!! Yeah, I think I can imagine what I'm getting into and the nice thing for people to say is "how exciting! All the best!"
or "take care of yourself!"

[amydiane]

Originally Posted by plantmama

I'm totally sick of "do you know what you're having?" and "when are you due?" But at least they are easy to answer "No" and "saturday". Pretty simple.

Yeah, I guess they're just trying to make small talk, but I've noticed that it's often people who wouldn't be talking to you otherwise, so I don't really get the need. Like I got both of those from the cashier in the next lane over today. She then proceeded to tell me I was going to have my hands full and that she bet I was ready to have this baby at any time (after pointing out that I look like I'm going to pop at any minute). I wanted to tell her that actually I'm really glad to have made it this far since I didn't with DS, but I was tired and decided to just get going.

[GoodNamesGone]

Originally Posted by plantmama

... the nice thing for people to say is "how exciting! All the best!"
or "take care of yourself!"

I have gotten a few of those- I can tollerate that.

It's funny that people didn't start stalking me till I was a week away from my EDD. Before that, nobody really said anything.

I woke up to "No baby yet?" from my Auntie M on my Facebook this morning. After this thread, it made me laugh more than anything- but I was surprised she didn't know she's on my list of people to call when the baby "gets here."

I explained that I had 3 lists. There's the "Tell Right Away" - which is for people who are going to be involved in the birth. "Tell as soon as the baby is here." - That's mostly my Dad and brother. And then there is "Tell at a decent hour" - which will be everybody I consider a close friend or family member. They don't need me to call them at 3am.

I'll also likely update my FaceBook as soon as I'm in REAL labor, so they'll be "in the loop"... everybody just wants to be a part of it I guess!

[GoodNamesGone]

Oh! And before we knew the baby's gender, I told people, "I don't know... a boy, a girl... maybe a lizard... I just hope it's mine!"

[frontierpsych]

Originally Posted by GoodNamesGone

For a week, my mom answered her phone, "Are you in labor???"

Say "YES!" And start screaming your head off an making obnoxious "pushing" noises. Play a tape of a recorded baby crying (there's one online that's for getting pets used to the sound)...

[GoodNamesGone]

Originally Posted by frontierpsych

Say "YES!" And start screaming your head off an making obnoxious "pushing" noises. Play a tape of a recorded baby crying (there's one online that's for getting pets used to the sound)...

Or, "Wait... wait... *grunt* Nah, just gas."

[springbride]

My new favorite is seeing people that I know, and having them look at me and say, "Did you have that baby yet?" Today I finally told someone, "Yah, she's with DH I'm just still fat" The look of shock was totally worth it.

[treetop]

I get a lot of comments about how close together my kids are going to be (21 months) and how horrible it is going to be to have a baby while my toddler is going through her "terrible twos".
I also get a lot of people telling me that the baby dropped. Then I have to explain that I am just carrying really low and my belly looks a little funny this pregnancy. Thanks for making me feel like a cute mama.

[tracymom1]

Originally Posted by treetop

I get a lot of comments about how close together my kids are going to be (21 months) and how horrible it is going to be to have a baby while my toddler is going through her "terrible twos".
.

I get this constantly. People are always asking me how old DS is and how am I going to "handle" him and a new baby!!?? I always say with love, kindness and patience.

[jennifer413]

My MIL asked me if they've changed my due date and if the dr is expecting the baby early or late???? I didn't know how to respond. I just kind of looked cluelessly at her and said, how would they know that? And she replied, that they do that now, you know, since they'll induce or schedule a c-section based on if the baby is ready or not.

Thank goodness we have such competent doctors who can tell when a baby is "ready" :


I'm getting pretty tired of the "you're huge" or "you look tired" or "your feet are so swollen" comments as well.

[Pavlovs]

Overall, I do have to say people have been exceptionally nice to me, especially now but also throughout my pregnancy. There is a lot of sympathy out here in Las Vegas for a *very* pregnant woman in July when it's hotter than hot.

That being said, I do have to roll my eyes when I go through this conversation regularly:

Curious onlooker: What are you having?
Me: I don't know. We didn't find out.
CO: Oh, it's a girl. I just know.
Me: Um, alright.
CO: *gives their strange reason for being sure I'm carrying a girl when the only person in the world who knows is my OB*
Me: Um, sure, that sounds about right. *eyes rolling* Well, you've got a 50/50 shot that your theory is correct. Thanks for playing!

My mother insists I'm having a girl, has given me soooo many reasons why she knows this. It's to a point that I *want* a boy just so I don't have to hear from her "I told you so", like she had some divine parental knowledge yet to be imparted to me as the mother of the child I'm carrying.

And the first real doozy I've had thus far from FIL yesterday: "So what day is the baby coming?" Um how in the heck would I know - don't you know?

[Sk8ermaiden]

If you total up the weight of the things that are in my uterus right now, I have most likely actually lost body weight this pregnancy, having only gained 10-12 lbs. (And I am overweight, so that is a good thing.)

One of my mom's coworkers told me, "Oh, you're going to have the baby any day, I can tell because of the puffiness in your face." It pissed me off so much! If anything my face was thinner than usual, and everyone who knows me has been telling me how good I look! Why would you say that when you have no comparison because you've never met me before? Why would you say that ever?

NOW my face has gotten puffy, a month later at 41 weeks.

But you should see people's faces when they ask when I'm due and I say, "10 days ago."