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post #41 of 98
I am so sorry for your loss. How sad for everyone involved: Esther, your family, and Esther's family. My thoughts are with you as you grieve.

post #42 of 98
I feel silly just adding another but heartless if I don't at least post something to acknowledge my deepest sadness for your family's loss.

I love her name.
post #43 of 98
i am so so sorry.
post #44 of 98
I saw this in new posts and couldn't read without saying how sorry I am for your loss, and how sorry I am that this sad time is also clouded with doubt. I hope you and your family will find peace soon.
post #45 of 98
I am so very sorry
post #46 of 98
I am so so sorry for your loss Mama...*hug*
post #47 of 98
I am so very sorry. How heartbreaking.
post #48 of 98
oh, mama. I am so very sorry. Hugs to you, and kind thoughts.
post #49 of 98
I am so sorry for your loss :
post #50 of 98
That's so sad. I'm sad she didn't get to join your family.
post #51 of 98
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by heatherdeg View Post
I love her name.
Isn't it lovely? The name we were given was Esther Nakimuli, and Alice was her deceased mama's name, which we were going to add as a middle/first (hadn't decided yet) so it was all there, in all it's loveliness...ok, the clunky pullyblank on the end was all us but the rest of it was all her.

Told family today, and of course nobody said anything awful, I don't know what I was expecting. I've heard of people saying some crazy things, though, when someone is grieving, and intimate moments are hard for my family, so I was just worried some insensitive adoption-related (or "she wasn't yours yet", which was true, but in our hearts she was) comment would come out...something designed to make me feel better, but would emphasize something negative. but it didn't happen, and we all grew a little today I think.

thanks for all the support and well-wishes... there isn't much out there for this type of loss, but it's nice to know that people do understand that it's hard.

off to clean the house, we have friends staying with us for 4 days starting tomorrow, and we're ready to let some good times roll a little... I can't stay in bed forever!
post #52 of 98
I am so, so sorry for your family.
post #53 of 98
*hugs* I am so so so sorry! I'm glad your family was supportive and no one said anything well intentioned yet hurtful. Please keep us updated on the situation as you feel able.
post #54 of 98
Thread Starter 
well, we got the documents and photos we asked for, and let me just say, I would rather have been swindled. how is it that the world is so effed up that there are fathers who have to try to raise their children in shacks, in the mud, with no food, whose wife dies so he has to place his youngest child in an orphanage, and just when that child is a month or two away from being adopted, she dies of malaria? I can't get over the sadness in those photos, and that was before she died, I can only imagine how they feel now. I will write her family a letter of condolence, expressing our love for esther and for all of them, really. I don't know what to do with this.

post #55 of 98
I am so sorry Tiffani. The world really is a messed up place. How heartbreaking
post #56 of 98
I am so sorry
post #57 of 98
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's just not fair
post #58 of 98
I am so very sorry for your loss, how heartbreaking.
post #59 of 98
Omg Tiffany I'm so sorry! I wish I had some sage advice or something to make you feel better but all I have is

Esther
post #60 of 98
Esther, as well as you and yours continue to be in my thoughts, and this child's family of origin as well.

These circumstances are heartbreaking indeed!
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