I did it!

[MyZoeJane]

My DH and I have disagreed on this issue since before our son was even conceived... but today I finally convinced him that leaving our son intact is the only ethical choice I can possibly make and he has said that he will abide by my wishes and will love our son with all of his heart regardless of what's in his diaper.

I can't express how RELIEVED I am that the delivery of our baby in September will not be muddled by the possiblity that I would be refusing the procedure in spite of DH's desires. I can relax and know that when I sign that paper, he is with me... even if not entirely, he still respects my decision enough to concede.

Whew! Like a weight has been lifted..... Such a shame that it has to be so difficult for some of us...

[Mary-Beth]

Yeah!!
I'm excited for you. Hold your ground!

[hakunangovi]

Great !! I am so happy, both for you and your new son.

[LavenderMae]

: What a relief, right!

[mama24-7]

That's great : - enjoy the rest of your pregnancy!!!

Sus

[MyZoeJane]

Thanks ladies! My original post did not convey what a battle this has been. He has fought me tooth and nail when the subject is brought up. We have not spoken for days after this issue is brought up in our emails while he was at work.

I guess he finally "saw the light"... but it was not without some serious messing with me. He made it seem like the "condition" for his conceding was that I accept his desire to give our son the middle name "Walter" after his grandfather. I agreed, thinking that it was only fair and a worthy compromise....

Well, he let me know later today that he was not really that attached to the middle name... and that he would be okay with sticking with our top two choices that we agree on.

Ugh, what a bastard! I can't help but think he was just testing my willingness to compromise!

But what matter is that his concession was sincere.

[Quirky]

way to go, mama. i bet he will see when your son is born or shortly thereafter what a ridiculous thing circumcision really is.....i will bet that he wouldn't ever be willing to circ your ds once he's actually met him.

Good job standing up for your baby and your family.

[Nandi]

Congratulations momma that is great news! :

[Greg B]

Good job! That sounds like it was an awful ordeal to have to go through.

[tutucrazy]

:::: SO happy for you and your baby boy!

[PuppyFluffer]

I understand his resistance. In order to agree to leave his son intact, he's got to conceed that his own penis was mutilated, that it was done by people that love him and that he is missing a part of himself. It can all be very tough to accept. By continuing the circumcision cycle, he doesn't have to examine these things. I can understand how it is such an automatic decision to circumcise coming from a circumcised man.

I've tried to put myself into the shoes of a circ'd man, tried to imagine how I'd deal with the knowledge that I was missing a part of my body that was forcibly taken for no good reason. Honestly, I can't imagine that for myself. I cannot imagine the anger. So, when I hear of husband's being so resistant to leaving a child intact, I can understand their position. I feel deeply sad for every circumcised child.

I am so glad he's been able to see the truth and that he wants to welcome his son in a kind and gentle way and keep him intact.

[calngavinsmom]

: Yeah! Congratulations to you and your little boy-to-be I can relate, I was also very relieved when the circ discussion was off the table

Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy!