(xposted in childhood yrs)
DS, who will be four next month, did something extremely out of character yesterday at childcare. When I got there to pick him up, two teachers were intercepting him in a tussle with a little girl. They told me he had his hands on her neck.
This is absolutely out of character for him. I am speechless. We talked later about why he did such a thing. He really couldn't give a reason at all, and I doubt it was anything this little girl did/said. As it happens, many of his friends have just transferred schools (as we will do in a matter of weeks), and he did say he was lonely and angry yesterday--but that had nothing to do with this child.
We don't watch TV--we have been VERY careful about exposure to such things. Ordinarily, he is VERY good about talking about his feelings and saying if he is angry, frustrated, etc. I have no idea where he would get that impulse--except from some other kids at the school, which is a big part of why we are getting out of there. Still, that's no excuse.
Has anyone been shocked in this way by your own child's behavior? Can anyone shed any light on this? I am still mortified. We talked about why not to do such a thing to someone, and what to do if he feels unhappy at school, etc. What else should I do? He has NEVER done anything like this before, ever.
DS, who will be four next month, did something extremely out of character yesterday at childcare. When I got there to pick him up, two teachers were intercepting him in a tussle with a little girl. They told me he had his hands on her neck.
This is absolutely out of character for him. I am speechless. We talked later about why he did such a thing. He really couldn't give a reason at all, and I doubt it was anything this little girl did/said. As it happens, many of his friends have just transferred schools (as we will do in a matter of weeks), and he did say he was lonely and angry yesterday--but that had nothing to do with this child.
We don't watch TV--we have been VERY careful about exposure to such things. Ordinarily, he is VERY good about talking about his feelings and saying if he is angry, frustrated, etc. I have no idea where he would get that impulse--except from some other kids at the school, which is a big part of why we are getting out of there. Still, that's no excuse.
Has anyone been shocked in this way by your own child's behavior? Can anyone shed any light on this? I am still mortified. We talked about why not to do such a thing to someone, and what to do if he feels unhappy at school, etc. What else should I do? He has NEVER done anything like this before, ever.
