Becoming reclusive near the end

[Barefoot~Baker]

I'm 38 weeks, and as you can imagine I'm so tired and uncomfortable. I dread going food shopping, and I pretty much just want to stay at home all the time where my bed is nearby.

Does anyone else get like this? My mom invited me to a bbq at her house this weekend and I told her I probably wouldn't go. I'm too tired, especially in the afternoons, and I don't feel like socializing, that just wears me out mentally these days.

[Mamatoabunch]

Toward the end I only go to Mass, my dh gets a grocery list. It is just too much for me.

[xelakann]

Originally Posted by Mrs. Turner

Does anyone else get like this? My mom invited me to a bbq at her house this weekend and I told her I probably wouldn't go. I'm too tired, especially in the afternoons, and I don't feel like socializing, that just wears me out mentally these days.

I did with my son. Wouldn't even go grocery shopping. I am wondering if it will be the same with my new baby... I'm only 28 weeks but I already feel more reclusive.

[pinksprklybarefoot]

I think I've been almost the opposite - we've crammed in a lot of family/social events in the past month or so because I want to get it all in before the baby comes. Then I'll become a recluse!

[wbg]

I find I am not so much reclusive, but I am reluctant to go far. I always feel like I need to be close to home. I usually entertain a lot, but towards the end I do not as I want my house to be ready in case I go into labour! It drives DH nuts, the last 4 weeks!! I insist on having a full fridge, pantry etc and am constantly picking up stuff. i go from being the Mum who lets everyone paint and make mud pies all day long to super dull, boring Mum!
And I hate going more than 10 minutes away! I am terrified I will go in to labour and be out an hour away with the kids. Having had 4 kids and never had that happen I am not sure where that comes from!

[AnnR33]

I'm "overdue" by 8 days so all the "is anything happening" from friends and family is driving me nuts. I've stopped answering the phone and have been sending out mass e-mails every few days saying "NO! Trust me, we'll let you know" LOL

I've also spent the last 2 wks or so pretty isolated. I did some nesting and been reading a lot and taking naps. I'm really HUGE and when I do got out I have to pee every 20 min which is a pain. I keep getting these looks of pity too

I didn't even go to my moms on Father's Day because the 1.5 hr drive each way seemed daunting. She was not too happy with me but too bad, it's not like they couldn't have come here. I offered but she wanted to show off her new kitchen :

So you're not alone!

[mouthcave]

That's how I am near the end, though I am kind of like that even when not pregnant, haha. It was especially intense this time around because I wanted to spend as much alone time with my oldest before the baby came. The day before I go into labor, I do get the urge to go out and do something though.

[MegBoz]

Oh yes yes yes!!!!!
Ha!

Although it wasn't because I was worn out. I felt *FINE*. Really. Totally fine. As a matter of fact the ONLY single reason I stopped teaching step aerobics every week was because I wanted to sleep late (Had to be up at 8:00 on Saturdays for my 9:00 class otherwise.) I still worked out, took my friends boxing class, lifted weights with DH, etc. When DS was 4 days late, DH & I trimmed the tree in the front yard, stacking & chopping wood.

BUT... You would think people couldn't see me in front of their eyes. They couldn't accept what was in front of them... a very PG, but healthy & physically comfortable lady. (I'm lucky, I didn't even have swelling in the ankles - NOTHING.) Everyone kept saying, "Oh, you must be so sick of being pregnant?" etc. Um, no, I feel GREAT physically! Really!

Then as the due date passed, I started freaking out! I never even had any BH, so I was starting to wonder if my uterus even worked! I was terrified of having to be induced, so the pressure of wondering if it would EVER happen got to me. (I had no problems going to 42W, but I know there IS some risk as you pass that.) Hearing ALL.THE.TIME, "Any day now, huh?" or "No Baby yet!? You still PG?" just rubbed salt in my wound.

And THEN there's the whole fun issue of birth discussions. : Ya know, "What?! Natural?! Humph... you'll be begging for that epidural!"
Um, yeah, if I were clueless & let them needlessly break my water & give me pitocin - increasing my pain - then let them force me to stay continually hooked up to a monitor & confined to the bed, unable to use natural pain relief techniques like immersion in water... yeah.. if I weren't educated & did it that way, I would be begging for an epidural!

As I joked, I was not fit for human contact!

[littlebb]

I'm 38 weeks this week and I did a post about the very same thing several weeks ago. I've been this way for awhile, but it's much, much worse now. I don't so much mind going somewhere (the store, etc.), but now I almost can't stand to go anywhere by myself. This is so weird, because I am SO independent normally. Now even just to go to the grocery store for a few items or whatever, I wait until DH gets home from work so we can go together. That's so unlike me. I made myself run out for one errand today and I felt very anxious the whole time. I can't explain it - it's just so weird.

We had a pretty crammed social schedule up until the holiday and we intentionally made sure we had nothing planned after that but sit and wait for baby to arrive and to finish up our projects and birth prep at home. I'm so glad, because the thought of being around a bunch of people or at BBQs and stuff just doesn't appeal to me AT ALL!

I'm guessing it's part of the nesting phase?

[littlebb]

Originally Posted by MegBoz

BUT... You would think people couldn't see me in front of their eyes. They couldn't accept what was in front of them... a very PG, but healthy & physically comfortable lady. (I'm lucky, I didn't even have swelling in the ankles - NOTHING.) Everyone kept saying, "Oh, you must be so sick of being pregnant?" etc. Um, no, I feel GREAT physically! Really!

Then as the due date passed, I started freaking out! I never even had any BH, so I was starting to wonder if my uterus even worked! I was terrified of having to be induced, so the pressure of wondering if it would EVER happen got to me. (I had no problems going to 42W, but I know there IS some risk as you pass that.) Hearing ALL.THE.TIME, "Any day now, huh?" or "No Baby yet!? You still PG?" just rubbed salt in my wound.

And THEN there's the whole fun issue of birth discussions. : Ya know, "What?! Natural?! Humph... you'll be begging for that epidural!"
Um, yeah, if I were clueless & let them needlessly break my water & give me pitocin - increasing my pain - then let them force me to stay continually hooked up to a monitor & confined to the bed, unable to use natural pain relief techniques like immersion in water... yeah.. if I weren't educated & did it that way, I would be begging for an epidural!

As I joked, I was not fit for human contact!

I can SO relate! I'm not to my due date yet, but I have the same anxieties about going past my due date and having to be induced with Pitocin or something. It's one of my worst fears. I've had a TON of BH my ENTIRE PG (thanks to the Red Raspberry Leaf I think), but I still have that anxiety.

I am used to the negative comments ('are you ready for it to be over?', 'aren't you tired of being PG?', and of course the horror stories of other people's births), but they seem to grate on my nerves that much more now. I think because I know with our planned homebirth, I don't need everyone's negative feelings or outlook or stories. Sometimes I think because others may have had a negative experience in pregnancy andl birth, others must have one also! And while I expect other people do have negative experiences, it's just not what I need to hear right now when I'm on the verge of my own birth!

[zuzunel09]

Replying to an old thread, because this sounds just like me right now at 40weeks minus 3 days. Thank goodness I'm not alone (but really, I am, because I want to be ).