OK so I've posted before about my 4 year old. This is the child who ran out of Target one day about 2 months ago and a person going out the door ahead of us caught him for me or he would've headed straight into the parking lot! (he was mad because I would not buy him a blue slushie)
Today we were at the park. There's a wading pool at this park, and we had been in it. It closes for a dinner break for an hour and reopens.
We stayed at the park with friends.
Later, when the pool reopened, DS wanted to go swim again. However, a cooler breeze had started, the baby was in a dry diaper, and his 2 year old sister didn't even go in the water the first time because she thought it was too cold.
I thought it was getting too cold to swim and 2 year old was playing happily in the sand, so I said no, and said it was getting too cold for baby to swim.
He actually accepted my answer and went back to playing in the sand!
Not too long ago, he would've probably just ran up there anyway the second my attention was diverted by one of the other two and then caused a scene when I made us all leave the park because of this.
it's so cool to see them growing up!
and I have to credit whoever on this board said he needed stronger consequences....not too long after the Target incident and that post, with that response, I saw a program on a local channel about a discipline thing called 1,2,3 Magic. While I didn't agree with ALL of it, I decided to try it out and 3=appropriate natural consequence or time out. (Time out for something like running in the road which obviously I can't just have a natural consequence)
It has given my son a very clear-cut way to tell when I mean business, and I only had to do the time out I think twice.
I've only been doing it a couple weeks, and already most of the time when I say "One" he'll shape up and usually even say "If you get to three, that's time out"
I think he NEEDED this very clear-cut approach. It really doesn't leave much room to question.
Now my 2 year old on the other hand, SHE thinks it's funny and will just keep counting "sophie four, sophie five"....
Today we were at the park. There's a wading pool at this park, and we had been in it. It closes for a dinner break for an hour and reopens.
We stayed at the park with friends.
Later, when the pool reopened, DS wanted to go swim again. However, a cooler breeze had started, the baby was in a dry diaper, and his 2 year old sister didn't even go in the water the first time because she thought it was too cold.
I thought it was getting too cold to swim and 2 year old was playing happily in the sand, so I said no, and said it was getting too cold for baby to swim.
He actually accepted my answer and went back to playing in the sand!
Not too long ago, he would've probably just ran up there anyway the second my attention was diverted by one of the other two and then caused a scene when I made us all leave the park because of this.
it's so cool to see them growing up!and I have to credit whoever on this board said he needed stronger consequences....not too long after the Target incident and that post, with that response, I saw a program on a local channel about a discipline thing called 1,2,3 Magic. While I didn't agree with ALL of it, I decided to try it out and 3=appropriate natural consequence or time out. (Time out for something like running in the road which obviously I can't just have a natural consequence)
It has given my son a very clear-cut way to tell when I mean business, and I only had to do the time out I think twice.
I've only been doing it a couple weeks, and already most of the time when I say "One" he'll shape up and usually even say "If you get to three, that's time out"
I think he NEEDED this very clear-cut approach. It really doesn't leave much room to question.
Now my 2 year old on the other hand, SHE thinks it's funny and will just keep counting "sophie four, sophie five"....
