Trying for a boy - Page 2

[calngavinsmom]

Originally Posted by zinemama

Much as I am against RIC, I think that is a really strange reason to want a boy. It's like you want him for his penis alone and what you won't do to it. That just kind of squicks me out.

I didn't want boys for "his penis alone", I wanted them because I know they would be safe from circ with me. I figured if everyone in the world had a 50% chance at a boy or a girl, then give me(or other prointact parents) the boys so that the procircers had more of a chance percentage wise to have a girl.

It might seem strange to some, but to me it is just a happiness to know these boys will be safe from harm.

Take care,

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

Originally Posted by perspective

What does "shettled" mean?

A Dr. Shettles found that timing of when you bd can greatly effect the gender you get. For a girl you bd up to 3-5 days before O preferebly farther out. For a boy you get as close to O as possible.

The reason for this is that the sperm that are "female" have a longer life but swim slower than the "male" sperm. So the "female" sperm will sit and wait on the egg and beat any males to it. While the closer to O you are the higher the odds are the male sperm will get there first.

If done correctly the odds of getting your chosen gender is over 95% but it is easy to mess up if you are not really watching your fertile signs. Timing for a boy is easier than a girl if you know when you are oing.

[PuppyFluffer]

Since I see circumcision as a human rights issue and a violence issue....having a boy has been an opportunity to send a little bit of peaceful energy into the world. Bringing a baby into the world in a peaceful manner was hugely important to me. This is the reason I read a lot about birth before hand. I used hypnobirthing during labor and I just loved the book Birthing From Within. I see the creation of life as a peaceful event.

That boys in our culture experience such seering pain and violation during circumcision is deeply disturbing to me. The opportunity to NOT participate in that violence was a very important part of having a boy for me. I didn't have any gender preference though before hand.

So, I totally get wanting a boy so you have the opportunity to avoid violence in the welcoming of a new soul.

[AnalogWife]

I don't think it's fair to say that OP's desires should be "squicking" anyone out, she just said that instead of just talking the talk she wanted to walk the walk. What's wrong with that? I'm sure she doesn't want him JUST for his penis, jeez.

[leila1213]

I want a boy this time for the same reason! But after all this timing talk, I'm thinking it's probably a long shot...this pregnancy is a surprise, although we were going to TTC in about 6 months.

[liseux]

Originally Posted by tutucrazy

No we don't "want them for their penis". We want to have boys for many other reasons too. It's just in this crazy genital-cutting world it is nice to be able to say, "hey, I have an intact boy and he is perfectly happy and healthy". This is often one of the most powerful forms of intactivism, thy own experience.

This is exactly how I feel too. I was happy either way, but did think having an intact son would be a good testament to intact being normal.