struggling

[sarahr]

DH is traveling a lot this summer -- gone at least two nights each week, and three times, gone for an entire week. DD often doesn't go to sleep until 9. I'm so tired, and struggling to care for her, keep the house reasonably picked up, and keep us both fed. Oh, and work during the day, so I can't nap. I can't go to sleep before DD, can I?

Just a vent. I can't believe DH is essentially missing my entire first trimester. He feels bad about it, but there's nothing he can do.

[mamacatsbaby]

Vent on then . We've struggled with many sleep issues here and have just now come to a place, seemingly, of peace. May just be a phase though, we'll see : .

[1babysmom]

Aww, I'm sorry. I can relate to your frustrations. My DH works 24-72 hour shifts regularly, so he's gone 1-3 days at a time 1-2 times a week, and for some reason I'm having a MUCH harder time with it over the last 6ish months than ever before in our marriage. It's rough doing so much by your self!! I do NOT look forward to bedtimes.

[mamainspain]

I'm sorry you're struggling.

My dh works really long hours, so we only see each other for a few hours in the afternoon (he works late nights) It can be so frustrating and tiring.

I know it's really difficult in the summer, but is there any way you could move up bedtime to 8:30?? Or could you hire a babysitter or ask a friend to come over and help you out once or twice a week, so you could have some time for yourself and rest a bit?

I hope you can find a way to get that much needed rest. Good luck!!

[Natalie's Mama]

I hear you. DH is away for about 15 days (and nights) a month and there is at least three days a month that he is no help because he is exhausted. DD is a terrible sleeper and I'm exhausted. We also live a really long way from any family so I'm pretty much on my own. You're not alone. I hope we all can get some rest.

[sarahr]

Thanks, everyone.

Bedtime is "officially" 7:30, but DD is in sort of an in between nap stage -- when she doesn't nap, she's a mess (and asleep) by 6:30, but when she does nap, she's awake until close to 9. But she's in her crib talking to herself, so at least I can lie down.

We're all going on vacation next week : so I can catch up on lots of sleep then.

[Rowansmama]

I'm sorry you're dealing with this and can totally relate! DH is military and he's going to be gone for the entire month of August on a course, then he'll be in Afghanistan for 2 months in my third trimester. So yeah, I hear ya! It can be hard.