^This. (and mama....you are a warrior,
...I'm always glad to meet mamas like you.)
I want to say, that the above post is what I meant, when I said that I always try to give an encouraging smile and understanding to parents in this position...because you REALLY DON'T know what the true story is.
Sometimes I get mad, just burned up....because it's obvious the parent thinks it's funny, doesn't care..whatever...but then I think "What if this woman is REALLY embarassed and THAT is why she's laughing it off?" - and I jsut mind my own business.
The bottom line is...it doesn't really matter what the situation was...it doesn't really matter what the hidden reasons or non-reasons were behind this annoyance to other shoppers....kindness, it what really matters.
Kindness gets you a long way, I've learned. Kindness, in the face of a situation where you really don't even HAVE to be kind...where most people would say that you have a right to be UNKIND...gets you even further, at least in my book.
If you can't be understanding with people like this, on the off chance that there is a real, legit reason for their behavior....at least pity them, for their apparent lack of social awareness, which would cause any of us, if we could, to take a crying kid outside.
We are parents here. Everyone remembers the preparent days, where you saw a kid melt down in the store and thought "not my kids, when I have kids they will not behave like that" - then you have kids and all sorts of things you didn't understand, judged, etc are thrown in your face and sometimes you have to laugh at ever having judged those parents. And you can see, in the faces of people with no kids, who don't get it...those same judgements and you have to laugh it off, because you think to yourself "well, you don't have kids, those of us with kids, get it" - so...BE that. Be the "those of us with kids" and recognize that sometimes it's not clear to everyone else what's going on. Trust that what your kids are capable of doing to you (making you look like a complete jerk in public) other peoples kids are capable of doing to them.
Kindness can never be wasted. Best case scenario...you give a small boost of confidence to a mama who feels like running out into traffic over what her kid is doing and is so embarassed and just wants to sink into the floor....WORST case scenario...the mama is really ebing a jerk and just doesn't care...and YOU practiced tolerance and put POSITIVE vibes out in to the world anyway!
How can you lose, when you choose kindness, compassion and accept that, as a mere mortal human...you CAN'T see all reasons for all things??