Originally Posted by rainyday
What about kindness to every other shopper or employee in that store?
Originally Posted by AverysMomma
<snip Kindness gets you a long way, I've learned. Kindness, in the face of a situation where you really don't even HAVE to be kind...where most people would say that you have a right to be UNKIND...gets you even further, at least in my book.
^Kindness is always cool, even when someone is being thoughtless with your personal enjoyment of shared space. How lucky for my throbbing fingers, that I have already answered the question you asked...out of curiosity: What do you say to your children...when you tell them to stop bickering and one of them offers up the ole "He staaaaarted it!!" - because that's essentially what you're saying here.
"Her child annoyed me and my perception, is that she doesn't care and isn't responding properly, so I should feel free to judge her, glare at her and/or ask her to leave a space I don't even own" - right, because this makes you look any better?
Come on mamas, it's called radical acceptance...look it up. Crap happens. Other peoples kids noises are harder to tolerate than our own. Some men smell bad...sometimes a young man ogles you without shame in the freezer isle. One time a lady I had never seen before, tried to feed a big huge piece of cheddarworst to my baby, after I clearly said "she doesn't eat that sort of thing" - Welcome to Earth, what you are about to experience is called life...sometimes it;s fantastic, sometimes it's really freakin' annoying. When you go into public...guess who you meet there? THE PUBLIC! "The Public" are loud, they chew gum obnoxiously, they scream at their kids in the parking lot, they whine, they yell into their cell phones, or worse yet...those earbug cells, that you can't even SEE! UGH! They do all sorts of things which drive. you. crazy.
Here;s the thing....YOU do things that drive THEM crazy, too. Like..when you're walking along in the isle and your son, who is learning to whistle, strikes up a tune as he merrily walks along...and you think "wow, he's getting so good at that"
and smile, so proud at your boy....and down the isle...a man is turning to his wife, and says "I wish someone would stop that god awful screeching...look at that mother, she's smiling, she doesn't even care, I shouldn't have to listen to that when I'm out, I can hardly think!"
- See, YOU are "The Public" to someone else!
I say, and I mean this...get over it. How many times a week is this happening to you, that you mamas can even GET that upset about it! This is not happening in your living room...this is happening in a space which does not belong to you, which you are vouluntarily entering, KNOWING that you could be confronted with something obnoxious.
Yeah, if they really were able bodied, and they really could have had one of them take the kid outside, etc etc...it's rude. Okay, there you have it...they were rude. but so is the guy who makes that snorting sound and then spits a big phlem ball out of his mouth onto the ground right next to you. So is the man, who didn't wear underwear and has baggy pants on and gives you an eyefull, so is the lady who cuts her car in front of you into the space you just waited so patiently for....if you walk around angry and judging these people all the time, I have two thoughts for you:
1. Be careful, because judgment and anger are poison to your soul, and
2. try not to ever have a bad day....because it stinks when you do and people glare at you when everything is going wrong and your kid is crying and you're running late, etc.
I'll tell you, I don't know how the universe works, I wouldn't pretend to KNOW if there is such a thing as getting back what you put out...but I try, just in case, to put out good energy..I figure, worse case scenario, I went through my life with mercy, forgiveness, grace and good will toward man. Even really rude ones.