Birth control plans?

[penstamon]

I really haven't thought about this, but my OB is insistent that we resolve this "problem" by 6w pp. I will not do bcp's because I hate taking anything like that and do not ever want to go back to the fake cycles that I had years ago. OB wants me to get a non-hormonal IUD, but I am not big on the thought of something jammed into my uterus, kwim? DH and I have never used condoms or diaphragms or anything of the sort in 10 yrs together. Good old NFP and withdrawal worked perfect until we wanted to TTC (which was quick too).

I know that after baby during bfing there can be stray ovulation occurring and I would like to wait for baby #2 for at least another 2 or so years.

What are your plans? What do you think about NFP/withdrawal?

[LilMamiBella]

I think this is the last baby for me. Dh thinks we should try again in a few years. I'm still young and so I think I'll just opt for the iud. Now I'm not sure which iud to go for.

[mags]

My DH is getting a vasectomy. This is our third and last baby.

[freezehead]

laser beam.

for reasons cited by mags. (though ultimately i hate the finality of it all.)

[GoldmanBaby09]

I'm not totally sure what we are going to do, but I would be very careful about IUD. Anyone I know who has had one ends up with nothing but trouble, i.e. serious infection, infertility, the works. We will likely have another child after this one (though hopefully not for a few years). I think we will probably use condoms for a while and then figure something else out. Where is that stupid male birth control pill they have been talking about for years? They make a pill for everything else. . .

[amydiane]

We used NFP both for avoiding and conceiving, worked perfectly both ways.

Whatever you end up going with, don't let your OB pressure you into anything you don't want.

[gossamerwindweb]

This is the last baby. We tried for 10 years to get pregnant with this one, and this pregnancy has been very difficult. We can NOT do this again. So it is a urologist appt for hubby.

[bemommy]

I keep telling DH that until he gets snipped there will be no sex.

Unfortunately that is probably more difficult for me to follow through with. . .I'll be having the fit of my diaphragm checked at my 6 week appointment and there are always condoms.

[beansmama]

I'm going to try the copper T IUD (the non-hormonal one)...although if it makes my periods too heavy/crampy i'll prolly switch to the Mirena.

My doctor says that she doesn't like to put IUD's in until about 8-12 weeks postpartum. I think that *sucks* because it means i'll be using condoms for about 4-6 weeks...i freaking HATE condoms, but it's better than getting prego again, i suppose!

[leighann79]

I'll be doing the IUD again (Mirena). It worked well for us last time.

[haren.13]

We'll probably use NFP or condoms (though I HATE condoms) but we haven't discussed it too much. I'm in the "the more the merrier" camp when it comes to kids, but DH would be happy stopping at 2 (which we now have). I do want to wait until Charlotte is a year old before throwing all caution to the wind, because my milk was gone by the time I was a month along this time (though that didn't stop ODD, Maya, from nursing through!). With tandem nursing I'm pretty sure I won't be able to get pregnant at all, but I know stranger things have happened

[Mama_Michelle]

This is our third baby and likely our last. We have successfully used NFP for 12 years but I have to say for me personally, it is harder to use the fertility awareness method when breastfeeding. Taking my temp is always hard because I tend not to get longer chunks of sleep so my temp tends to be all over the place and I have a lot less cervical mucus when BF so its hard for me to tell when I'm ovulating. The whole time I am nervous. Once I get my cycle back, we supplement with condoms during the time I should be ovulating (my cycles are very regular). I don't look forward to that again and have considered trying another kind of birth control...of course, DH wants to get a vasectomy, which would solve all our problems. It just seems so final to me, I am having a hard time considering it as a real possibility.

[Angelorum]

I'm planning on going back to our NFP/condoms when fertile routine. I know it can be harder while breastfeeding, but I really did like it before. My sister always had really long periods of lactational ammenorhea, as in a couple of years long. So, if I'm like her, it may not be too much of an issue.

[Ianthe]

DH is getting the V as soon as he gets insurance. Hopefully bfing will work until then.. and probably condoms.

[Reha]

I'll be doing NFP along with occasional condoms, to be on the safe side, until I get my cycles back. Its that ovulating before the first post-baby period that scares me! I don't mind having a 3rd baby, but I really don't want to get pregnant before this current baby is 18 months old.

[learnlovebe]

After ds was born, my dr talked to me about bc at my 6 week appt. I looked at her like she was crazy! Sex? Now? Are you kidding? DS was 9 lbs 11 oz and I had a painful recovery, there was NO way I was letting my dh anywhere near me.

We didn't use anything between having ds and getting pg w/ this one. I didn't cycle until ds was almost 9 months old, and we started trying right away for this one. It took 8 months.

SO, knowing that we do want a 3rd child, and how long it took to conceive this one, we probably won't use anything this time either- although we'll probably practice a little of the fertility awareness until we're ready. That sounds silly..."practice a little". Hmmm. I might need ot rethink this.

I've had 3 friends whose dh's got the big V this spring. To me that just seems so....final. DH feels this way too. Maybe we'll feel differently after #3.

[Quindin]

I can't do hormones of any kind and IUDs fall out (big uterus)

We will do NFP combined with a barrier for each of us (cervical cap or diaphragm + condoms) Paranoid, but my sister had a condom baby and I know of a diaphragm baby, too. Then I might even throw in a Persona fertility monitor once I am not breastfeeding anymore (it only works well when the lactation hormones are gone)

People almost get angry at us when they ask hear we won't sterilized, even though we feel like is 6 is enough... The thing is that I also thought that 2 was enough 9 years ago, and see how much our minds have changed! So no, we are not ready to take that step yet - even though we DON'T want to get pregnant again! Crazy, I know...

[Knitgeek]

Originally Posted by mags

My DH is getting a vasectomy. This is our third and last baby.

Us too ... DH is pretty adamant about it

[lindsayjean]

I didn't get my period back postpartum last time until DD was like 1.5 yrs old, so I'm not SUPER concerned about it. Plus, it took 2 yrs to conceive my 2 y.o., and I got pregnant a few cycles after I started cycling again this time. I guess since I know we're not done I'm just not going to stress about it. I feel like I know my fertility signs pretty well that if I started to get fertile I'd know and if we weren't quite ready we could do something about it. So I guess I'm in the nothing camp haha.

[GoodNamesGone]

We use VCF (vaginal contraceptive film) which has worked great. It's a spermicide.

I had PCOS so I never knew exactly when (or if) I'd ovulate. I was pregnant a few months after we stopped using it.

It's relatively simple to use, you insert it (foreplay is a great time for that ) and in 15 minutes it has disolved and is ready kill off any little swimmers.

Soooo much better than condoms. DH introduced me to VCF, he and his ex used to use it too, and it worked for them for years- so I have more evidence than just my experiance.

We're going back to that soon as I'm up for intimacey again.