Birth control plans? - Page 2

[alicewyf]

I think we're doing condoms and FAM for the first little while. Depending on how that goes (like if it goes badly w/r/t getting enough sleep to temp, etc.) then I might consider a non-hormonal IUD. I don't want to even THINK about getting pregnant again until LO has had a year of breastmilk. We do plan on more than one child, though, so if it happened it wouldn't be the end of the world.

[eli's mama]

DH is considering a vasectomy. I'm not so sure. We agreed this should be our last. But I don't like anything that final. I don't usually get AF back for around 19 months and have never gotten pg without it. so we have a little time to decide.

[LindsC]

Dh is getting a vasectomy. We have 2 children together and he has a 3rd child from a previous relationship. We are both happy with our family size and have decided that if we feel the need to expand our family in the future, we would like to go the adoption route.

[bananababies]

Originally Posted by GoldmanBaby09

I'm not totally sure what we are going to do, but I would be very careful about IUD. Anyone I know who has had one ends up with nothing but trouble, i.e. serious infection, infertility, the works.

I had one (copper) for over 2 years with no problems, other than just getting used to it at first (random cramps for the first few months). After that it was awesome to not have to think about anything!

We're done after this babe, so the big V is in order for DH. Until that is in effect (since it takes a few months to be truly effective) we'll probably be using some sort of spermicide/pull out/lam combo. Just the pull out method does NOT work for us! Both of our babies were conceived using that method!

I think the only problem will actually be getting DH to the initial doctors visit. He's all for the V, but is a big huge baby about going to the doc and hasn't been in nearly 10 years. Since he was in the Army and physicals were required!

[pinksprklybarefoot]

I'm going to get the Mirena IUD - I've only talked to people with good experiences and my MW thinks they are awesome. I don't want to take the pill, hate condoms, and withdrawal seems too risky when I will be in school full-time. Neither one of us wants to do anything permanent, because although this might be the last baby, never say never.

[georgiegirl1974]

I have no idea. After DD, we used abstinence for a while (I had some healing problems). I didn't get my period back until DD was 20 months. Before that we were just using the withdrawal method. Then we used condoms for a while, until I got sick of them. Then we went back to withdrawal for 6 months or so before we started TTC, and I got pg the first month. If this baby is "easy" (DD was colicky and very high needs), then DH might agree to have another one, in which case we will probably just use the same methods we did before. If we decide we are done, then he can get a vasectomy.

[AniellasMommy]

OK, so here is my related question:
I had my baby this morning and with labor fresh in my mind I don't want to do it again. but I know memory fades fast
How soon after giving birth is too soon to say no more kids because of birth

[Mama_Michelle]

Originally Posted by AniellasMommy

OK, so here is my related question:
I had my baby this morning and with labor fresh in my mind I don't want to do it again. but I know memory fades fast

: Congratulations! I think you have to give it some time before you decide if you want anymore kids RIGHT after giving birth! For me it also took getting consistent long stretches of sleep before we decided on #2 and for #3 it took even longer than that!!!

[Amberoxy]

Originally Posted by AniellasMommy

OK, so here is my related question:
I had my baby this morning and with labor fresh in my mind I don't want to do it again. but I know memory fades fast
How soon after giving birth is too soon to say no more kids because of birth

Congratulations! It took me about 2 months to get over giving birth and decide that another child would be welcome. I tried to get a Mirena put in but apparantly, my uturus is shapped oddly and it wouldn't stay in. I tried the mini-pill but couldn't remember to take it. I just gave up and said, "you know what? I think I want another one anyway and I want that 2nd one as soon as possible." So, that ended birth control after Sam's birth.

This time, we are done done done with 2. Anika isn't born yet so it isn't the labor talking . My DH has pretty much agreed to the vasectomy. I've told him he should start working on getting a dr. and appt. so that he is good to go once I am healed but he is dragging his feet. He knows though that there won't be any activity until it is done since I don't want to take any chances.

[bajamergrrl]

Originally Posted by Quindin

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People almost get angry at us when they ask hear we won't sterilized, even though we feel like is 6 is enough...

Wow, that is pretty darned rude of these people! How is your birth control any of their business to begin with??

[blissful_maia]

We will use NFP (mostly just observing mucus, but temping if it seems my fertility is returning) and abstinence or withdrawal when fertile. After both dds, my cycle returned when they were exactly 2 years old and I got pregnant quite easily. They are 2y9m apart, and dd2 and this baby will be 2y10m apart (had a m/c my first pp cycle). Hormonal birth control is definitely not for me, and we will be having at least a couple more children so if they surprise us it won't be the end of the world.

[aricha]

Originally Posted by penstamon

I really haven't thought about this, but my OB is insistent that we resolve this "problem" by 6w pp.

If doc is insistent before I am ready to decide, I would just say "we're going to use condoms" and leave it at that... if you decide on something later, you can tell him/her you changed your mind.

Originally Posted by learnlovebe

After ds was born, my dr talked to me about bc at my 6 week appt. I looked at her like she was crazy! Sex?

Seriously... that's what I told my midwife... ummm, right now our birth control method is not having sex. It works really well...

[tracymom1]

I am considering the Paragard IUD. Last time we said we would use condoms but our reality is that we just won't (as proven by this pregnancy!). I may want a 3rd at some point so I am not ready for DH to get the snip yet. I got pg again at 13 months pp because although I knew better, my period had not returned yet and I showed no signs of ovulation. I really don't want that to happen again!!!

[curious&eager]

I was planning on doing FAM and condoms. But, now I do have to wonder as someone else mentioned about lack of sleep. I'm not getting three hours straight yet, so I don't know how FAM will work. But on that note, if I'm not getting that much sleep it's because I'm feeding all day and night, so LAM should cover me for a while and we'll probably use condoms. Although right now with all my little stitches, it could be a while before we even attempt DTD.

[durafemina]

I too cannot bear the idea of hormonal BC. I think this time I will go with a copper IUD . . . last time we used withdrawal and got pregnant (unintentionally) when dd was a year old. And while I love NFP and used it for several years, I can't see it being accurate enough with postpartum/breastfeeding cycles + being a midwife (ie irregular sleep schedule). Barrier methods . . . we just hate.
So. . . IUD at 3 months it is. I don't love the idea or the possible risks, but it seems best of a bad lot. Doesn't help that I caught a baby in May that was conceived with one in place though

[durafemina]

coming back to this to answer the sub-topic -
After dd I didn't think I could go through labour again for a looong time (birth was a great homebirth - just long & hard). When I got pregnant again I was still a bit undecided about whether I could 'do' labour/birth (like there was a choice ).
With this birth (3 days ago now) I thought the morning after "nope, definitely can't do that again". Today I'm thinking "hmmm, I actually probably could - just not anytime soon". Babies are really really nice