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post #121 of 208
I also don't think bud or buddy is cold. It's an affectionate word for close friend where I come from.

I wouldn't feel comfortable using most of the nicknames in this thread but I have no issue with other people using them.

OP- What nicknames do you prefer for your kids?
post #122 of 208
I think its ok.. i have a friend that calls her DS buddy ALL.THE.TIME. to the point i could not even remember his name... he loves it!
post #123 of 208
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post #124 of 208
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Originally Posted by mamazee View Post
Well, Charles Ingalls called Laura "Half Pint" and I don't think it showed that he put her on the same level as a dairy product.
thats really funny!
post #125 of 208
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Originally Posted by NightOwlwithowlet View Post

I used work pediatric ICU and we once lost seven year old, the only child of a single dad, and I still remember the dad crying, "Don't leave me, Buddy." I cared that little boy off and on for three years and he was most certainly loved by his dad. I still cry when I think about him. Sometimes, I think of them both when I call my son, Buddy.
post #126 of 208
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I haven't read all the responses, but I sorta agree with OP, judgmental as I may be. To me--not to everyone of course--but to me saying "Buddy" sorta puts the child is on your equal and adult wavelength, not as your little coddling. It's an arms-length term of endearment. I reminds me of that movie (and book, but I never read the book) The Hours where the mom calls her 4 year old "Bug." "Hey, Bug!" is cute sounding enough, until you realize she kind of can't stand him and he bugs her, and that's how she developped the nickname. Buddy sorta reminds me of that...that this isn't your baby, your child, the fruit of your loins, the light of your life, this is your buddy and you love this buddy but mostly just on the baseball field or side by side on the barstool. Buttt, maybe I'm reading too much into things. Just to clarify, I know everyone here DOES love their children, no matter what they call them, I'm not saying that they don't. But I wont' be calling my DS "Buddy." He's Cutie or Sweetheart or his name.
See I don't get that completely. Along with the small people in the house I call the following people buddy: Babymomma, brother, dad, hubby, mom. So basically, the list of people who can walk up and hug me without asking and without getting shoved in the mud are the people I call buddy.

That is it. I don't call someone buddy if they are just "on the baseball field or side by side on the barstool" friend. They don't get nicknames cause they aren't close enough to my heart.
post #127 of 208
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See I don't get that completely. Along with the small people in the house I call the following people buddy: Babymomma, brother, dad, hubby, mom. So basically, the list of people who can walk up and hug me without asking and without getting shoved in the mud are the people I call buddy.

That is it. I don't call someone buddy if they are just "on the baseball field or side by side on the barstool" friend. They don't get nicknames cause they aren't close enough to my heart.
The bolded part made me giggle!

I have heard *buddy* used much in the same way as *chief*, *pal*, and *jacka$$* but its usually one adult male to another over some "slight" (as in, "Hey buddy, move your car" or whatever). Maybe this is what the OP was thinking?
post #128 of 208
We call our ds Buddy and have since the day he was born.

I am sorry but I just don't get how a nickname can make you a less caring more cold parent.
post #129 of 208
we've been calling ds little buddy since he was born, and i can assure you it's meant with the greatest sense of warmth and affection. he's got a whole host of other nicknames- right now my favorite is robbers or mr robbers, cause his name is Robert...
post #130 of 208
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Well, Charles Ingalls called Laura "Half Pint" and I don't think it showed that he put her on the same level as a dairy product.
For real.

Growing up my dad had the following nicknames for me:
Ham Bone
Coon Dog
Piss Ant

I am 36 years old and to this day he still calls me "Ham" and "Coon" when I am visiting. They've never been anything except terms of endearment and I can't imagine anyone thinking that my father LITERALLY considered me a bone, a dog or an ant. Some folks just have no sense of humor I suppose.
post #131 of 208
My father was raised in Mississippi and he always called my brother "little buddy." To us, it is a warm and affectionate term of endearment. My sister now calls her son "buddy" in a loving and lilting voice.
post #132 of 208
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post #133 of 208
I found myself calling DS1 buddy today while consoling him. I don't care if its really right or not in some peoples eyes, to my son it makes him feel loved and his feelings valuable when I say this to him when he is down. It's the whole, I'm here with you I care thing and really I could call him pickle but its the emotion behind the word and the word buddy just happens to be the placemark delivering the emotion.
post #134 of 208
I have about three gazillion nicknames for each of my children. I use terms of endearment all the time, calling them love or smooch or dear or, well, anything under the sun! And I frequently call them buddy. I don't know, it's all said with love.
post #135 of 208
I'm just curious what prompted this thread. A nickname in itself is generally endearing, whether it's buddy, bug or sweetie.
post #136 of 208
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See I don't get that completely. Along with the small people in the house I call the following people buddy: Babymomma, brother, dad, hubby, mom. So basically, the list of people who can walk up and hug me without asking and without getting shoved in the mud are the people I call buddy.

That is it. I don't call someone buddy if they are just "on the baseball field or side by side on the barstool" friend. They don't get nicknames cause they aren't close enough to my heart.

Not at this point semantics would be worth debating since the non, -buddyers are clearly in the minority, I think when I posted I was saying what "a buddy" means to ME.
post #137 of 208
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I call my kids buddy

Yep. Its always said lovingly.
post #138 of 208
So, I'm really wishy washy when it comes to stuff I don't know anything about so I am not 100% committed to my thoughts in this post.

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Originally Posted by AnalogWife View Post
To me, saying "Buddy" sorta puts the child on your equal and adult wavelength, not as your little coddling. It's an arms-length term of endearment.

...that this isn't your baby, your child, the fruit of your loins, the light of your life, this is your buddy and you love this buddy.
I think.... and of course, I'm just guessing and I know everyone who may use the term has their own reasons and most likely it's cause they love their 'little buddy'.....

Buddy is most commonly used by fathers toward their sons as a term of endearment because anything more affectionate, such as honey, sweetie, sugar plum, cutie pie, sweetums, darling, dear son, etc. would not be approved of in this society because it's not 'manly' enough.
post #139 of 208
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Originally Posted by ~Purity♥Lake~ View Post
So, I'm really wishy washy when it comes to stuff I don't know anything about.



I think.... and of course, I'm just guessing and I know everyone who may use the term has their own reasons and most likely it's cause they lover their 'little buddy'.....

Buddy is most commonly used by fathers toward their sons as a term of endearment because anything more affectionate, such as honey, sweetie, sugar plum, cutie pie, sweetums, darling, dear son, etc. would not be approved of in this society because it's not 'manly' enough.
I can see how some people would do that. I use buddy more then my husband does though. I also use sweetie, baby bear, honey, and probably a bunch of things I don't even realize. My son likes it, and the love he is getting when I use the term always makes him feel better. If an outside things its cold that is okay, because my son is feeling the warmth of the statement and he is the one whose opinion matter in that moment. I am talking to him to make him feel better, not to look like anything special to anyone who may be eavesdropping on our special moment.
post #140 of 208
If only I could list all the nicknames we have for our little man! Its endless! I'm not sure we've used the one Buddy, but I do call him Bubbs - and I'm not even sure thats a word! Or a name of any sort for that matter!

Lets see, theres, scootch, squishy man, Link, smiley man, sweetie, fuzzy head, happy man, babe, cutie pie, and I've had a long day so I can't remember the others. But, I'm not sure I could remember all of them at once anyway.

but why would Buddy be any less endearing than any of the others I've listed? What about Sport as a nickname - I've heard that used and think its cute.
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