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post #141 of 208
I don't call my boys buddy,I prefer using every other nickname under the sun, but DH calls DS1 buddy all the time and has done it since he was a baby.
post #142 of 208
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Originally Posted by ~Purity♥Lake~ View Post

Buddy is most commonly used by fathers toward their sons as a term of endearment because anything more affectionate, such as honey, sweetie, sugar plum, cutie pie, sweetums, darling, dear son, etc. would not be approved of in this society because it's not 'manly' enough.

I know my husband does this sometimes in public after he's told someone my long haired, pastel wearing 3 year old is a boy, and they keep saying she and her as if he never said it. That's when I hear him start calling him "buddy" and "little man." It sort of bugs me when dh does this, but it REALLY bugs him when people ignore him when he or my son say that he's a boy (doesn't bug him for people to assume he's a girl, just when people ignore it after they's been told).
post #143 of 208
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Originally Posted by Storm Bride View Post
hmm...I call ds2 "goober" sometimes. Maybe it's good that I'm homeschooling.
My aunt and uncle called my cousin Goober...cause he was a preemie and so much smaller than their other kids they called him peanut, the by about 3 months old he had more than made up for it and was a huge chubby guy, so he was their chocolate covered peanut...a goober. His brother couldn't say goober so called him boober...and it stuck, he is still boober or boob to this day, he's 19.
post #144 of 208
DH calls DS 'buddy' and he loves him more than anything. Nothing cold there. I don't even think that my husband EVER actually thought about it the way it is discussed about it here.
post #145 of 208
I've called DS buddy a few times. His "official" nickname was Bubbadoo. I have also called him bub, babe, honey, sweety, goomba, etc.
post #146 of 208
It's a guy thing, in our family. Dh calls ds 'buddy'. I call the kids "sweetpea" or "hon" or "babe" or "bambino/a"
post #147 of 208
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Originally Posted by mamazee View Post
Well, Charles Ingalls called Laura "Half Pint" and I don't think it showed that he put her on the same level as a dairy product.
After lurking for a full 6 months this is what makes me register. It's little half-pint of apple cider half drunk. No dairy, just produce .

My little brother was my "Bud" until he died. Remember that doll "My Buddy"? "My buddy, my buddy, wherever I go, he goes..... my buddy and me like to climb up a tree..."

We (my father and myself) used to ask him if he was our buddy all the time. It started with some old guy at the local diner announcing that his buddy had arrived whenever my little brother's three year old self walked through the door. Sigh.

Bud is still one of the most common words that comes out of my mouth with the kids I care for and I call my own child Ma most of the time.
post #148 of 208
The strangest nickname I gave my Dd is, "Mrs. McPheeley" I have no idea where it came from but DS is now, "Mr. Mcpheely"
So when it's time to leave I am often heard saying, "Let's go Mr. and Mrs. McPheeley"
I'm not even really sure how to spell it.
I also call them wackoes
noodleheads
ramalamas
pumpkinpies
stinky and stinky butt
post #149 of 208
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Originally Posted by hipumpkins View Post
The strangest nickname I gave my Dd is, "Mrs. McPheeley" I have no idea where it came from but DS is now, "Mr. Mcpheely"
So when it's time to leave I am often heard saying, "Let's go Mr. and Mrs. McPheeley"
Like from Mr. Rogers' Neighborhood? I think he was the Mailman
post #150 of 208
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Originally Posted by Valval View Post
After lurking for a full 6 months this is what makes me register. It's little half-pint of apple cider half drunk. No dairy, just produce .

My little brother was my "Bud" until he died. Remember that doll "My Buddy"? "My buddy, my buddy, wherever I go, he goes..... my buddy and me like to climb up a tree..."

We (my father and myself) used to ask him if he was our buddy all the time. It started with some old guy at the local diner announcing that his buddy had arrived whenever my little brother's three year old self walked through the door. Sigh.

Bud is still one of the most common words that comes out of my mouth with the kids I care for and I call my own child Ma most of the time.
I can SO relate to registering just to get to talk about the half-pint thing. As you can see by my join date and post count, I'm a lurker too. Little House geek here -- my best friend and I have many long-running jokes involving quotes from the books that go all the way back to high school (we're late 30's now and both have kids!).

I'm so sorry you lost your "Bud." thanks for sharing your sweet memories with us.

Also - welcome to MDC!

Amy
post #151 of 208
I used to call the little girls I babysat "Sweet potato baby" and "Sack o' sweetie potatoes."

I used to call DD "ma petite chou," which I believe means literally "my little cabbage" or "ma petite pomme"
post #152 of 208
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Originally Posted by AnalogWife View Post
Not at this point semantics would be worth debating since the non, -buddyers are clearly in the minority, I think when I posted I was saying what "a buddy" means to ME.
And I'm saying I don't understand it. I am allowed to admit that right?
post #153 of 208
I've been calling DS "Bud" for as long as I can remember. I also call him "Bubba", "Bubs", "Monkey", and "Hijo". I call him "Hijo" so often that I think he repsonds to it more than his actual name. They all are terms of endearment.
post #154 of 208
I call almost all the little boys I know buddy. Always a term of endearment.

I usually call little boys I don't know buddy as well. If I accidentlly bump into a little one-"Sorry, buddy."

I agree with a previous poster who said that almost all nicknames given to a child are usually loving. I typically don't second guess the nicknames I hear parents use.
post #155 of 208
Okay, so after reading this thread, now I have that commercial for the toy from the 80s I'd guess "My Buddy, my buddy! Wherever I go......"
But of course I can't remember the words and now the tune is stuck....grrrrr.
post #156 of 208
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Originally Posted by ~Purity♥Lake~ View Post
So, I'm really wishy washy when it comes to stuff I don't know anything about so I am not 100% committed to my thoughts in this post.



I think.... and of course, I'm just guessing and I know everyone who may use the term has their own reasons and most likely it's cause they love their 'little buddy'.....

Buddy is most commonly used by fathers toward their sons as a term of endearment because anything more affectionate, such as honey, sweetie, sugar plum, cutie pie, sweetums, darling, dear son, etc. would not be approved of in this society because it's not 'manly' enough.
Acknowledging you are not fully committed to what you wrote, I still want to share my (very committed) thoughts. No snark.

The last paragraph strikes me as very insensitive to the people who are men who use this nickname. I know that in some cases, this may be true, but it may be true that when some mothers call their dd 'sweet pea' they don't mean it with affection.

My dh does use a lot of nicknames and many of them are odd and lovey-dovey like 'love-muffin' and 'gorgeous boy' (we both say that one almost as much as 'buddy'), cuties, cutie-wootie, etc.... He calls them many things and the tone of 'buddy' is as affectionate as the others.

The reason this generalisation bothers me is the variables are infinite at least practically, and it simply isn't very kindly to think of men as being completely swayed by machismo in their relationships with their children. I feel sad at the assumption.

An example of how such a thing can really hurt comes from when I told my roommate that I was getting married. Our courtship had been a fairytale of the highest degree for me (the previously fairytale grinch), and her reply to the news was a begrudging, "The sex must be great.' That really deflated me in that moment when I wanted to share my joy with her.

Here, by assuming what you have, you do this to the love and intentions of millions of men and their children. You suck out the loving energy of their expression with an assumption of it being 'tainted' with a value you don't hold. Manliness may not be virtuous to you, but it means something significant to others and comes with as many different definitions as there are people to express them, I think.

I am sincerely glad that you are not committed to the perspective you shared. I hope you will consider another approach to understanding this aspect of relationship.
post #157 of 208
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Originally Posted by MusicianDad View Post
And I'm saying I don't understand it. I am allowed to admit that right?
I suppose.


I told myself I wouldn't be back here, but in the end it's just a matter of taste. I don't care for the wildly popular "Buddy" it's just not my style.
post #158 of 208
As for Dads---my secure DH calls our DS "Sweetheart" and "Sweetie." Never "Buddy" or "Sport" or "Chief" or "Big Guy." All these "manly" ones just sound so locker-roomish and that's not how we are. We did get a chuckle a few years back watching Officer Wiggam on the Simpsons watching a school play and his lone voice shoots over the silent audience and says "Ralphie, get off the stage, Sweetheart." It stuck with us. But I think to DH the "Sweetheart" to a boy sounded just more lovey than trying to toughen the kid up with "Champ," and since DH has a piss-poor relationshiop with his father, I think that he wants to foster a closer bond with DS.
post #159 of 208
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Originally Posted by lanamommyphd07 View Post
Okay, so after reading this thread, now I have that commercial for the toy from the 80s I'd guess "My Buddy, my buddy! Wherever I go......"
But of course I can't remember the words and now the tune is stuck....grrrrr.
"My buddy, my buddy.
My buddy, my buddy.
Wherever I go, he goes.
MY buddy, my buddy.
My buddy, my buddy.
My buddy and me!"

There you go. I can't believe I remember that.

http://www.dollinfo.com/mybud90s.htm
post #160 of 208
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Originally Posted by AnalogWife View Post
As for Dads---my secure DH calls our DS "Sweetheart" and "Sweetie." Never "Buddy" or "Sport" or "Chief" or "Big Guy." All these "manly" ones just sound so locker-roomish and that's not how we are. We did get a chuckle a few years back watching Officer Wiggam on the Simpsons watching a school play and his lone voice shoots over the silent audience and says "Ralphie, get off the stage, Sweetheart." It stuck with us. But I think to DH the "Sweetheart" to a boy sounded just more lovey than trying to toughen the kid up with "Champ," and since DH has a piss-poor relationshiop with his father, I think that he wants to foster a closer bond with DS.
I am only speaking for myself here, but DH uses sweetheart and buddy. I probably use buddy more then he does. We aren't trying to toughen him up - the kid plays with princess toys, pretends to paint his nails, calls himself pretty (and so do we, "yes, you are pretty, sweetie"). I'm not going to avoid using a word that is attached to a comforting emotion for us out of fear that is might make him manly. If he ends up being a "manly man" that is okay with me. If he ends up being "feminine" that is okay too. Because to me, he's just going to end up being him, and there is no such thing as "feminine" or "manly" except in the eyes of society and I'm not going to play into that by avoiding making him one or the other. I'm just going to let him be him, whoever he is.
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