or Connect
Mothering › Mothering Forums › Mom › Parenting › Parents who call their child "buddy"?
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:

Parents who call their child "buddy"? - Page 9

post #161 of 208
Color me cold then. I call my son "my buddy" all the time.
post #162 of 208
Well, I call my youngest DD Chubbers. I'm sure some will say I'm setting her up for a lifetime of weight issues.
post #163 of 208
.
post #164 of 208
Quote:
Originally Posted by KirstenMary View Post
Color me cold then. I call my son "my buddy" all the time.
maybe it makes them feel warmer in comparison if we are cold :
post #165 of 208
Quote:
Originally Posted by lanamommyphd07 View Post
Okay, so after reading this thread, now I have that commercial for the toy from the 80s I'd guess "My Buddy, my buddy! Wherever I go......"
But of course I can't remember the words and now the tune is stuck....grrrrr.
Man, you can Google anything!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fovPx0MgwX0
post #166 of 208
Quote:
Originally Posted by mommyshoppinghabit View Post

Edited to clarify: Whoa! I didn't mean to bait anyone in justifying this. It was more out of curiosity b/c I was not born in American and so my parents and most of their friends never used this word for their children. Before becoming a parent, I only hear the word buddy as the beginning of a rude remark, as in when taxi driver gets cut off and he yells out the window, "Hey buddy, what the f--- ". Or a guy wanting to pick a fight in a bar saying the another guy, "Hey buddy, what're you looking at?" I was hoping maybe somebody could explain the origin of this term when using it on children, but I guess that is really a dumb pursuit.

OP, I think when buddy is used this way, it's being used sarcastically. Sort of like if someone does something dumb, a sarcastic person might say something like, "That was pretty stupid, genius!" It doesn't mean genius has a universally negative conotation, just that the person is using the word sarcastically. In the cases you mention above, it's the same thing - buddy literally means "friend," but used as you described, it clearly doesn't. I'm not sure what your first language is or how sarcasm works in other cultures, but in English you can pretty much say anything in a certain tone of voice and make it mean the exact opposite of what the words you're saying mean.
post #167 of 208
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by ~Purity♥Lake~ View Post
Buddy is most commonly used by fathers toward their sons as a term of endearment because anything more affectionate, such as honey, sweetie, sugar plum, cutie pie, sweetums, darling, dear son, etc. would not be approved of in this society because it's not 'manly' enough.
This is another reason I guess it led me to think about it as a "cold term." But look, this is an opinion.
post #168 of 208
OP, i'm glad you clarified. i'm not sure how it was perceived as judgemental, when you just stated how it sounded to you, but whatever.

how it could be judgemental anyway, i'm not sure.
post #169 of 208
Originally Posted by mommyshoppinghabit View Post
"Edited to clarify: Whoa! I didn't mean to bait anyone in justifying this. I was hoping maybe somebody could explain the origin of this term when using it on children, but I guess that is really a dumb pursuit."

I'm confused. you didnt want anyone to explain its (positive) origin, but you did want them to explain the origin? I'm lost. You only wanted us to explain its origin if is agreed with your opinion of the word then?

I agree with eclipse. Anyone can say anything in a rude sarcastic way. Not everyone who calls their child buddy is doing that though. Many use it as a term of endearment, same as honey, sweetie, etc.
post #170 of 208
Quote:
Okay, so after reading this thread, now I have that commercial for the toy from the 80s I'd guess "My Buddy, my buddy! Wherever I go......"
Now I have Kid Sister stuck in my head.
post #171 of 208
Wow, what a lot of assumptions and generalizations. It seems like we hate people doing that to us, but we're totally okay with doing it to others?

My oldest sons nick name has been bud or buddy since he was born. It's definitely not said in a cold way and is totally a term of endearment, just as each of my kids nick names were/are.

To the poster that said her childs nick name was chubbers, one of ours used to be, too. It started as bubbles b/c she used to make bubbles on her lips constantly as a baby...then she got chubby toddler rolls and it became chubbles, chubblicious, etc. Not PC, I am sure, but it was our special nick names for her and it, just like bud, was never said in a cold, mean or deroagatory way. (We stopped calling her that around the age of 2-2 1/2 to avoid any possible issues in the future! hehe)
post #172 of 208
OP- "buddy" means "friend", most often (but not always) "male friend". When we call children "buddy", we are saying "little friend," as in, "little person I'm glad I have around."

When we call a bad driver "buddy", we are using it like "friend" as in "comrade": a general term for someone with whom we share the planet. It is used instead of a derogatory term when one wishes to remain civil. "Honey", "baby", and "bubba" can all be used in this way.

There are a lot of polysemes in English.
post #173 of 208
since i was a baby my mum and dad have called me bubba
post #174 of 208
I call my ds1 "Buddy" a lot. I don't think I'm cold.

I call him "Buddy" because he's like my little sidekick--he's always close by, wanting to do whatever I'm doing. Doesn't "Buddy" mean something like a close friend, someone loyal who sticks by you? I fail to see how that could be cold.
post #175 of 208
My oldest is "Buggy"

My youngest is "Mc Geegan" (my user name is a combo of those two nick names) "Beegis", "Beegs" or just "Bubs"


I also call them "My love"
post #176 of 208
I call DS Smelly, Boychild, Dude, Guy, Jeffrey Twigglebottom (longstanding joke), or HEY!! Depending on what the situation is.

Also, dudeman.
post #177 of 208
I call our son Bubby. My brother was always called Bud whild growing up.
post #178 of 208
well here goes my kids get called all sorts of stuff , they love it , it's a way of keepin em close , just a family thing , often our private jokes together.
They get called , winnie , giggie , giglet , winnie woo , chuffalump , snoggalump, squidlet , chicklet , chicken pie, giggie woo, paigey waigey , Flynnie winnie , Mr. Boy , boy and sometimes bud or buddy.
post #179 of 208
Quote:
Originally Posted by mommysarah5 View Post
maybe it makes them feel warmer in comparison if we are cold :
LOL

We actually make it into a song:

My buddy
My buddy
Aidan is Mommy's buddy...

...and then we change around the names with his sisters. The girls love it, and they love to sing along. It's a diaper changing ritual.

Oh, we also call him Peaches.
post #180 of 208
I call ODS Bubba and Bubba Gump. DH calls him "bubbe"-it's yiddish but DH is not Jewish (neither am I). Somehow it made its way into our terminology anyway.
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:
  Return Home
  Back to Forum: Parenting
Mothering › Mothering Forums › Mom › Parenting › Parents who call their child "buddy"?