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post #181 of 208
I call my youngest 'my buddy' or 'little buddy' all the time.

I do get what you are saying by people screaming into traffic,
"Hey , Buddy!" but I say it in a pretty different manner.
post #182 of 208
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Originally Posted by AnalogWife View Post
As for Dads---my secure DH calls our DS "Sweetheart" and "Sweetie." Never "Buddy" or "Sport" or "Chief" or "Big Guy." All these "manly" ones just sound so locker-roomish and that's not how we are. We did get a chuckle a few years back watching Officer Wiggam on the Simpsons watching a school play and his lone voice shoots over the silent audience and says "Ralphie, get off the stage, Sweetheart." It stuck with us. But I think to DH the "Sweetheart" to a boy sounded just more lovey than trying to toughen the kid up with "Champ," and since DH has a piss-poor relationshiop with his father, I think that he wants to foster a closer bond with DS.
I don't get how a nickname could at all be trying to toughen a kid up...I don't see sweetheart sounding any more lovey dovey than buddy or sport, it depends on how you say it, not what you are saying.
post #183 of 208
LMBO I can't go through this entire thing, but wow, I guess we all have our little things. I've been known to call my boys "buddy", definitely with affection (same as I call them sweetie pie, pumpkin, monkey...) and definitely NOT to toughen them up or make them manly or denigrate them LOL

I *think* I can see the issue, I mean, "buddy" can be said rudely, but it's the tone that makes it so, not the word. You can say lots of nice words in a rude way. Someone made a good point about baby/babe -- by the wrong person, in the wrong tone of voice, it can be quite insulting. Or...not. And I also "get" that people sometimes use stereotypical terms ("sport" for boys, "princess" for girls...) but trust me when I say that turning our little buddies into jocks is the least of our intentions LOL (I do admit to being bothered by birth announcements introducing "our future ballerina" or "future linebacker" -- like I said, we all have our little things I guess!
post #184 of 208
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Originally Posted by EdnaMarie View Post
OP- "buddy" means "friend", most often (but not always) "male friend". When we call children "buddy", we are saying "little friend," as in, "little person I'm glad I have around."

When we call a bad driver "buddy", we are using it like "friend" as in "comrade": a general term for someone with whom we share the planet. It is used instead of a derogatory term when one wishes to remain civil. "Honey", "baby", and "bubba" can all be used in this way.

There are a lot of polysemes in English.

This is a good answer for the OP. I'm quoting it, Edna, in case it gets too lost because it seems this thread has turned into a 'what nickname do you use' thread.
post #185 of 208
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Originally Posted by ~Purity♥Lake~ View Post
This is a good answer for the OP. I'm quoting it, Edna, in case it gets too lost because it seems this thread has turned into a 'what nickname do you use' thread.
I like what Edna said as well!

I call my kids lots of pet names, and Buddy is among them, I mean it lovingly and they know it. In the end, that is what is important.
post #186 of 208
When ds#1 was a newborn I called him bubby. And it was certainly a term of endearment.

(Sniffle, now he's a big 2 year old. And we call him little man.)
post #187 of 208
DS is Bud or Buddy. I never thought I"d use it, but I do.

I don't remember a time ever when I have spoken coldly towards any of my children, whatever nicknames they have.

Weird. But there you go.
post #188 of 208
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Originally Posted by NightOwlwithowlet View Post
I used work pediatric ICU and we once lost seven year old, the only child of a single dad, and I still remember the dad crying, "Don't leave me, Buddy." I cared that little boy off and on for three years and he was most certainly loved by his dad. I still cry when I think about him. Sometimes, I think of them both when I call my son, Buddy.
Oh my gosh, that is so sad.

for that dad's little Buddy
post #189 of 208
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Originally Posted by EdnaMarie View Post
OP- "buddy" means "friend", most often (but not always) "male friend". When we call children "buddy", we are saying "little friend," as in, "little person I'm glad I have around."

When we call a bad driver "buddy", we are using it like "friend" as in "comrade": a general term for someone with whom we share the planet. It is used instead of a derogatory term when one wishes to remain civil. "Honey", "baby", and "bubba" can all be used in this way.

There are a lot of polysemes in English.
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I used to get this with sweetheart; as in "Listen sweatheart..." right before getting told off by a customer. I never mistook it for a term of endearment. I call my son buddy or buds a lot and he has never taken it for anything but a nickname filled with love and affection. It's the intentions behind the words that make them what they are.

For what it's worth, I also call my son Trouble quite at bit... but never in a negative way!
post #190 of 208
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Originally Posted by marisa724 View Post
I call my younger son "Buddy" and my older son "Pal". That's so I don't get them mixed up.
How funny! My husband has the same nicknames for our two sons.
post #191 of 208
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Originally Posted by Lynn08 View Post
Am I the only one that calls their daughter *buddy*? :

(Actually, just about every child I come into contact with gets called *buddy* at some point, boy or girl.)
I do! Confuses the heck out of strangers sometimes, too, especially if she's wearing something clearly "girlish".

I've never understood why a word that to me means friend can only be applied to boys.
post #192 of 208
I don't use the term buddy, but I don't see anything wrong with it for those who do use it... it just doesn't flow off my tongue.

DS's nicknames:

The Boy (when we're talking about him; and not to be confused with boy, which is our nickname for one of our cats)
baby (which sometimes turns into bubby and bub), and Mr. Baby, oh and at the appropriate time we will call him Mr. Poopy Pants
post #193 of 208
Oh well. It's endearing to us. I call my sons all kinds of "rough" names. It's cutely ironic to use these names, especially when they are soft and cuddly little things.

The nicknames I use, which would probably sound too rough to the OP include: buddy, bud, kid, thing, thinglet, dude.
post #194 of 208
I feel compelled to say...all this talk of "buddy", "pal", etc has only one thing circling my head over and over....

I'm not your buddy, pal!

I'm not your pal, friend!

I'm not your friend, guy!

I'm not your guy, buddy!


Okay...yeah, I'm a secret South Park dork...sorry!
post #195 of 208
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Originally Posted by wholewheatmama View Post
I do! Confuses the heck out of strangers sometimes, too, especially if she's wearing something clearly "girlish".

I've never understood why a word that to me means friend can only be applied to boys.
I call my daughter buddy, bud, bro, man, dude, and once in a great while brotherman, all as terms of endearment. She is the femmiest girl EVER so I think it's hilarious. It freaks other people out, though
post #196 of 208
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Originally Posted by aran View Post
Oh well. It's endearing to us. I call my sons all kinds of "rough" names. It's cutely ironic to use these names, especially when they are soft and cuddly little things.

The nicknames I use, which would probably sound too rough to the OP include: buddy, bud, kid, thing, thinglet, dude.

pak, lol.

i loooooove this. :
post #197 of 208
This is a hilarious thread, I thought I would chime in! I call my daughter honey bun and my son buddy boy, sometimes more than I use their names~ If I happen to call my daughter buddy, she takes issue and says that she is not a boy!
post #198 of 208
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Originally Posted by mommyshoppinghabit View Post
Whenever I hear a parent address their child "bud" or "buddy" it just doesn't ever sound warm or affectionate or even feel like a term of endearment to me. It sounds kind of cold. I could never imagine addressing either of my kids that, but maybe that's my take on it.
I call both my kids bud on occasion. I never stop to think what someone ELSE thinks of it; it doesn't matter one bit, truly. A rose by any other name would smell as sweet.
post #199 of 208
I call my DS Potato, Lovebug, and Stinker. All are definitely meant in the sweetest way, and never used derogatorily.
post #200 of 208

I call DS Buddy, but he likes it. Such that sometimes, I'll call him either his name, or a different nickname, and he says, "No, I'm buddy/bud."

 

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Well, Charles Ingalls called Laura "Half Pint" and I don't think it showed that he put her on the same level as a dairy product.

 

I call DD Half Stack, but I don't equate her worth at the same level as pancakes.

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