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post #81 of 208
DD: Miss E, Evie-licious, Pinkalicious, Little Miss, Little E

DS: Little Man, Jazzy-J, Mister J, Crazy Boy, Wild Child

DH has used Buddy for both once in a while, and it doesn't sound odd to me. We also had Daddy-Daughter Day when DD was little which has grown into Daddy-Daughter-Dude Day [color] edition. DH and the kids wear the same color on their day together. It's kinda cute. DD keeps trying to get him to do pink as the color, and she and DH will mock search through his closet and find nothing pink. It's more gendered than I'd like, both the color schemes and the names, but it works for now.
post #82 of 208
My Dad called me buddy growing up and he calls my DS his little buddy. I think it is very sweet and definitely a term of endearment.
post #83 of 208
I call my 5 year old DD 'buddy' ALL the time, like every day. This thread cracks me up.
post #84 of 208
So, when DD was about a week old, we went as a family to see our pediatrician for a well-baby visit. DH was holding DD, and at some point he was talking to her, saying something like "Okay, we're going to get you undressed now, Buddy...." The pediatrician (who is a lovely lady but not originally from this country--she has a foreign accent I can't place) was horrified. "She's NOT a Buddy!"

DH just smiled and responded "She is! She's MY Buddy!"

When we call our kids Buddy, we really do mean it in the nicest possible way, like they are our special little friends.
post #85 of 208
We have tons of nicknames for ds. Dreamboat is the current one ( I tried calling him sweetheart and he told me that no, he was dreamboat not sweetheart, soooo cute coming out of such a little thing). Sometimes he is honey, or Boy, or Mr. Man or NO NO NO NO I also almost always call him Jonah Lance even when I am not in mom lecture mode.

However, the one nickname that I get looks for is when I call him Boob. I used to call him my booby boy (im sure that seems so inappropriate) and over the past few years I have just shortened it to Boob as in "Hey Boob, whatcha doing?"

It makes me giggle with how weird I am.
post #86 of 208
I use buddy sometimes. I see nothing wrong with it.
post #87 of 208
Gosh, I know several people who use it in the warmest, most loving way possible. It must be a cultural thing. My husband and I call our children "marmalade", "chocolate bunny", "mini-monkey", "baby bear" and so on.

My daughter calls her bear collection her "guys". As in, "I need my guys!"

I can only guess what the OP would think of our family. We must all just be ROBOTS :
post #88 of 208
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Originally Posted by ChristyMarie View Post
Ok, must share this one....

My son and I call each other "goober" on occasion. One day he came home from school (at 2) and said, "we don't call teachers goober." I explained that no, that probably wasn't a good idea but we can use it at home.

I call him munchkin.
Grandma calls him sweet man.
Daddy calls him buddy.

He will point it out if one of us calls him by the other's nickname. No switching allowed. LOL.
This whole post is really cute. I'll bet your son is just wonderful.
post #89 of 208
I am another mom with a daughter who I call buddy. I call her my "little buddy baby friend," to be precise, and that is often shortened to just "buddy." She has a million other names as well, from muffinhead to ol' left leg (she takes really long steps with her left leg, then super short ones with her right) to thistle to lima bean, to whatever I happen to be cooking for dinner. I love her so much, and I promise I only use her names in the warmest and most affectionate way... including "buddy."
post #90 of 208
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Originally Posted by Storm Bride View Post
Is that a regional thing? I had a roommate who came from Ontario who used to do that a lot. I thought it was just a personal quirk.
All of our boys were born in Ontario, where 'buddy' was pretty common amongst loving parents (which I only found out after a few years, when I finally left the house ). We live out west now, and we haven't encountered any use of 'buddy' that isn't genuinely friendly and kind-hearted, and it's even heard amongst adults who don't know one another in this way. It's really wonderful, actually.


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Originally Posted by flminivanmama View Post
one of the reasons I call all my boys "buddy" (or "big guy") is so I don't call them by the wrong name...

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Me too. In my defense, they are often all talking at once, so buddy goes to whomever what I'm saying is relevant.

On the judgmental thing: My dh works with parentless children and seriously troubled youth and I cannot even imagine that something like an affectionate nickname could be the subject and subsequent justification of assumption and judgment of a parent toward her/his child(ren). The striking chasm between this and the stories I hear of what the children my dh cares for have been called is just too great to give any justice here. I mean, really- I am viewed as unloving or cold for calling my dear, sweet little man cubs 'buddy'???

Wow.

Ftr, my dh does call some of the children he works with 'buddy' and it is understood as loving by them as well. They feel connected with him, given a special place, his 'buddy.' I think it's very sweet.
post #91 of 208
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Originally Posted by EVC View Post
Eh

People call their kids all kinds of pet names. I often call dd "ma'am" which is probably far more ridiculous than "buddy" and definitely a more impersonal term for the vast majority of people. But that's just what I call her sometimes, as in "thank you, ma'am." "Could you help me, ma'am?", "Excuse me, ma'am." etc.

If she were a boy, I might well call her buddy, instead
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Yeah, I call my daughter "ma'am," "hey lady," and "guy." Like, "don't cry, little guy!" I think it's funny
post #92 of 208
The nicknames we call our kids are so personal. I had to read this thread because I have a friend who calls her son buddy and it always sounds funny to me -- not that it isn't loving or sweet but it's just not a nickname I would ever think to use. I don't know why since the things I call my kids are very silly and random and seem to change every few months, so I'm certainly in no position to judge!
post #93 of 208
I don't know how it could be cold. You like your buddy, right?

We call ds Buddy, dude, Keagor (his name is Keagan... and we really enjoyed tragdor if anyone knows what that is...) the Keagan-ator, little man, child, boy, curls... there are a lot. DD we call chunk-chunk, Miss E, pretty, Miss Thing. She's only three months, I am sure she will get more nick names soon enough
post #94 of 208
Popping in again to evoke judgment as I share that among our many nicknames for our dc, is the one that dh commonly uses to gather them, so it's the one he typically says the loudest and most often in public.

"Come one, weirdoes!" says dh in a singsong, jolly way.

Who would think 'weirdo' could be so endearing?! I call them weirdees. They really love it.

Chubba-wubba (a giant infant nickname- we make giants here), monkeys, man cubs, manlets, kidlets, littles, boogers, goobers, and the name they take for themselves which depends on the role they are playing (they are usually in character)- so dragon, cheetah, lion, tiger, melificent, medusa, griffin, ogre, orc, wizard, queen, king, whatever...

And even more common than our regular use of 'buddy', which trumps all of the aforementioned, is 'Sonshine,' a relic from many generations of my dh's family.

I think if I heard a parent calling a child "Hey, little @#$^%&*!" I might actually be concerned about the relationship, but even then, it would have to sound nasty or cold before I would evaluate it as anything but fun, and none of my business.
post #95 of 208
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Originally Posted by Stephenie View Post
I don't know how it could be cold. You like your buddy, right?

We call ds Buddy, dude, Keagor (his name is Keagan... and we really enjoyed tragdor if anyone knows what that is...) the Keagan-ator, little man, child, boy, curls... there are a lot. DD we call chunk-chunk, Miss E, pretty, Miss Thing. She's only three months, I am sure she will get more nick names soon enough

We love adding "-OR" to the end of names too. Our boys all want to grow up to be barbarians, so they really enjoy the -OR-ness of a nickname.

We also have a lot of Mr. ____ pants (jolly, grumpy, jumpy, etc- it's playful and helps them out of grouchiness) and Mr. Reachy-Grabby, Mr. Eat-My-Foody, etc... you get the pattern. Our boys love coming up with creative names with the Mr. and -y combination.
post #96 of 208
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Originally Posted by marisa724 View Post
i call my younger son "buddy" and my older son "pal". That's so i don't get them mixed up.
Love it!!!
post #97 of 208
If I don't manage to drop calling ds "Babe" before he is a teenager, I'll probably have people thinking weird thoughts about us.
post #98 of 208
I haven't read all the responses, but I sorta agree with OP, judgmental as I may be. To me--not to everyone of course--but to me saying "Buddy" sorta puts the child is on your equal and adult wavelength, not as your little coddling. It's an arms-length term of endearment. I reminds me of that movie (and book, but I never read the book) The Hours where the mom calls her 4 year old "Bug." "Hey, Bug!" is cute sounding enough, until you realize she kind of can't stand him and he bugs her, and that's how she developped the nickname. Buddy sorta reminds me of that...that this isn't your baby, your child, the fruit of your loins, the light of your life, this is your buddy and you love this buddy but mostly just on the baseball field or side by side on the barstool. Buttt, maybe I'm reading too much into things. Just to clarify, I know everyone here DOES love their children, no matter what they call them, I'm not saying that they don't. But I wont' be calling my DS "Buddy." He's Cutie or Sweetheart or his name.
post #99 of 208
Well, Charles Ingalls called Laura "Half Pint" and I don't think it showed that he put her on the same level as a dairy product.
post #100 of 208
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Well, Charles Ingalls called Laura "Half Pint" and I don't think it showed that he put her on the same level as a dairy product.
I agree. (???)
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