we circ'ed our older ds (now 6 1/2yo) out of ignorance, and the assumption that it was 'what was done'.
after his circ healed, we thought there seemed to be a lot of skin left - and in the following year, he had a growth of scar tissue that was beginning to impede his urine stream.
at 2 1/2, we took him to a urologist, who advised that we re-circ
due to the overgrowth.
ds had to be put under for the operation, and dh couldn't get out of work, so i went to the hospital alone. i sat through an hour of guilt and worry while my only baby (at the time) was under anesthesia and being cut again...
between his first and second circ's i did a lot of reading and research, and felt terribly guilty that i had even consented to the procedure the first
time - especially since as a result, my son had to be put through it a second
when i became pregnant with our third child, a son, i had told dh i had no intention of circ'ing again. we talked a lot about it, and i gave him all the information i had - he somewhat reluctantly agreed (he was circ'ed at birth as well, and was still somewhat under the impression that it was "healthier")
when ds was born we accompanied him down to the nursery for his hearing test, and while there, we heard a baby crying - screaming its lungs out. looking up into the adjoining room, we saw my ob performing a circumcision.
dh asked "is he doing what i think he's doing??!"
on the way back to the room after ds hearing check, dh, who was pushing the bassinet down the hall, leaned over ds and whispered "no one is ever getting anywhere near your penis with anything sharp!!"
he's a convert
when we made the decision not to circ ds2, i talked extensively to ds1 about why we had circ'ed him, how we felt differently about it, and regretted the decision, why we decided against it with ds2; and asked him what he thought about looking diffferent, etc. he said he didn't think it was a big deal at all, and he was glad we decided to leave his brother's penis 'alone':LOL