Chat thread: July 13-19

[mags]

I thought I'd start our new weekly thread.

OK, prepare for a big WHINE. I am so sick of being pregnant! I know I am not the only one here who feels this way. I've had prodromal labor for almost 2 wks now and it keeps getting worse and worse. If this baby doesn't come this wk (I'll be 39 wks by this wknd and my other two showed up at 39 wks on their own), I am going to cry. I'm just tired of it, can't get any sleep (prodromal labor was only at night, but for the past two days it has been during the daytime as well), can't get comfy, feeling lots of pressure, "down there" in general, and my back is killing me. I'm sure you all know how it is. This is my 3rd pregnancy and I seriously do NOT remember feeling this miserable toward the end with either one. I am bigger this time around and having a hard time getting around, so everywhere I go I am being being bumped into or bumping into things by accident. I can't even dtd with DH right now w/o that lovely, "let's just get it over" feeling, b/c it's just not comfortable.

[bajamergrrl]

to you mags. I realized that I'm not ready to be done being pregnant yet but my biggest whine right now is trying to get a good night's sleep. I end up achy no matter what sleep position I try.

[Quindin]

Just let it all out!
It IS difficult, and it is ok to just vent, whine and cry if you need to!

It is hard to believe it now, but it will soon be over.
Big hugs to you!!

[Mama_Michelle]

Mags! One of these times it has to progress into real labor, right? At least thats what I keep telling myself.

I am 40 wk 5 days. My MW will let me gone to 42 wks but I start with the u/s and NST on Wed at 41 wk. I am not looking forward to all of that. I really just want baby to come on its own. With my other 2 babes, I went into labor without any type of induction methods on my EDDs. I never realized how hard it is to still be pregnant after my due date. I keep telling myself its just a few days but its really hard on me. I feel like I am just waiting for baby! I am more uncomfortable and just DONE with being pregnant! And I cannot wait to meet this LO.

[LindsC]

Mags.

I felt the same way when I was pregnant with DS. He was born at 41 weeks and I worked on my feet in a pharmacy until the day before he was born. I was so tired of having people say "you're still pregnant".

Hang in there.

[kellykins]

s to ya, Mags!! I feel oddly better with #2 than I did with 1-- I couldn't lay down with #1 without my hips hurting, needed multiple pillows just to think about sleeping-- not this time!!
I am feeling done because I don't like feeling hot when its barely 80 degrees out, I like to run and play with my 3yo, not just toddle along behind her, and I really, really would like to eat something and not have it land on my belly. Just once!! Not to mention, dd is so super excited to meet her brother. She is killing me. every day at breakfast for the past week "is it baby time today?" (Ever since I told her the plan, that when it is time to meet brother, mama is going to need to concentrate, and go see Miss Andrea (MW) so she will go play with XYZ friend she has been wondering if baby is going to come today. She is too excited.)

btw- People kept mentioning eating pineapple, made be really want some, LOL so I got a fresh pineapple this a.m. and had some just now for a snack.. What aside from tasting super good on a hot day is this supposed to do - - now that I ate it?

[leighann79]

(((HUGS))) Mags

I was doing ok until last night. I can handle all sorts of BH's, but I'm not looking forward to more of these painful ones. Not with out them going somewhere anyway. I have no intention of getting checked at my appointment either. Well, I didn't have any intention. If these keep up, it's going to get tempting. LOL I don't want to be either disappointed or falsely hopeful though either.
I was all prepared to go to 40 or 41 weeks before getting impatient, but last night ruined that for me.

[leighann79]

Kelly-- I think it's supposed to have an enzyme in it that helps induce labor. I also think that the enzyme is supposed to be in the core, for the most part.

[kellykins]

ew- Im not eating the core!! LOL!! its prickly LOL!!

[Pavlovs]

Yeah, I feel done with this pregnancy, too. I have been having lots of pain, which I thought was just normal pregnancy stuff, until I read about symphsis pubis dysfunction and realized that that's most likely the cause of my discomfort. It's actually making me feel better knowing it's not regular pg stuff that's so uncomfortable - now I can separate the SPD pain from just being pregnant and it doesn't seem as bad.

That being said, I'm 2 days "overdue" and seeing the OB on Wednesday. He floated the idea of induction a couple of weeks ago, to which I responded that I wouldn't discuss it at all until 40 weeks. So I know we're going to have that discussion. He has my due date wrong by 3 days (in my favor), so I'm going to hold him off until 41 weeks (actually 41w 3d) and talk about bishops scores with him at that point. I think I can hold him off until just about 42 weeks to induce, which is at my comfort level. That's my plan, anyway.

[leighann79]

Originally Posted by kellykins

ew- Im not eating the core!! LOL!! its prickly LOL!!

The one we had last night wasn't too bad. A bit tough, but not prickly.

[Angelorum]

: I bought a pineapple the other day. I don't want to go into labor quite yet, but I do love me some pineapple!

My MIL is on her way down today so she can be here to catch at my homebirth It's really making me realize how close I actually am to giving birth! I've still got a ton of cleaning/decluttering/knitting/sewing/dying I want to get done before baby gets here though, so I'm hoping I don't go early.

Now for the gripe (sorry)

My landlord has officially proved himself to be the most childish man I've ever had the displeasure of dealing with. Long story (not so) short, he doesn't like my MIL, and so he won't give us permission to have her stay here for longer than the 2 day guest limit that is in our lease. The limit is in the lease because our utilities are included in the rent. We offered to pay any extra water/electric usage this month due to her staying here. My dh emailed him a week ago about it, then again a few days later. The emails were flatly ignored, so he called him on Saturday and tried pointing out that LL's dispute with MIL has absolutely nothing to do with us, that we would be happy to pay any extra utility cost, that we've always been good renters and have been extremely accommodating to him in the past. All to no avail. LL even went so far as to say that if it were any other person we wanted to have as our guest he wouldn't have a problem with it. It's just because he doesn't like her, and wants to be vindictive. I don't know how interfering with my pre/post birth support is supposed to be punishing anybody but me, but I've stopped trying to understand him. Luckily our lease doesn't state how often we can have a 2 day guest, so the current plan is to have my MIL stay 20 minutes away at my aunt and uncle's every 3rd night.

I'm just flabbergasted that anyone could be so petty and I hate that this man with his ugly attitude has absolutely anything to do with my birthing time! : He's trying to sell the house (for too much money, in an area with a ton of cheap foreclosures ) and we had always told him that we could be flexible and would rent as long as he still owned the place but you can sure as hell bet we won't be taking him into consideration with our moving plans anymore! As soon as it becomes convenient for us, we are so out of here. Blech!
/gripe

[bajamergrrl]

Angelorum. I'm sorry your landlord continues to be such a UAV.

[LilMamiBella]

I'll be 40 weeks on Friday. I've been ready though for quite sometime. I've had the birth pool setup 2 weeks ago. I've had the carseat thingie installed for 3-4 weeks now! My milk is already in and dd loves it a little too much!

[learnlovebe]

You landlord sounds like a real nice guy (that's a BIT sarcastic). I don't mean to sound sexist, but have you tried crying in front of him? A pregnant woman in tears might do the trick. But I do like your idea w/ the every 3rd night. If he can be a stickler for the lease, so can you.

I am ready to be done also. I am only 38 weeks today, but I'm emotionally drained. These hormones are driving me batty! After my appt this morning (STILL 2cm, STILL 50% effaced now, same stats as last week, been 50% for A MONTH now!) all I needed to do this morning was make an appt for next week, and I couldn't get in until Wednesday (I wanted Monday). I almost cried on the spot.

Honestly, I'm ready to be induced...NOW. I REALLY want her to come on her own, but I also REALLY want to be done and on to the next phase. Luckily, my Dr has her head on right. She said we won't even discuss induction until at least next week, and explained the risks (that I am WELL aware of, but it was good to hear them again) of induction in general. So I'm really glad at this point that I chose her as my Dr. I know there are others out there who would listen to my discomforts of being 38 weeks prego and suggest an induction out of convienience (and also factor in that my first child was a LARGE baby).

So I'm just trying to stay positive...we can't be pregnant THAT much longer, right?!?!?!

[tracymom1]

Mags and learnlovebe, I know how you feel
I am having a hard time now, too. The emotional roller-coaster is really frustrating. I know I am being a cranky you-know-what but I just can't do anything to stop it. I hate that feeling of loosing control of my emotions. And although I have not had prodromal labor, the horrible pain in my groin and sleepless nights are wearing rather thin. I don't know how much longer I can put up with this. Thank goodness DH is so loving and understanding

Is anyone else noticing that many of the babies in this DDC are arriving so quickly? It seems like a lot of our mama's are having very short labors... I'm getting a little worried! I mean, I am prepared for a UC, but I would much rather have my midwife here! She lives over an hour away, though, and our babies seem to be dropping like hot potatoes. I am just going to keep checking my cervix and keeping my fingers crossed for a *smooth* labor for the rest of us.

And Angelorum, your landlord is a jerk. The biggest jerk. I think the plan to have mom stay with your aunt and uncle every 3rd night is wonderful. If he is going to play this stupid game, no reason why you shouldn't work things to your advantage as well.

Has anyone had any real success with acupressure? I am going to see a massage therapist tomorrow who specializes in prenatal therapies and offered to do acupressure and reflexology to get things going. Sounds like a good idea, but how effective is it?

[kellykins]

funny you should menion accupressure and reflexology- I was just talking to a neighbor who's mom had told her to get a foot massage/reflexology work done when she as feeling "done" - sure enough she got a pedi, and the next day she had baby....

[learnlovebe]

Originally Posted by tracymom1

The emotional roller-coaster is really frustrating. I know I am being a cranky you-know-what but I just can't do anything to stop it. I hate that feeling of loosing control of my emotions. ...the horrible pain in my groin and sleepless nights are wearing rather thin. I don't know how much longer I can put up with this. Thank goodness DH is so loving and understanding

That's me exactly. It is SO frustrating being in this out-of-control hormone phase. I don't remember it being THIS bad when I was pg w/ ds.

And I'm on week 4 of serious groin pain. Some days (like today) are better than others, but sometimes just the idea of having to roll over or put on pants makes me want to cry.

[alicewyf]

Originally Posted by bajamergrrl

to you mags. I realized that I'm not ready to be done being pregnant yet but my biggest whine right now is trying to get a good night's sleep. I end up achy no matter what sleep position I try.

Ugh, me too. It's like my hips can only take so long on each side before they start really hurting and I have to turn over/ reposition pillows, etc. I am totally fine with everything else about late pregnancy except for the sleeping part!

[bajamergrrl]

Originally Posted by alicewyf

Ugh, me too. It's like my hips can only take so long on each side before they start really hurting and I have to turn over/ reposition pillows, etc. I am totally fine with everything else about late pregnancy except for the sleeping part!

I've gotten to the point where I kind of have to get out of bed in order to switch sides because my hips/pelvis are so stiff and hurt so bad.