Chat thread: July 13-19 - Page 3

[CourtBChase]

Harry Potter for us too I told my doula week ago that the baby was not allowed to be born until after the 15th, because we needed to see Harry Potter

[alicewyf]

Count me in on the Harry Potter people! I also informed the baby that it had to stay in until after HP. Looks like it listened! We leave for the theater in less than an hour. It went a little crazy with the noise when we saw Star Trek so we'll see what the baby thinks of this one.

[rjruiz_415]

Hey, If DH did not work evenings, and if my mom was not camping until Friday, then we would be at the theaters tonight as well, heck, we might have even pulled off the midnight showing last night-lol!

[mags]

OK, I went and saw HP and still nothing! Baby come out!

[learnlovebe]

Originally Posted by mags

I mean, geez, how many practice sessions does my body need???? This is my 3rd baby, I was hoping this one would practically just pop out on his own...

Oh, that's just funny! Wouldn't that be great?

We have a HP date set for tomorrow evening. We haven't missed one yet...back in the day we even went to a midnight premiere of Azkaban (that was before kids).

Any hopes I had for another REAL pedi before the baby comes went out the door today. DS was playing w/ my valentine cookie cutters again (he gets them out of the drawer and plays w/ them when i'm in the kitchen). I had told him to pick them up, but he evidently had other plans. I happened to step on one while putting cookies in the oven, and Wowsa! That hurt! I have a nice cut now on the bottom of my foot. Do you know how awkward it is to manuver you're 9 month pregnant arse to the floor to check on a bleeding cut, then get up to get a washcloth and soap and water? And then hobble yourself up the steps to the hall closet that has the bandages and neosporin? All w/o getting blood on your carpet? Agh. Oh, and manuvering a 2 yo who is not too concerned w/ the fact that his mother's foot is bleeding, but more so that he can't get Anakin Skywalker out of his "airplane". I'm gonna have to either paint my toes myself or teach the hubby how.

Rough morning. At least the cookies were good. :

[tracymom1]

Hydrogen peroxide will take the blood right out of the carpet!

I think we will see HP this weekend, too, if all is still status quo. For those of you who saw it, how was it? Its kind of strange to see the HP kids all grown up. I almost think I liked it better when they were younger! I did not read these last 2 books so I don't really know what to expect. Should I read the book first?

So I am finally not only admitting that I need help around the house right now, but I am actually accepting it, too. I just kept pushing my self to get *everything* done thinking that keeping busy would take my mind off the waiting and stimulate things, but I just can't do it any longer. I was walking around the store yesterday (went to babies r us which I hate but they have these really cute ladybug stickers for the wall that I am going to use for DDs room) and realized that I was relying a bit much on the shopping cart to hold me up!

I am tired and sore and cranky and want the baby to come.

[mags]

Learnlovebe- Ugh, that stinks about the cookie cutter! I hope your foot will heal quickly.

Tracymom1- The movie was good. It's a long one, thankfully I was able to resist going to the bathroom midway through. If you go, be sure to show up early. I got there 25 min early and did not even get any food and it was PACKED. Luckily, since I went by myself, I did not have to worry about finding a seat together with someone else, so I got to sit in the handicap seat which is all by itself. There was a lot of teenager/hormone stuff in this one, but they make it VERY comical and I thought that the beginning was very slow. Professor Slughorn was GREAT! I really enjoyed his character. Oh and if you read the books, you know that the ending is really sad. There were some REALLY funny moments in the movie, I think it was b/c the storyline was so dark, they wanted to lighten it up.

[bajamergrrl]

Glad to hear everyone's enjoying the HP movie,

Sorry to hear about the foot, Learnlovebe.

Looks like I did catch the flu or something from DH. Sucks.

[leighann79]

I'm going to have to call DH today and find out if we are still planning on going to the Harry Potter movie or now. You guys are killing me. LOL

Learnlovebe- I hope your foot is better soon!

bajamergrrl- So sorry to hear you are sick! I hope you get better soon!

I'm trying to find stuff to keep me busy. My whole "I don't expect baby anytime soon" attitude has left me and I'm getting impatient now. I'm trying to find a way to be at peace with the idea that it's most likely at least 2 weeks (maybe 3) before he shows up. It's not going well. It doesn't help that I don't really want to do anything. I can't even plan fun stuff because I don't want to go out or anything. I'm just tired of not feeling like myself and not being able to do my normal stuff. I want the baby here so we can move on to that part of life. :P

[penstamon]

What's the deal?

Leaving for my OB appt this morning- car won't start! DH is the only one on our AAA plan (long story) and so I can't even have it towed until he gets home tonight. He is scrambling to finish a project before baby comes so won't come home early to get the car in. DH gets irate with me over the phone like I cut the wiring for fun just to piss him off. So I have no car, live 15 miles outside of town (and away from my hospital), and have no hope of getting the car fixed until next week at the earliest. And can't get to the OB until next week- maybe early, maybe not depending on if I get a car. I could go into labor any minute really. DH's truck does not fit our car seat either. We were going to drive to the city last weekend to get a smaller seat but DH didn't see what the hurry was.

I have been having cramps all morning and as much as I want baby to come I am too stressed under the current circumstances. :

eta: HP was awesome- so worth the crappy third row seats and the kink in my neck! We got there 1/2 hr. early but the theater was packed. Enjoy!

[learnlovebe]

Thanks for the well wishes on the foot, ladies. It actually hurts more today than yesterday, and now my ankle is starting to get sore from putting weight on it differently. Oh sigh. At least it's a distraction from the pelvic discomfort, right?

That really sucks about your car, penstamon. I would be STRESSED! Hope it all gets fixed sooner than you think.

Traceymom- that's a good tip about blood in the carpet, I'll have to write that one down! Thanks!

I'm SO excited to see HP tonight! We're going to an early show so we don't keep my parents up too late (they're babysitting ds). DH is leaving work early (using me as an excuse!). Thanks for reminding me about the ending, I'll have to pack some kleenex!

OMG, I had a HORRIBLE dream last night and actually woke up CRYING (more like bawling)! Even when I tried telling dh about it, I started crying again! What is with these hormones! I have crazy mixed up dreams even when I'm not pregnant, but have NEVER woke up crying before!

After 2 days of being pretty much labor-symptom free (except for the occaisonal random BH contraction), we have mucous! Gobs of it! No contractions though, so nothing to get too excited about, but still, it's SOMETHING.

Hope you all are having a good Thursday, : to all that want them!

[LilMamiBella]

Yeah get there early! We did and it was almost full, luckily we got good seats. They didn't make Dumbledore's death as sad as I thought it would be.

[mags]

Ugh, I'm so upset. I just got back from my ob appt not too long ago. I'm 39 wks this Sat. Two wks ago he checked me I was a couple cm dilated. I skipped the check last wk, but am desperate this wk, so he checked and NO change, and I'm still thick!!! That is NOT what I wanted to hear! To top it off, I found out that the other ob, who I would desperately like to deliver this baby will basically NOT be able to deliver, b/c he is going on vacation tomorrow (and he's not on call tonight, so even if I go into labor today I won't get him) and will be gone until the 28th (my edd is 25th), will be back to do surgeries the 29th and then on the 31st he is out of town again. The ob I am stuck with (third ob left the practice to move out of state a couple months ago) is the type who is more pushy about medical intervention. I KNOW he will start pressuring to do an induction if I do not go on my own by my next appt on Thursday. I'm just so disappointed. This pregnancy has been miserable, to top it off, it's pretty much for sure that I won't get the ob that I want to deliver this baby AND the baby seems to feel totally content in NOT coming out anytime soon. What a bad day. Plus, my oldest DS got hit in the head with branch by another kid today at the playground today and it barely missed his eye. It got him on the eyebrow and it looks awful, so if the baby DOES show up soon, pictures with the baby will look awful, b/c big brother has a big scar on his face, which may or may not bruise... thankfully I didn't have to take him to the ER.

[tracymom1]

Oh Mags,
I am sorry you had such crappy news today. Do you have a doula or know someone who could speak up on your behalf during your birth? Maybe pull out all the stops for a non-medical induction so that you either make some progress or get things going?

[mags]

Originally Posted by tracymom1

Oh Mags,
I am sorry you had such crappy news today. Do you have a doula or know someone who could speak up on your behalf during your birth? Maybe pull out all the stops for a non-medical induction so that you either make some progress or get things going?

No, I won't have a doula (honestly, I don't see myself being someone who would be able to reap the rewards of having a L&D doula), I will just have to be a bossy bitch. I don't like to do it, but I will if I have to. I was VERY specific about what I did and didn't want with my previous two hospital births (which btw, we do, b/c my DH is a hospital employee, otherwise I would have gone with a HB, but our insurance 100% covers prenatal and birth costs if we do it at the hospital), never had to get bitchy about it, but was very firm as soon as I entered the unit, and I was not going to be pushed around. Everything pretty much went ok, except for episiotomies. I guess I am not afraid of being a difficult pt though, I'm an RN and if I had a pt in my shoes, I'd encourage her to say/do whatever she needed to say/do to advocate for herself and not worry about coming off as, "difficult" or "bitchy" to the staff. I think what makes this even worse for me right now is just b/c I'm feeling very miserably pregnant too, so it's like a double whammy. I can definitely say that I AM very emotional these days, just kind of at the end of my rope with this pregnancy and exhausted. I spoke to my sil to vent about it not that long ago and she said that in the end a healthy baby is what really counts (but she's a doctor, so I don't know that she understands why I think medical interventions can be viewed as undesired). Which is true. I guess I'm just not feeling very rational right now, more emotional, kwim? She makes a good point that the end result of a healthy baby is really the main priority, but I guess I just want things the way I want things...

[LilMamiBella]

I was thisclose to being in a car accident this morning. Just now my chinese pug killed one of our chickens. We also found a chick dead in the coop. Dh won't answer his freaking cell phone. I've started taking b&b cohosh and I hope it'll work today.

[tracymom1]

Originally Posted by mags

I can definitely say that I AM very emotional these days, just kind of at the end of my rope with this pregnancy and exhausted. I spoke to my sil to vent about it not that long ago and she said that in the end a healthy baby is what really counts (but she's a doctor, so I don't know that she understands why I think medical interventions can be viewed as undesired). Which is true. I guess I'm just not feeling very rational right now, more emotional, kwim? She makes a good point that the end result of a healthy baby is really the main priority, but I guess I just want things the way I want things...

I am an emotional mess, too.
And I just totally hate it when people say things like "having a healthy baby in the end is all that matters" well, duh! Of course that is the most important thing, but we cannot dismiss the fact that we have valid, real, very strong feelings surrounding the birth experience that DESERVE to be acknowledged. You can't just pretend like your feelings don't count or you will eventually end up dealing with it in some unhealthy way (can you tell I had a traumatic pregnancy/ birth in the past?!!). I am an RN, too, and part of the reason I am not having a hospital birth is because I know all the tricks and I know what is being said behind the labor room door and I just don't know if I have the energy to deal with that during birth.

But it sounds like you know what you want and how to go about being vocal about it! That's awesome. I really hope everything works out well.

Today my MIL got a call from a neighbor's daughter who is an L&D nurse. She spewed a whole bunch of extremely negative and scary rhetoric about maternal death, fetal demise and the horror of home birth to my MIL and really freaked her out. Thankfully, MIL is one of my biggest cheerleaders and knows that whatever decision DH and I made about the birth is the right, safest one for us. I don't blame her for being concerned now, though. When people like that get on their soapbox its hard to separate fact from totally blown up fiction.

[alicewyf]

It seems like the emotional craziness is going around. to tracymom, lilmamibella, and mags.

DH has been an a** the past few days and I can't believe he is pulling crap with me NOW, when I am probably giving birth any day. I know he's probably just as nervous as I am about our first child coming and everything (and that's why he's being stupid), but the thing is he has the advantage of like, twice as much sleep as I've been getting. And he still complains about not getting enough sleep. I want to wring his neck. What I really want is for him to be sweet to me so I feel like having sex with him, because if we don't I know we'll regret it when we can't for a few weeks.

On the good news front...I think I lost a big chunk of my mucous plug late last night. It looked like the biggest booger I've ever seen. Is that what it is supposed to look like? There wasn't any blood that I saw, but I did lose it in the shower and happened to catch the giant booger looking thing when I was rinsing off down there. So I could have missed any spotting. Thoughts? Wow that description was seriously gross!

[mags]

Originally Posted by alicewyf

It seems like the emotional craziness is going around. to tracymom, lilmamibella, and mags.

DH has been an a** the past few days and I can't believe he is pulling crap with me NOW, when I am probably giving birth any day. I know he's probably just as nervous as I am about our first child coming and everything (and that's why he's being stupid), but the thing is he has the advantage of like, twice as much sleep as I've been getting. And he still complains about not getting enough sleep. I want to wring his neck. What I really want is for him to be sweet to me so I feel like having sex with him, because if we don't I know we'll regret it when we can't for a few weeks.

On the good news front...I think I lost a big chunk of my mucous plug late last night. It looked like the biggest booger I've ever seen. Is that what it is supposed to look like? There wasn't any blood that I saw, but I did lose it in the shower and happened to catch the giant booger looking thing when I was rinsing off down there. So I could have missed any spotting. Thoughts? Wow that description was seriously gross!

Alicewyf- My DH and I set up the arms reach co-sleeper last night (well, did not attach to the bed, but it is otherwise ready to go) and has has already started to complain about it. He doesn't want to co-sleep (DS1 was in our room for 6 wks in a bassinet until my DH finally lost it and said HE needed sleep, DS2 didn't even last a wk, but that was b/c he would cry out in his sleep and then we'd freak out and then wake him up by accident), so is not thrilled with the co-sleeper (friend lent it to us). I got REALLY annoyed with him. He doesn't even have to get UP in the middle of the night. *I* am the one who is in for another 2+ yrs of sleepless nights having to get up to nurse and HE has the nerve to complain???? Yeah, he should have kept his comments to himself! I hope that your mucus plug loss is a good sign!

Tracymom1- Thanks. Yeah, I agree with you. Who DOESN'T want a healthy baby? It's kind of moot for ppl to keep pointing that out. At the hospital that I give birth at, I'm a bit of entertainment to them, b/c they RARELY have women who go with natural birth. Like 99% of the women there either get CS or epidurals. It's kind of weird, they treated me like a novelty when I had my last baby there and went med free (in a good way, I had nurses who weren't even assigned to me who stopped by my room to tell me that they were happy to hear I went w/o meds and my ob said that my birth was, "fun," probably b/c I screamed really loud and my head practically spun around). So, maybe they welcome an occasional pt who marches to a different beat. I hate it when ppl use scare tactics to convince ppl into doing something that they are not comfortable with!

[penstamon]

Yay alicewyf! Hoping you have some good progress after losing the mp!

I don't know whats going on with the universe right now, but it seems that many July mamas are getting dealt a bad hand. I always tell myself that its good when things go bad because it all comes in cycles so we're due for good to come soon. I don't know if it helps, but its better to look at it in a positive light? One of my stupid dogs just ate an ornamental maple tree that we have been babying for 3 years- I could KILL her...:: SHe then proceeded to try and run into our bedroom (her safe haven) and peed the whole way. Thanks.

I hate the "healthy baby is top priority" card- yeah no sh*t! As others have said, there is more to a healthy baby and birth than medical tests can show. It has to be treated holistically because it all effects the quality of birth and the quality of life for the family afterward. I can't stand the people who tout all their medical interventions like that is the only way a healthy baby can be born.

Mags- I hope things work out with your OB situation :

Since I missed this week's appt due to car trouble I need to be patient for next week- I don't think I've changed much either because I still can't reach the cervix so it is definitely not anterior yet. I am starting to get antsy to at least have some progress so my willpower is breaking down and I do want another check. Yay close to 100 degrees today (sarcasm)