Avani, it's encouraging to hear your story. Right now, to top it off, another reason I am getting antsy is that my mom is driving me NUTS! She is the one who is supposed to come over to watch my older two kids. She lives an hr away. The problem is that it's often hard to get a hold of her, b/c she doesn't have a cell phone. So, she is borrowing my dad's cell phone right now (and he is a bit of a jerk about this). HOWEVER, I discovered earlier this wk, when I thought I was getting close to having the baby, that she didn't even have it ON. So, now she has it on, but she keeps calling me like every 2 hrs. She'll be like, "OK, I am going to the office now and the cell phone doesn't work there, or the cell phone doesn't work at x place, so call this number and have them give me a msg." Ok, I don't know who their cell phone carrier is, but we live in a more rural area than they do and our service is fine. I have told her NOT to keep calling me for status updates, b/c she is literally the person who will find out first if anything is happening (other than my DH). Yet, she still keeps calling and then telling me weird things. Like today, she decided to go golfing. She called before she left to tell me to page my dad if I needed her, not to use the cell phone?!?! So, I called her back tonight after she called AGAIN and left a msg (she keeps calling me when I'm in the middle of something like getting the kids tucked into bed, etc.) and said to call back.
My dad basically started complaining to me (my mom was on the phone with some other person) that I HAVE to give my mom 1-2 hrs notice before the baby comes. OK, DAD (the pediatrician), like I have ANY control over this??? This baby could come very quickly if my water breaks at home, of course I will try to call my mom over ASAP if I feel that the baby is coming. The worst part is that my father is such a big baby, with DS2, I had a false warning and had my mom come over and then contrax pittered out and she ended up going home to tend to him. My parents were not happy about that (as if I wanted to cause them all of that trouble, right?). I asked him why I had to call his pager instead of the cell phone while they were at the golf course and he said something stupid about how he keeps his cell phone in his golf bag, so when he is driving, he can't hear the stupid cell phone. OK, what a NORMAL person would do is simply take the cell phone out of the stupid BAG that is in the TRUNK of the car and keep it up by the car's console, right? Plus, he usually wears one of those cell phone holders on his belt anyway. Apparantly, this is too much to ask. So, my dad basically was complaining to me about how difficult I'm making it for he and my mom to be on baby watch.
: I am not doing this to make their life difficult. I'm *trying* to not call my my mom over for a false alarm. Last time when I had DS2, my mom left as soon as my DH came home after I had the baby (even though he got NO sleep that night), so he had to take care of DS1... b/c get this. My dad HAD to go golfing, and he HAD to have my mom go with him. b/c I guess he is incapable of going by himself (to meet up his friends), so she ditched us, to go golfing with my dad the day I had DS2!!!! UGH! They drove back together after they golfed to come to the hospital to see the baby, but wasted an hr driving around town trying to fine, "blue" flowers, which turned out to be white carnations dyed with blue dye. Like I HAD to have blue flowers??!?!?!
My in laws are my back up and even worse, b/c my stupid mil is too afraid to drive to our place by herself (lives an hr away in the opposite direction, but it is like 3 turns from her subdivision a hop on the freeway and she is at our place, I swear our 5 yr old knows the route). So, her, "plan" if we call her to come when I go into labor is to meet up with fil, have him drive his car and she will follow him in her car (???)... by the time they organize that, it would have tacked on another hr to their trip.
I'm so annoyed that both dysfunctional sides stress me out. Why can't I have, "normal" parents and in laws??? If it weren't for the way our insurance was set up, I would have went with a homebirth... but then it would have also opened up a whole new can of worms (ie: my parents and in laws would have given me hell about a homebirth) to deal with.
Sorry for the vent. I'm just extremely grouchy today, and my parents are getting on my nerves. I am sick ppl emailing and calling about, "baby news," too.