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post #21 of 31
Ds2 (22 months) loves riding rear facing as it gives him the best view - 4 older sibling to chat and clown with.

However, he will not bend at the hips to be buckled if he even thinks his diaper might be wet. There is no taking him home for a change not matter how close we might be.

Bribes of food, car only toys or music, happy destinations, maturity can all help but I would start with comfort issues. Some seat are just the pits. Perhaps you could trade with a friend for a day or two to sample a different seat?
post #22 of 31
DS was like that when he was in his infant seat, it got alot better when we switched to a convertible, but let me tell you I know the hell you speak of and I felt like a total hostage who couldn't leave the house. So, big hugs.

Have you tried snacks? Snacks are key sometimes.

I know alot of people with screamers, who once they were FF did fabulous. If your LO's height and weight are enough I would consider FF and just see if it helps, it may not.
post #23 of 31
I'm surprised at the number of responses about snacks while in a carseat. Due to the danger of choking , a child of 12 months shouldn't be eating while strapped in a reclining carseat in the backseat of a moving car. Facing backwards makes it even worse. Maybe other toddlers aren't as chokey as mine, though .
Ds was so upset and screaming during car rides that he would become carsick. We turned him ff at one year even though I wanted to wait. It was just not a safe situation with him getting sick and me trying to pull over through lanes of traffic to help him. Overall, it is a much safer situation with him happily forward facing and me a calm driver able to focus on the road. I guess every situation is different.
post #24 of 31
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Thanks! I didn't want to read that, but I'm really glad I did!
post #25 of 31
We didn't start snacks in the car until about 20 months and it was only thin pretzel sticks which he sucked on until they disintegrated in his mouth! One pretzel stick would keep his mouth busy for about 10 minutes! He doesn't regularly eat pretzels (or any packaged foods really) so that was a huge treat for him.
post #26 of 31
Both mine started being ok around 18months. By 2, DS1 not only quit fighting but was willing to ride more than 20 minutes at a time!
post #27 of 31
I don't imagine this would be very helpful as it is probably just one of my toddler's quirks, but he went through a fierce seatbelt loathing phase around 19-20 months and screamed for weeks until I put a blanket on his lap, purely as a fluke. Now he insists on the blanket before the car starts, whether it's 20 degrees outside or 120. This is a kid who had never (voluntary) used a blanket in bed. I guess he likes the routine and the security.
Maybe some sort of special "car lovey" would be useful.
post #28 of 31
Also wanted to add that you should check to see if the sun/lights from the road are bothering him. I went down to my ds height one day and the sun was glaring right in my face. My DS is sensitive to light in his eyes and he screams even more at night b/c the street lights are flickering in his face.
post #29 of 31
with DS the issue is getting him in the seat. Once he's in, he's fine... but he hates the process of buckling in. So what we have done is we keep a few tricks ready to distract him with and rotate them (because he'll get bored with one if we rely on it too much). Right now, here's what we rotate through
1) A bottle of water (like a real bottle--not a baby bottle). He loves drinking out of grown up containers right now...he only gets it while we're buckling him in so that he doesn't spill it all over the place. Sometimes he will settle for a sippy.
2) My car keys. He loves pushing the button on my keyless enrty remote.
3) A set of fake hot pink vampire teeth. First I put them in and go "rar-rar-rar" at him. Then I let him play with them (but only while buckling him in and then I take them away because they really arent' recommended for under 3)
4) crackers

And if all that fails, I just apologize to him and tell him that I know he doesn't like it, but that I want him to be safe. And I have to sort of shove him in.
post #30 of 31
My son stopped when I bought him a nicer, cushier carseat around 16 months and installed it more upright (it was still rearfacing). Since rearfacing is so much safer, I personally would try out another seat - maybe borrow one- and install the seat more upright. I don't think most people know that a rear facing seat does not have to have that perfect 45 degree angle once your baby can sit up reliably. And I suspect that for many of the kids whose disposition improved upon being faced forward, they were responding to the improved angle.
post #31 of 31
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My son stopped when I bought him a nicer, cushier carseat around 16 months and installed it more upright (it was still rearfacing). Since rearfacing is so much safer, I personally would try out another seat - maybe borrow one- and install the seat more upright. I don't think most people know that a rear facing seat does not have to have that perfect 45 degree angle once your baby can sit up reliably. And I suspect that for many of the kids whose disposition improved upon being faced forward, they were responding to the improved angle.
yep - this! Worked for our dd, who is still rfing (now happily) at 31mos. Try a different seat at a more upright angle. DD loves to look out the side and back windows, and she uses the mirror to see what I'm doing in the passenger seat when dh drives (I can't sneak any snacks without her seeing! )
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