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post #21 of 36
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OK...I'm starting to feel a little bad. Maybe I'm using this excuse preemptively to avoid spending the weeks following Christmas at my inlaws nasty house...when they refuse to drive here to see us. (It's a lot harder for me to arrange for someone to care for our 2 dogs, 3 cats, fish and flock of backyard chickens as well as pack up stuff for my husband and I, my 3 yr old and all the cloth diapers and clothes that a newborn requires...than it is for the two of them to have a neighbor let their dogs out and drive up on their day off)

Although I genuinely do feel uncomfortable with toting a tiny baby around to different houses, to be held by a number of people...)

ok, ok...maybe those are more excuses. I haven't even figured out what I'll do after the birth when dh's family wants to come in. They certainly won't be welcome here in the first few days...and then I would like some time to get settled into a routine before having overnight guests...

It's making my head spin and it's still months away!
post #22 of 36
I don't think you're under any obligation to tote a tiny baby around during flu season. Particularly to see people who apparently are content to NOT see you unless YOU traveled to them.....

And I don't think any of your reasons sound like excuses. You will need to be resting and healing from the birth. You are concerned about how hard of a car trip it will be and exposing a itty bitty to lots of people.

I would just refuse to feel bad about spending Christmas in my own house just because people who happen to share DNA would rather be doing that themselves instead of letting me and my newborn do it.
post #23 of 36
kayleigh is due 3days b4 thanksgiving and im Staying home!
i told my MIL ugh i dont like her but i told her i would bring the baby over for christmas but as far as my DH father goes he wont meet this baby till she is at least 6months old as i will NOT see him nor bring the baby to him or let him in my home and i feel my husband wont beable to take the aby til she is at least 6months old as this is the first baby he will ever be around! and i wont let him take her alone till 6months or so
post #24 of 36
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I don't think you're under any obligation to tote a tiny baby around during flu season. Particularly to see people who apparently are content to NOT see you unless YOU traveled to them.....

And I don't think any of your reasons sound like excuses. You will need to be resting and healing from the birth. You are concerned about how hard of a car trip it will be and exposing a itty bitty to lots of people.

I would just refuse to feel bad about spending Christmas in my own house just because people who happen to share DNA would rather be doing that themselves instead of letting me and my newborn do it.
It feels unreasonable to me for them to even expect us to plan to come there.

I think I'm putting my foot down on it. It will be too cold, require too much planning and a lot of discomfort as well as the fact that I don't see any point in dragging a newborn out in public to be handled by every relative known to man.

So we'll make our house available around Christmas time, extend an early invitation, let it be known that we won't be traveling and enjoy the Holidays!
post #25 of 36
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Braxton Hicks

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post #26 of 36
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2 years ago my water broke on Thanksgiving morning. Labor didn't start until that night so I was able to finish the festivities. DH has a video of me making stuffing in the kitchen while having mild contractions. It was entertaining.
I can't imagine that my family would LET me come to T-giving if my water had broken that morning. They would send me to the hospital asap, or make the day absolutely intolerable if I made the choice to stay there!

We live just minutes from my parents, so we'll undoubtedly do Thanksgiving and Christmas with them. The nice thing is that I don't have to do the preparations and cooking.
post #27 of 36
DH has a brother & sister in town with 6 kids between them. DS was born 12/20 and on 12/23 we went to SIL's house for a xmas get-together. But she lives only 1/2 mile away. I would not have driven 30 minutes. #2 is due a week before t-day. Maybe we'll go over to one of my IL's. Otherwise, we are having blueberry pancakes. I am not a turkey fan. 3 of the last 4 t-day dinners we're grilled steak and baked potatoes or clam chowder. So much easier. This year - I think blueberry pancakes sounds perfect.

If I had relatives pestering me or trying to make me feel guilty about not traveling to see them - I'd be less than pleasant. But guess what, YOU ARE THE NEW MOMMY. Even if you feel great, play the tired & hormonal card if you have to do so. Stay home a have the nice quiet time you want. If they want to see the baby so badly they can make the effort to do so.

I just need to figure out how to tell my mom not to come up before 12/1! I want her here to help with a new baby, not beg me to get an induction so she gets more time with the babe. Plus, then she can be here for #1's 2nd b-day.
post #28 of 36
Since I'm due 11/27-ish we aren't making plans for Thanksgiving. If I happen to give birth early we may trek down to see dh's family. We most likely will go down there for Christmas too. This is the first year we're on the same coast as his family and we're excited to do the family get together thing.
post #29 of 36
I'm excited Thanksgiving WON'T be at my house for a change- and then the day after Thanksgiving is our Eid-Adha (a huge Islamic holiday) so that will have to be celebrated elsewhere too. :nana:

I don't mind traveling with a newborn at all (just got my Moby yesterday) so all I plan on doing is showing up to eat : and show off my new lo :!
post #30 of 36
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Originally Posted by C-Momma View Post
What are you doing for the Holidays? I keep trying to imagine that this year we'll be going through all these motions with two kids! :
we live 24 hours (straight, non-stop by car) from any family. so .... lol! my mom & her husband ar egoing to fly out for thanksgiving. not sure what dh's family's plan is, yet.
post #31 of 36
My due date is right on Thanksgiving and I am notorious for going right on or the day after my due date. We just moved to Florida so we still don't really know anybody and all our family is in Massachusetts. So, I think it's safe to say that we won't be doing anything. I think MIL is coming down a couple days before T-day so she can cook us a meal (that's what MIL's are for! )
post #32 of 36
Since my due date falls exactly one week before Thanksgiving, we've decided to tell family and friends that they are more than welcome for the holiday, but they should plan on cooking and cleaning. I think we might have some takers! I figure, I'll either have a tiny baby or be cranky as heck wanting to go into labor, and therefore in no position to have to do silly things like cook and clean for myself.

Christmas we may go to husband's family's (about 6 hours away) depending on how much vacation/holiday time he has, or if he can take some of his FMLA time then.

New Year's two of my friends have promised to come to town and hang out, since they'll both have time off. However, the celebration will consist of champagne and sweatpants on the sofa, as it did last year.
post #33 of 36
I found myself not wanting to be around ANYONE after DD was born (serious mama bear syndrome) and I can already feel it happening -- and I'm only 24 weeks pg. I'm due early-mid November and I'm really just anticipating staying home. I do NOT want to deal with people.

As an aside, let me just share my issues with people after the birth. My MIL was drunk, my mother smelled like an ashtray and undermined EVERYTHING I was doing, MIL (when not buzzed) kept saying "you kids have to figure out how to do this on your own". Thanks guys, thanks. I'm hiding in my house for the first 6 weeks.
post #34 of 36
I'm 40 weeks November 12, but I'm really hoping to go late. My husband doesn't get paid time off, but his company takes off Thanksgiving and the Friday after. It would be really nice for the baby to come that weekend before or early in that week so that DH can just take that week off and not have to have additional unpaid time off for the holiday afterward (Does that make sense? He has off for those days anyway so I'd rather he just be home then) We don't do much for Thanksgiving except go to my moms for a really laid back dinner. No stress here. I could go there within a couple of days of giving birth and be fine.
post #35 of 36
My parents will have T-giving at their house and we will make it if the baby hasn't come yet or if the baby comes fairly early. They live closer to my midwife than I do so going into labor at their house wouldn't be a big deal! My mom's supposed to be at the birth anyhow.

We'll probably make it to my extended family's Christmas thing in mid-December unless the baby comes in early December, but we will definitely expect to take the drive there SLOWLY. Usually it's about 2.5 hours and we'll probably just plan on it taking at least 5 unless we manage to time leaving during a sleep-time (whenever that may be). My other two slept very well in the car until they were about 2 months old so it might turn out better than I'm expecting. Still, expecting a more difficult time is better, IMO, just so I'll be prepared.

I'm 100% looking forward to all the T-giving leftovers that people have promised me! Even if the baby comes early, I'm sure I'll still appreciate meals at the end of the month

I also have a low-stress family who are all either supportive or consider me to be a lost cause. Either way, they respect my boundaries and parenting decisions. If going to the family events would cause stress then I would definitely forgo them this year.
post #36 of 36
I have to admit, I am thrilled this baby is due so close to the holidays--FINALLY, we have an excuse to not have to drive all over the place, visiting every relative we have and running ourselves absolutely ragged. I got a one year reprieve!!
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