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post #1 of 29
Thread Starter 
First of all, I will admit that this thread was inspired by the post for pierced ears for little girls ....BUT I don't want it to deteriorate into a discussion about circing or anything like that other one did. I simply want to know how many other moms besides me have their little boys' ears pierced (any age...even to teen is ok for this discussion). My boys are 5 and 7 and both have their ears pierced. While, yes, it was originally our decision to pierce their ears, both boys like it and don't want to let their ears close up. They totally enjoy their earrings ! And before anyone asks, yes they both are 100 % "boyish" and not "little girlish" so don't even go there with the "boys should be boys and girls should be girls" crap. That isn't why I am asking this. I just want to know if there are any others in here who have had their ds's ears pierced and if they like it as much as I do (and as much as my sons do).
post #2 of 29
I second CK's mama ~ I treat my sons the same way I would if they were girls...if they want to pierce they must wait until age 12. Kind of an arbitrary age, but it seemed to me like an age to be recognized as old enough to make mature, well thought out decisions. DS #1 (now nearly13) got his ear pierced on his 12th birthday. He had been wanting it for a few years and I think the waiting made it even more exciting and special for him. He did a great job keeping it clean until it healed, no nagging needed.
post #3 of 29
Thread Starter 
I couldn't agree more about how and where to get a kid's ears pierced ! I did the same with my boys and they had a great experience with it...no probs. I urge other parents who read this to take the same advice about ear piercing (Thanks for saying it, by the way).
As for knowing what this site is like, yes, I know that it is usually more open than most, but I felt that I had to make that disclaimer just in case...you never know. LOL !
post #4 of 29
Ditto what 3boysmom said. If ds wants his ear pierced when he's older, I'm fine with it.
post #5 of 29
Shann - I apologize if I have you confused with someone else, but aren't you the mama that refuses to cut her boys' hair until they want it cut because of respect for their bodily integrity?

How is your deciding to pierce their ears any different than cutting their hair?
post #6 of 29
Thread Starter 
Yes, my boys' hair is long, but I didn't join in the "bodily integrity" discussion. They like their long hair and also like their earrings. There is no need to read any more into my motives other than that we (bf and I) and the boys like the long hair and earrings. I have no intention of being baited into a "bodily integrity" discussion ! That wasn't the purpose of this post, so please dont add such to it ! I was merely asking for other peoples' experiences in this area.
post #7 of 29
wow, there are alot of qualifiers and rules for responses in the OP.

But this being a public board and all, I will say that the decision to pierce is one that my child makes. I don't agree with getting kids ears pierced before they ask for it themselves of their own free will.

"I just want to know if there are any others in here who have had their ds's ears pierced and if they like it as much as I do"

I don't know but the above quote seems like your saying you pierced your kids ears cause you thought it was cool. I personally don't make decisions for that reason.
post #8 of 29
No, I waited until he (and my dd's) asked. Which was age 5 about. He got one hole in one ear. 2 yrs later, he got one hole in the other ear.

He loves them. He also loves to wear his hair long, but since he is so beautiful (big eyes with long dark lashes, blonde hair) he gets mistaken for a girl all the time, even at age 12, when dressed in camos and a baggy t-shirt in dark "manly" colors. So he gets fed up and cuts his hair from time to time. Or dyes it black. And even that doesn't always help.
post #9 of 29
I have a VERY pierced DH, so I DO NOT agree with any notion that piercings of any type are just for one gender or the other. I think my DH is the hottest thing around, and part of his appeal are the piercings!!

THAT SAID.........I keep the same stance on this that I would for girls. If my little boy wanted an ear pierced, it would have to wait till he was old enough to fully understand the implications of what he was doing. I'm ok with helping care for it but I don't think it's ok to just do it because *I* want it done or think it would be "cool". His ears, his choice....when he's old enough to make it. I think I'd say probably around 8 or 9.
post #10 of 29
Quote:
Originally posted by Shann
I have no intention of being baited into a "bodily integrity" discussion ! That wasn't the purpose of this post, so please dont add such to it ! I was merely asking for other peoples' experiences in this area.
I apologize, Shann. In retrospect, that was pretty inappropriate.

I'm sick and crabby today and I think between the religion post and the idea of choosing to pierce a child's ears for decorative reasons, my nerves were plucked a bit raw.

Anyway, I'm in agreement with most of the other mamas who have posted. I'm all for piercings (have quite a few myself), but won't be getting any for ds until he's ready to ask for them and take care of them.
post #11 of 29
i don't plan on getting my kids' ears pierced until they're at least teenagers.

BUT

if my son (if i had one) wanted his ears pierced, that's fine. i have a real issue with 'girls only/boys only' things and i don't feel ear piercing is a girls only thing.
post #12 of 29
Shann,

I don't think on mdc you wuold get many whose opinions would be different depending on the gender of the child. So your question here would probably get the same responses as on the other post.

Personally, none of my children, of either gender, would get piercings because of my choice. It's not my body to make such decisions about. If they ask, they will be expected to wait until they are old enough to fully understand the implications, and care for them themselves. I don't set an age for that - one child may be old enough at ten, another at twelve - we'll deal with the issue if and when it arrives.

I just don't see that I have a right to have my child's body altered in any way, regardless of how good I think it might look. Someone once told me to get someone else to take my girls to have their ears pierced, then they would look great, but if they cried, it wouldnt have upset me. :

But gender doesn't come into it - my personal sense of right and wrong is not influenced by gender stereotypes.
post #13 of 29
I view piercings for little boys the same way as piercings for little girls.

My son doesn't have any piercings.

I'll leave it at that, as this doesn't feel like a thread welcoming general discussion.

peace,
alsoSarah
post #14 of 29
I talked about my DS in the other ear ring post...
DS (now 10) began to ask to get his ear pierced when he was 7. DH has 2 ear rings in one ear, and he wanted to be like Dad! I told DS he has to wait until he was 10, that is how old I was when I got mine done. Old enough to take care if it with out being nagged :LOL
DS got his piercing this last September, just 1. I do like it. My MIL even got him a silver skull earing for Xmas. He has already asked for another one! He told me he does not want another piercing right now, maybe when he gets to Jr. High.
post #15 of 29
I am undecided on what I consider an appropriate age for piercings for children. My ds is 3.5 years old, and at some point, I would probably allow him to get his ear(s) pierced if he asks, but I haven't decided at what age yet. I am expecting a girl in April, and I feel no differently about allowing her to get hers pierced. Interestingly, my dh has several ear piercings in both ears and regularly wears one in each...yet, my son identifes earrings with girls! Ds actually said to me the other day, "Well you know how I can tell if someone is a girl and I am not really sure? It's because they wear earrings." How did that happen?!?
post #16 of 29
The more children I have, the more I learn. I had my oldest dd's ears pierced at 6 months. I wouldn't do that again. I had my second dd's ears pierced the first time at 3. I wouldn't do that again either. She just turned 9 and just got them re-pierced. She's taken VERY good care of them. I'm glad I waited until she was 9 this time. As for my boys...I asked my ds, who's 5.5 in a joking way if he wanted his ears pierced. I thought for sure he would say no. At first he did. About an hour later, however, he said "mommy, actually I would like to get my ears pierced". I explained to him that while I was just kidding that if he still wanted them pierced in a couple years I would be more than happy to let him. I feel the same way about my boys as I (finally) feel about my girls. No earrings until they are old enough to take care of them, but when that time comes I'm absolutely happy to allow it.
post #17 of 29
Same rules for my son as with my daughters.
post #18 of 29
Quote:
Originally posted by Britishmum

I don't think on mdc you wuold get many whose opinions would be different depending on the gender of the child.

You guys must not have read the other thread. Many people said that this simply wasn't an issue for boys because to a son they would just say no. Many!

That said, I am not one of them. :LOL I would be very cautious as I am allergic to almost everything (I can wear titanium, platinum, or rhodium; no nickel, no steel, no gold of any K, no silver... I could go on and on ) and my son has already exhibited symptoms of metal allergy. He fell asleep in his carseat wearing a pair of overalls with metal adjusters and woke up with a rash that lasted for two days on one side of his face & neck, and required a great deal of benadryl cream.

So, after discussing the risk of allergy and the cleanliness issue, I'd be all in favor of my little man getting his ear(s) pierced. It's totally his decision. I don't see it as a huge thing; yes, it can be permanent but the holes can close and you're not forced to wear earrings (unless you start stretching things, but that's a whole different story). I'd want my son to be, at the very least, 1)verbal 2)potty trained (evidence that he can take care of his body) and 3)able to brush his teeth on his own (more evidence). Same requirements I have for a girl-child.
post #19 of 29
My son has an earring. We did it when he was 9.
post #20 of 29
Um, I responded to another post here accidentally, oops.

Since I had to edit this anyway I'll add if DS wants to get his ear/s pierced when he's old enough and responsible enough to take care of them that's fine with me.
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