One-year-old time outs - Page 2

[RasJi7]

we've used the sign for pain from a young age so generally I can explain to my son, that I am baking, the oven is on and point to it and tell him 'ouch, hot' while using the sign for pain, he will give me a look of understanding and do the sign as well. If he gets close I just remind, 'ouch oven is hot!' and he will back away and do the sign for pain. When he would get hurt I would do the sign and say 'ouch that hurt' so that's how I showed him that one.

At 16 months I have taken to telling him something once and then physically doing for him what I have asked him to do rather than repeating myself. example:Jahmari time to change your pamper, let's go to the bathroom. no response. So I'll pick him up, while saying, time to change your pamper, let's go to the bathroom.

i love the book 'Without Spanking or Spoiling' which was recommended on here. Got it for less than a dollar on amazon.

I think it's a little strange that a ped would cross over to talkig about discipline, seems more like a psychology kind of thing or sociology?? idk, wouldn't really expect parenting advice from my ped...

personally I'm not into the time out thing- as my son gets older I can see myself setting up a thinking spot or something like that with things that relax him, maybe pic we draw together or headphones with relaxing music, a journal, a list of virtues that we are working on cultivating etc. At this age though, i am trying to ignore behaviors i don't want repeated and encourage those that are more desirable based on the values that are most important to me. I may say a few words as I pick my son up and redirect him about which virtue he could use at the moment in the hopes that eventually it will all click...

[1littlebit]

i dont know how i would even get ds (17 mos) to sit in time out unless i tied him down or something. so for us it wouldnt work but even if i could get him to sit in time out i doubt he would get what it means.

[Dolphingirlsd]

One year old is way too young for time outs! Your baby would never understand what you were doing. Maybe your pediatrician is talking about looking at the future and how you would discipline when your baby gets older!

[syn_ack89]

Originally Posted by chipper26

My pediatrician was talking discipline at our 1 year appt. I agreed with the redirection advice and the part about watching how hungry/tired/etc. your LO is when going on outings or doing different thing b/c it affects their behavior. But he said for serious offensives like safety violations a firm no should be used and if it continues, a time-out. He said one minute per year of age.

Am I right in thinking that my one-year-old is not going to link the time-out consequence to the offense, and even if she did... it won't be what stops her from doing it again.

How do you teach a child so young not to "touch" certain things? I guess I believed they didn't really have the self control, etc. to stay away from things that are dangerous and it is my job to redirect, stop them or keep them away from those situations altogether... hence the babyproofing and the gates. What do you think?

I did one minute time outs with my LO. When we started the time out I told him why and then I reiterated when we finished. Then I gave him a hug and kiss and told him I loved him. He did really seem to "get" it.

I probably gave him 3 timeouts as a 1yr old. As a 2yr old I've given him 2. He seems to understand and stop the behavior. This is in addition to redirecting, making things as non-hazardous as I can.

[sapphire_chan]

1 year olds can be given timeouts? Seriously? : :

Buy hey, that the velcro-stage ends, ever.

[newbymom05]

Time outs for a baby? I think that's crazy. Actually, I think time outs for under 3 is crazy unless the time-out is for the parent to calm down. My oldest bit, hit, touched the stove, tormented the dog, etc etc etc and all we did was child proof, say no and redirect. Now he's 4 and doesn't doesn't do any of those things. Parents who are doing a time out w/ a baby are going to get the same results by 4 whether they spank, time out, or redirect--it's maturity that's the issue, IMO.