[QUOTE=fork;14098083]Except this is flat out wrong. In a public place, or a private place with owners permission, you can take a picture of who or whatever you want (with very few exceptions), including children. You can check out your rights as a photographer here: http://www.krages.com/phoright.htm
Permission is only needed to sell/use for advertising pictures of people or children and sometimes property.
The press works differently. They DO NOT need your permission to publish a picture of you, the front of your house, your kid, or really anything. If a member of the press is at your kid's school to cover an event, your kid may just end up in the paper, and there is really nothing you can do about it except keep them home or away from the activities.
School policies are not laws. In most cases they are there to prevent lawsuits. They follow the opt out forms so strictly because they don't want to get sued if they post a picture of a kid in the school newsletter and abusive dad find outs where the family lives and causes harm.[/QUOTE
The laws are really not all that clear and some parts of the law vary from state to state. the point is that, regardless of what's LEGAL, as a parent I should have a say about what goes on in a day care or class I send my kid to. It's perfectly legal for them to stick her in the corner facing the wall, for example, as punishment, but I wouldn;'t allow that either. It's about what's acceptable. We make plenty of choices for our kids regardless of what's legal! I mean, it's legal for the principals of schools in many states to paddle children without asking a parent. so what? I'd file a lawsuit anyway if it happened to my kid. that's how laws change. legality is irrelevant, IMO.