Help with hitting please

[Pumpkin_Pie]

My 27 month old DS has started hitting me in the face regularly. He will come up to me, hit me in the face and say "I hit you!" and run away squealing with laughter. It makes me so angry and I just can't figure out what to do about it. When he comes up to me, there is absolutely no warning, so I don't want to duck away from him every time he comes near me, but when he does it, it is like lightening and then he just seems to love it so much.

I have been having him sit down for a minute or two and we talk about how we don't hit, and he will even say, "I no hit, all done hitting" but then he gets up, comes over and occasionally hits again right away for a few minutes later.

His other favorite time to hit is when I am buckling him into his car seat. My face is right there in front of him, and it is impossible to hold both of his hands and buckle him in.

I am at my wits end and desperately need a solution. I have ended up yelling at him, which only makes him scream at me and giggle some more, which escalates everything and pushes my buttons to the point of me just needing to walk away.

I just can't figure out what a logical consequence of him hitting me would be.

[Happily Blessed]

Wow! I hope you get the answer to this because I have been dealing with this issue. I hate to be hit in the face and really try not over react like I want to.

I have cried and that has stopped DS.

[tinyblackdot]

Whenever my dd hits, we immediately tell her that hands are NOT for hitting, they are for loving. And how it is not nice at all to hit, and that it hurts me, and that it is not funny, That hitting mommy makes me very sad. And then thats, i dont say anything else, and the next time, when she hits, i say "No, Hands are not for what?" And i repeat the phrase each time it happens untill she can say it herself, and by then she understands and starts to stop herself.

Also, if she hits me while we are playing or sitting around i immediately tell her that hitting is not nice, and that it hurts me, and that i love her very much, but that i dont like being hit, and ask her to apologize, and if she wont then i walk away.

[cocobean]

Maybe he does it because he likes your reaction to it. Maybe the best thing to do would be to ignore the behavior. When he does it maybe simply say that you don't want to talk to him right now because you don't like to be hit. If he does it again just completly ignore him. Maybe he is just wanting some attention. ???

[Pumpkin_Pie]

I had forgotten about this thread, but found it in the new posts tonight. The hitting has pretty much stopped now, thankfully, but he is still screaming regularly when he wants me to pay attention to him and not to another person I am trying to have a conversation with.

I do try to do GD with him, but I have started using a version of time out with him. When he hits or screams at me, I tell him he needs to sit down for a minute. I stay in the same room with him, but I do something else that doesn't involve him. He usually will cry for a few minutes, and then when he calms down, I let him get up and he is a new (calm) kiddo.

One new thing that he has added to his behaviors that drives me insane though is spitting. He spit directly in my face tonight when I was out in public with a very large group of people. I took him to the edge of the room, sat him in a chair facing away from everyone else and sat down in a chair next to him. He cried for a bit, we talked about why it wasn't ok to spit, and he eventually calmed down and didn't spit again for the rest of the time we were there.