Help needed for young men considering circ

[glongley]

I am passing on a request from an intactivist friend for resources, or individuals, who would be supportive to a couple young men considering circumcision for perceived social pressure. I do not have direct contact with the young men in question, but if you would like to be a support person I can refer you to my intactivist friend if you PM me. Some of the young intact men on this board would be ideal.

Also, does anyone know of any online resources like message boards, etc. that might be helpful for this situation.

Gillian

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A dear friend just visited. Her son is having a very difficult time and is considering a circ, as is her close friend's son. The boys have been teased by their peers, and are fearful of the reaction of women.

I was wondering if anyone could start a website (or link it to an existing website) for young men where they discuss:

1. how they handled people who teased them

2. how they handled if a woman made fun of them

3. men who decided to get circed for these reasons and regretted it afterwards.

I am hearing about these stories more often. The mothers are doubting that they made the right decision and are suffering because their sons are having such difficulty.

Please let me know if there are any young intactivists who would be able to support these young men if they should desire to communicate with someone.

All help and support would be appreciated.

Thanks.

[tutucrazy]

I am not a man but I have an intact hubby and would be happy to share our experiences. PM me.

[ursaminor]

I too have an intact DH. Feel free to PM me as well.
I once asked him if he was ever met with negetivity by GF in his life because of his intactness, he repied, most cannot or did not tell the difference.

[Fellow Traveler]

Originally Posted by glongley

I am passing on a request from an intactivist friend for resources, or individuals, who would be supportive to a couple young men considering circumcision for perceived social pressure. I do not have direct contact with the young men in question, but if you would like to be a support person I can refer you to my intactivist friend if you PM me. Some of the young intact men on this board would be ideal.

Also, does anyone know of any online resources like message boards, etc. that might be helpful for this situation.

Gillian

-----LETTER OF REQUEST REPOSTED WITH PERMISSION-----
-----PM ME IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO SEND A RESPONSE -----

A dear friend just visited. Her son is having a very difficult time and is considering a circ, as is her close friend's son. The boys have been teased by their peers, and are fearful of the reaction of women.

I was wondering if anyone could start a website (or link it to an existing website) for young men where they discuss:

1. how they handled people who teased them

2. how they handled if a woman made fun of them

3. men who decided to get circed for these reasons and regretted it afterwards.

I am hearing about these stories more often. The mothers are doubting that they made the right decision and are suffering because their sons are having such difficulty.

Please let me know if there are any young intactivists who would be able to support these young men if they should desire to communicate with someone.

All help and support would be appreciated.

Thanks.

Check your PMs.

[Sunsolei33]

My husband is intact and can give support/advice. He is from India though, so has not dealt with any teasing or anything. However I am sure he would be glad to give you 1001 reasons to not get circ'ed !!

Check your PM I will send you my email addy.

[sam12345]

Well I'm a 22 year old intact male who really considered getting circed from age 16-18. You can send on this reply to whomever you like. My advice is to wait! You say these men are worried about girls not liking it, well they should at the very least wait until they have experience with some women before they decide to go through with it. In my experience if I pull back the skin before the "action" starts she does not even notice (especially if she is fairly new to seeing penises, which I assume is the case if your in high school). As you get older the girls might become more aware, but they will also become more mature. I haven't had any girl comment on my intactness but if they did in a negative manner at my age, I probably wouldn't have anything to do with them. As far as teasing... I didn't really have much teasing, it was mainly just my buddies messing around. To be honest I think most of it was jealousy because they have heard its more sensitive and what not. So at the very least wait to do it until it really becomes an issue, teenagers have insecurities about everything. Don't do something you'll regret later just because of a little insecurity today.

[leila1213]

Originally Posted by sam12345

Well I'm a 22 year old intact male who really considered getting circed from age 16-18. You can send on this reply to whomever you like. My advice is to wait! You say these men are worried about girls not liking it, well they should at the very least wait until they have experience with some women before they decide to go through with it. In my experience if I pull back the skin before the "action" starts she does not even notice (especially if she is fairly new to seeing penises, which I assume is the case if your in high school). As you get older the girls might become more aware, but they will also become more mature. I haven't had any girl comment on my intactness but if they did in a negative manner at my age, I probably wouldn't have anything to do with them. As far as teasing... I didn't really have much teasing, it was mainly just my buddies messing around. To be honest I think most of it was jealousy because they have heard its more sensitive and what not. So at the very least wait to do it until it really becomes an issue, teenagers have insecurities about everything. Don't do something you'll regret later just because of a little insecurity today.

what a great response.

[kriket]

my ex made the comment to me that his friend sometimes 'took a long time' and it was uncomfortable for his partner. He said it was probably because he was circed and my ex wasn't. Hes probably right. Circed men can be uncomfortable

p.s. this was when I first started to think that being circed wasn't a great idea.

[Papai]

I'm intact and married. And my DW comes from a culture that believes STRONGLY in circ. It won't be an issue with the vast majority of women. And if it is, she's not worth it. They need to understand they're not the only ones who are intact.

On a sidenote: How are their friends taking a gander at their penis to "make fun" of them in the first place? And what kind of taunts are they receiving?

[Quirky]

try PMing perspective -- i know he posts on a forum for young men where they discuss issues like this, although i don't know what the forum is. he's a young circed man whose twin is intact IIRC, and he should have some good insights.

[perspective]

wow, I just looked at my in box, and found this. Does anything know the status of all this? Do these guys still need some advice, or are they set?

[Yulia_R]

Hi Gillian,

If these two boys are from CO and if their mothers don't mind, I'd be happy to meet with them and explain them VERY straight forward why I would prefer an intact man on a heart beat. I think that in the end all young guys worry about is hot girls' opinion about the matter and I'll be happy to help with this one .

[perspective]

Originally Posted by Yulia_R

Hi Gillian,

If these two boys are from CO and if their mothers don't mind, I'd be happy to meet with them and explain them VERY straight forward why I would prefer an intact man on a heart beat. I think that in the end all young guys worry about is hot girls' opinion about the matter and I'll be happy to help with this one .

heh, sorry but that sounds sketchy on so many levels. "Hey there is this woman online who can meet with your kids and tell them that she would love their penises...hypothetically...."

Also more then anything I think that would be INCREDIBLY awkward more then anything else for those two guys.

And to be fare I dont think thats "all young guys worry about" when it comes to this issue.

[glongley]

I sent on the contact info of the intactivist friend who sent this to me, to those of you who replied originally on this thread or through my PM. They are in New York. I think my intactivist friend has very little direct opportunity to influence these young men directly, but wanted to know what resources there were out there for future reference.

Perspective, I will pm you her contact info. Thanks for the replies.

Gillian