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post #21 of 25
I don't know if this will be helpful for your child or anyone else's child here but my dd and I are going through therapy. My dd experienced something that no child should go through recently and is getting help for it.

But anyways, in group therapy, we learned to manage our outbursts by using superhero figurines. Our therapist would leave many different superheros figurines on table for each child to pick then explain that whenever a superhero feels really upset from a situation, and ask children in the group, what do superhero do with their anger? The children would say, "Batman will stop joker from blasting city" or "Spiderman will dive and save the girl from hitting the ground" etc... then the therapist would say something like this, thats right, remember you all have your super power, so when you get angry, what do you do? Then the children would say, "give my sister a hug if she fall and hurt her butt" or etc. It really did help my daughter and it helped me a lot too. I mean, whenever I get upset, I would immediately go back to the group therapy and think of that bat girl figurine and told myself to calm down and do the right thing.
post #22 of 25
DD is 3.5 and doesn't usually have tantrums anymore, but when she did I would always get down a little below her eye level and empathize with her. She would usually ask to nurse and while she was nursing I would stroke her leg gently and sing. This helped us to both calm down.
post #23 of 25
A friend of mine said to me that when he was a little boy, he remembered having temper tantrums to get his parent's attention. He said that one time, his parents ran out of ideas to get him to be quiet and stop whining and screaming... so get this. They picked him up, put him in the bathtub (still wearing all his clothes) and dumped water on his head. He said that when it happened, he went from screaming bloody murder to laughing and thinking he had the coolest parents in the world! I don't really understand the philosophy behind it, but he swears it worked for him.
post #24 of 25
I'll offer to draw a crowd to come check out her tantrum if she didn't stop. Always worked:
post #25 of 25
My DD is the type who wants to be alone, so I usually say "I'm going to do XYZ in the kitchen and you're welcome to join me when you're ready." And she does. Originally I tried to stay involved and it made her more upset.
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