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Originally Posted by musiclady  Uhhh I did *NOT* enjoy my 6wk at all. I had ZERO clue that we were doing an internal exam. I cried. I was mortified. I still had some drainage and it was just so very embarrassing. I felt like any shred of dignity I had left was absolutely gone.
I called my husband in tears. My OB said we could reschedule, but after waiting an hour in the lobby and not being able to visit lilah in the NICU, there was no way i was going to waste another day.
It wasn't a big deal. Just wish someone would have told me.
And when she asked me about BC, she just didn't seem to think it was funny when I replied, "Well, first we've got to have sex again." I thought it was hi-frickin-larious.
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That sounds just awful. I hate internal exams too, although I did know that the post-partum would involve one, especially since I'd had about one million stitches-- my OB would have to check to see that everything had healed-- and because I was almost a year behind on my Pap. (I'd been due for one just before I got pregnant, and NOBODY was going to be stabbing my cervix with a Q-tip in my first trimester! Not after four miscarriages, anyway-- it makes ya paranoid! I said they could do it whenever I wasn't pregnant anymore.)
I just try to remember that to the doctors and nurses, it's just one more part of their job, nothing they haven't seen a thousand times before. They don't care what we look like 'down there', or whether we're well-groomed, or still bleeding, or whatever. At least, they *shouldn't*, and as far as I can tell they don't. I once went to the ER during one of my miscarriages (thought it might be ectopic b/c all the pain was on one side-- turns out my uterus is just tilted sideways), and had to have an internal exam through all the bleeding of a miscarriage, which is like a heavy period but worse, by a doctor that wasn't even an OB but just the ER on-call guy. And while that doc was kind of a jerk, he handled all the blood like a pro. Which I guess he is.
By the way, does anybody else notice OBs' and nurses' tendency towards cutesy language? What is up with that? I noticed in the hospital that all the nurses and some of the doctors, refered to my perineum as my "bottom"-- terminology I haven't used since I was a little kid! And last week, when my OB was checking my cervix, he described it as "a happy cervix!" Please! I almost expected a sticker and a lollipop on the way out the door. We're all grown-ups here, and if we don't know the proper names for our bits and pieces, the doctors' office is the perfect place to hear them used!
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