What do you do when they've weaned?

[earthgirl]

So I'm pretty sure we're done nursing. DD hasn't nursed in about a week now and hasn't even asked. I'm a little surprised b/c I just really didn't see it coming. She was down to 2-3 times a day for the longest, but more recently went to 1 and I guess that's how it goes, huh? Anyway, I'm not sure if I should just let it quietly pass or mark the occasion or what. What did you do or what do you plan to do when your LO weaned/weans? I kind of want to get a gift, but she's not even 3 and I don't know if I want to make a big deal out of it, even though it feels like a big deal to me. I'm totally rambling here, sorry for that. I'm just surprised and emotional about it.

[Ruthla]

I didn't really do anything when any of my kids weaned. It was such a gradual, natural, process with DS that neither one of us felt like it was "a big deal" when it finally happened. Nor did I want to have a "weaning party" and publicise that we'd nursed as long as we did, when it was really a private thing between the two of us by that point.

When my daughters weaned, it was kind of weird because I'd been tandem nursing, then I introduced a bottle to DD2 (bad advice!) at 13mo and by 14mo she was weaned, yet DD1 was still nursing. Then a month later DD1 weaned, and I was quite upset about it (probably a delayed reaction to DD2's premature weaning, which I hadn't reacted to at the time because I was still nursing DD1.) There just wasn't any reason to celebrate, and DD2 was obviously too young to wean since she was still using a bottle, etc.

[bu's mama]

Dd was a little over 4 when she stopped nursing. I had always planned on having some sort of acknowledgment, party, celebrations, maybe a boob cake ...something, when she finished nursing.

But it eventually just faded into the background, she'd nurse once or twice a week, and then down to nothing. There was a lot of turmoil at the time since this was when her father & I were splitting up & I had just gone back to school full time. It just felt more right to let it quietly pass.