i'm so sad! but dd has been pushing my limits. we're in the middle of packing and moving, trying to get dd into K, working 50 hours weeks and dd went from a sweet, cooperative kid to a whining, yelling and ignoring me. today i lost it and i feel horrible.
she wasn't listening all day. we didnt do anything even though the weather was beatiful outside. just went to her swim class and came home. she was throwing toys around, not wanting to get dresses, not wanting to eat. everything was a struggle. i just let it go. telling her that she was not treating me with respect and saying hurtful things. she laughed and ran away.
bedtime was hell. i asked her to shower and she ran away. i asked her over and over, even counted and she just laughed and contuined running away from me. i turned off the shower and said ok no shower. then i asked her to brush her teeth and put on pjs. she said no. i said ok. sat in my bed and started to read my book. she ran around with room madly, trying to talk to me, to get my attention. i ignored her. she kept saying mama is being mean, mama hates me, etc. i told her to go to her room and she stuck her tongue out at me. i snapped. took her to her room, yelled at her ntil she put her pjs on. she asked for my bed and i said no. she started to cry, stomp and yell which got the neighbors pounding on the wall. i told her we wold get in trouble and she said she didnt care as we were moving. i walked away and she followed me to my room. i physically dragged her to her room, kicking and screaming and closed the door. she came out screaming. i told her she needed a time out, something i rarely do. she cont to scream. i told her if she sat in her room quietly i would leave the door open. she agreed and then a minute later she started yelling and saying that i hate her, that she wants my bed.
i told her if she didnt stop that i would spank her which i did noly once before. i counted to 5 and left. she came into my room and started to jump on my bed. she wanted to sleep in my bed, to have a story. i said no stories in mama's room, she screamed and threw herself on the bed. she knows i have a bad back and it's hard for me to carry her, she's 45 lbs. i try to pick her up and she screamed. i threatened to spank and she tried to run away. i smakced her bottom and she whailed. omg, i felt so horrible!!!
she said i hated her and planted herself firmly in my bed. i told her she cold stay if she stopped screaming and no story. she gave up reluctantly. i sat nexct to her and read my book. she looked so sad. i told her that i loved her but didnt like the way she treated me today and that she hurt my feelings. i asked her what was wrong, did mommy say or do something, did daddy say or do something? something else but she refused to talk about it. i rubbed her back to sleep.
what could i have done different? how can i get her to shower or even just go to bed without so much struggle? it's never been such an issue. i cant deal with this...
she wasn't listening all day. we didnt do anything even though the weather was beatiful outside. just went to her swim class and came home. she was throwing toys around, not wanting to get dresses, not wanting to eat. everything was a struggle. i just let it go. telling her that she was not treating me with respect and saying hurtful things. she laughed and ran away.
bedtime was hell. i asked her to shower and she ran away. i asked her over and over, even counted and she just laughed and contuined running away from me. i turned off the shower and said ok no shower. then i asked her to brush her teeth and put on pjs. she said no. i said ok. sat in my bed and started to read my book. she ran around with room madly, trying to talk to me, to get my attention. i ignored her. she kept saying mama is being mean, mama hates me, etc. i told her to go to her room and she stuck her tongue out at me. i snapped. took her to her room, yelled at her ntil she put her pjs on. she asked for my bed and i said no. she started to cry, stomp and yell which got the neighbors pounding on the wall. i told her we wold get in trouble and she said she didnt care as we were moving. i walked away and she followed me to my room. i physically dragged her to her room, kicking and screaming and closed the door. she came out screaming. i told her she needed a time out, something i rarely do. she cont to scream. i told her if she sat in her room quietly i would leave the door open. she agreed and then a minute later she started yelling and saying that i hate her, that she wants my bed.
i told her if she didnt stop that i would spank her which i did noly once before. i counted to 5 and left. she came into my room and started to jump on my bed. she wanted to sleep in my bed, to have a story. i said no stories in mama's room, she screamed and threw herself on the bed. she knows i have a bad back and it's hard for me to carry her, she's 45 lbs. i try to pick her up and she screamed. i threatened to spank and she tried to run away. i smakced her bottom and she whailed. omg, i felt so horrible!!!
she said i hated her and planted herself firmly in my bed. i told her she cold stay if she stopped screaming and no story. she gave up reluctantly. i sat nexct to her and read my book. she looked so sad. i told her that i loved her but didnt like the way she treated me today and that she hurt my feelings. i asked her what was wrong, did mommy say or do something, did daddy say or do something? something else but she refused to talk about it. i rubbed her back to sleep.
what could i have done different? how can i get her to shower or even just go to bed without so much struggle? it's never been such an issue. i cant deal with this...
You said you are moving and busy, hadnt gotten out or done much that day. Sounds like the recipe for an attention needing child.
i guess i should just let it go til we move..
