My 14-year-old is mellow! There have definitely been times when we clashed a bit, and he certainly has his moods and, rarely, emotional days (actually wish it were more! rather than have him be repressed like his dad/my ex). He is very bright and highly gifted. He's just an awesome, amazing person. Usually quite level-headed, very kind. I'm thrilled that I get to have such a cool person as a friend/adult child in a few years. Loving the teen years tho, too.
It's my 8 year old- WOW! He is so sensitive, and has a temper, and cries easily, is really, really melodramatic, but also SOOO creative, imaginative, super-bright, very gifted, totally advanced physically, academically etc. and actually says "I'm feeling very frustrated and angry because...". HIM I am worried about- not because he's going to have real problems or issues, but because he's a lot for me to handle!
I'm reading "Give the Love That Heals" by Harville Hendrix. He, and his wife, Helen Hunt (not the actor) have written some incredible books for couples- but the parenting book is amazing. I've learned how to communicate so much better with my children (and dh).
I love the teen years, so far. I had a terrible adolescence and always envisioned a very positive relationship w/my teens. I'm lucky that I can say I have that positive relationship now. I wonder what it would be like if I had a girl....