Originally Posted by CookAMH
Hey all, just jumping in. I'll try to catch up soon!
I'm feeling kind blah tonight as I'm contemplating the end of Ezra's birth and keep thinking that I think he would have come down my pelvis if I had gotten an epi and rested a while instead of opting for surgery. I know I can't go back, and I can't know what could have been...I regret pushing so soon when I didn't have the urge since it wore me out and wasn't that productive. I just have this thought that I would have been one of those women where the epi did the trick and allowed a vaginal birth relatively quickly after resting. Sigh.
Alicia - that's tough.
I have a friend who's going through a similar situation, although, she's the one who opted for the epi earlier on and did deliver vaginally. But she pushed for three hours total and it's beginning to sound like two of those hours she was not fully dilated so she was badly swollen and ended up with absolutely horrific tearing (her doc said it was the worst he's ever seen).
I had a difficult experience with the birth of my first daughter, and I'm still processing all of it (she just turned three)...but ultimately (as much as I HATE it when women say this because I do believe that birth matters), you have your sweet, precious, healthy boy, you are not injured from your surgery and God willing, you'll have a chance to put to use all you learned the first time around in your second birth (whenever that may happen). I think it's sad that the first birth seems to be such a rough learning curve for so many women (myself included!! I wish I'd known more then!), but, it just is sometimes...
And on a technical note...maybe you did do this, but I learned w/ Chloe's birth that doing DEEP, wide-stance squats will drop that baby way fast.
SHe was up pretty high until DH reminded me I'd put that in my "notes" for him to suggest. Boy did they ever do the trick. I was frightened by how quickly I felt her move down once I started doing those. So...make a note of it for next time.
And go kiss your little baby. He's in your arms and safe and healthy and that does count for oh so much.
And I second Lilstar's recommendation to look into ICAN. I haven't had a c-section, but I've looked at their stuff and it seems like they do some amazing work for moms post-cesarean.
On another front - any of you mommies suffering from migraines? I've had them off and on since I got pg with Chloe, but today, it seems like it's especially awful and with new kinds of pain (stabbing, make-you-wince-and-maybe-drop-stuff kind of pain, in the back of my head). I'm hoping it's just a hormonal thing, but even advil and caffeine (which is typically the magic combo for me) hasn't helped.
Any ideas or advice?