Originally Posted by SandraS
You know what irritates me too, about books and advice like this, is they always bring out the Bible.
I'm a Christian. I'm not a "bible-beating, go to church 6 days a week" Christian, but I know I'm saved and heading up when I die... and I also know that my God doesn't want me hurting my children. I hate that fanatics constantly want to say that a good Christian home would involve beating kids every day. That's so not true. Period. Gimme any quote you want, but people forget that the Bible was written by men, interpreted over and over and over again thru thousands of years, and can still be interpreted many different ways (just like I don't believe being homosexual is a sin - MY God wouldn't deny access to heaven to two men who were good people, were saved and loved Him, and never harmed a fly, but allow a mass murderer who "found Him" on his injection death bed right in, KWIM?).
Anyways, no, people who swear God makes them hit their kids need a pass right to the looney bin.
And now you wonder why people cannot stand anything having to do with the Bible. this is because so many people, like the Pears and Ezzos, do many horrible things in the name of God.
These people--the Ezzos and the Pearls--really and truly twist Scripture. Here is an example of one of their teachings that is contrary to what the Bible teaches:
In the "Prepared Parenting Manual" written by Gary Ezzo as part of the Growing Families International curriculum, these are Gary Ezzo's exact words. He states, “Our heavenly Father’s non-intervention to
His Son’s cry at that moment was the right response. . . it is used to demonstrate that God does
not always respond to cry-cues immediately and without thought.” (Page 142, Prepared Parenting Manual.) What he was talking about here is the crusifixion of Jesus and how God did not respond right away to his cries. This is his rationalization for ignoring a baby's cries.
But what he fails to realize is this:
1. Jesus Christ was a man, not a baby. Because he was grown, he possessed the coping mechanisms to deal with his situation, and a young baby would not have these skills mastered yet. Hence, it is very improper to compare a grown man to an infant, though, they both are human beings and should be treated as such. In the words of Dr. Seuss, "A person's a person no matter how small."
2. There are numerous Scriptures in the Bible that show the importance of comforting an infant, or even an older child, and these Scriptures show that God is always there and would not condone treating a small and helpless infant in such an indignifying manner. They state:
“As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you.” Isaiah 66:13 NIV
“Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you!” Isaiah 49:15 KJV (this Scripture shows how a mother, through whatever means, whether it is a parenting book, an expert, or some other source, can in deed lack compassion on her helpless infant to the point where it becomes very easy to ignore his cries without a second thought. And we see this all the time.)
“The righteous cry out, and the LORD hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. A righteous man may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all.” Psalm 34:17-19 NIV (This is so different than what both the Ezzos and the Pearls teach.)
These people really have it all wrong.
The belief system of the Ezzos and the Pearls is clearly fanatical and extreme to say the least.
That is my two cents worth.