|On a slightly different note, how does one go about effecting change in a situation like this? I guess what I've been thinking about alot is whether or not it is possible to not write off people completely, but instead try to gain a better understanding of why they do what they do, in order to facilitate change for the better.
I don't know if that makes sense, but I hope the basic jist comes across. I wrote them off comletely a few months back when I heard bits and peices of what they taught, but now am interested in the pattern of thought that produces certain lifestyles. Is it possible for people of different practices to approach another out of concern in a gentle manner?
And yes, I feel able to discern good information from what isn't ok in my life without subscribing to everything a group advocates.
Along these lines, I sometimes wonder... we have such lovely ideals for children on MDC, but for people who antagonize or represent the antithesis of our ideals, we say things like they should "rot in jail";their sick and abusive butts should be hauled off to jail"; "they are evil"...
Several of my mother's friends who wholly supported me as a mother, generously gave me tons of baby things to start me off, and were always checking up to see how I was, totally bought into this stuff... they really are well-meaning women and trying to be good mothers. But I can definately see a pattern- they are very "in their head" method-oriented people who are easily swayed by things called "holy", "righteous", "good", without needing much "proof" that it is actually so. Funny how I remember them being all invested in this stuff, and their husbands being pretty aloof to it.
Speaking in waldorfy terms, I would say they have too much form and not enough life- too much contraction and not enough expansion- it is an imbalance within which gives room to such extremes. I think the best "cure" is to expose them to LIFE- things of beauty, truth, freedom- to regain that sense of what IS balanced- because nature, both physical and human, have the capacity, actually the propensity, to seek a state of balance when provided the right environment.
It's funny; my husband thinks Michael Pearl is a great dad because he dropped the external trappings of materialism, headed out to the country, and gave up a steady "income" to be a constant part of his kid's lives and have them by his side all day. He looked past most of the crappy stuff in that book and was motivated to spend more time with the kids, takes them hiking, fishing, even on a 4 day beach vacation by himself when I was too nauseous to drive along with them with morning sickness. Me, on the other hand, I get sweaty and panicky when I look at the title of it. Strange how a person can take the good and completely block out the crap, and another person (myself) who is potentially weaker in makeup gets taken in by some of the lies.