Originally Posted by Erinz
Keep in mind that attachment parenting isn't a set of rules, it's paying attention to your child's cues and responding. I think it's helpful for the large majority of people to have some ideas of what that might look like, but we're all different so it looks different for different people. You ARE attachment parenting if you are doing what makes your baby happy instead of trying to get them to do what makes you happy. kwim?
Well, and ideally, with AP, what makes your baby happy is ALSO what makes you happy, because you're following your instincts and don't have any of the "mama guilt" that some mainstream parents seem to suffer from, and you're also getting all the good hormones that come from loving on your baby and being with him/her all the time.
All babies have the same needs: to be held (worn), to be near their parents 24 hours a day, to be fed on cue. Some babies are more insistent about having these needs met as they would have been thousands of years ago (i.e. without strollers, pacifiers, baby swings, cribs), and some babies are more laid back about it and will happily accept a substitute. But that doesn't mean that their needs are any less real or significant than the babies who refuse strollers, pacifiers, swings, cribs, etc.
We practice AP because it makes our babies happy AND it makes us happy. If there ends up being some added benefit of more secure, better-adjusted kids, then that's just an added bonus. We don't practice AP because of anything we've read, but rather just because it feels right.