Originally Posted by momtoluke
Hmmm, I don't think it's sad that a woman would choose well before she's had a baby to have an epidural. It's her choice to make and maybe your assertion is correct in that all women do not value the journey that is childbirth. So what?
Good question.. yes, so what? why do I care & why do I say it's "sad"?
Well, first, How can you decide you "do not value the journey that is childbirth" before you've even been there? I dont' get it. Growing up, my Mom always told me, "Don't knock it until you've tried it."
ALthough, I totally understand about abuse survivors - that is
a reason I hadn't thought of.
But, the biggest thing is that, going back to my list in the OP:
1. It's simply not true
that epidurals are risk free.
2. It's simply not true that birth is always horribly awfully painful. I know I'm not the only Mama who says, "Yeah, it was painful, but the majority was just cramps- it was only really bad in transition for about 90 minutes & even then I could cope, had a break between ctrx, etc."
3. There is value in feeling childbirth!
As others said- it's basic physiology about the feedback mechanisms, the high, etc.
So it makes me sad that people believe falsehoods.
(Yes, I know many women are fully informed when deciding on the epi in advance, but it seems more common that many believe those above 3 falsehoods.)
The other thing is that: I feel like epidurals are a "gateway" to fully medicalized childbirth - which too often is damaging to both Mama & baby.
It just seems that too often it leads to a whole cascade of interventions that are damaging all around & that's sad.
The advanced, automatic, pre-labor desire of an epi for me is also demonstrative of the whole sick cultural perception of birth
--> it's horrific, awful & dangerous & we need to place ourselves in the hands of Docs to take care of it, the way we would place ourselves in a docs' hands when we need surgery.
That's another part of why I care... I feel like if people question the epidural. they may start to question all the other medical 'management' of birth... which needs to start happening more frequently so we can get evidenced based care!
I.e. taking the viewpoint that: "Hey, maybe the pain level can
be manageable & if it stays at a "Manageable" level, I'll forgo the epi since it does
But opting for an epi means you relinquish some control of your birth experience - and handing over full control to your HCPs in America today... well... let's just say
: (Of course, the epi itself isn't to blame here or anything, I'm just sayin' - it's the atrocious whole state of maternity care in America that I care about.)